In need of solutions.

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    Aug 05, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    I know this problems comes up a million times, but hear me out. I have a small penis, 5 inches or so erect, and I feel too inadequate to let a guy do anything with it. Now don’t tell me any of the feel good, sugar coated “Your average” stuff (average is 6.5), because even if I was, the guys I’ve been with have been up in the 7-8 range in size, making me puny. Even that aside, 5 inches is on the far periphery of average anyway, almost in the certified tiny category.
    So I’m a bottom of course, not out of preference, but out of natural condemnation. I will never top, since doing so would be degrading and humiliating to me, but I’ve encountered a major problem. Not topping isn’t my only hassle in a sexual relationship. I don’t really want a guy to touch my dick at all. I’m more than willing to bottom and pleasure him all night long, but I’d be ashamed of myself if he tried to pleasure me. Furthermore, if I let him pleasure me, I probably would be too nervous and embarrassed to get or keep and erection. This of course makes having a relationship very difficult, since all guys want to pleasure their partners.
    My only options are to be celibate or devise a way of manipulating myself into getting an erection and keeping it throughout sex. Celibacy isn’t likely going to happen, so what do I do? Getting high or drunk, or taking pills might make me loopy enough to get aroused, but those aren’t healthy. I doubt I can muster false confidence often enough to perform, so what other solutions are there? And please don’t give me the “It’s the motion in the ocean” speech or try to dispute my size; it won’t help, rather make me more depressed. Also, my pleasure and happiness isn’t relevant when it comes to solutions, my only desire is to satisfy my partner. Thank you!
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    Aug 05, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    Brettski saidI know this problems comes up a million times, but hear me out. I have a small penis, 5 inches or so erect, and I feel too inadequate to let a guy do anything with it. Now don’t tell me any of the feel good, sugar coated “Your average” stuff (average is 6.5), because even if I was, the guys I’ve been with have been up in the 7-8 range in size, making me puny. Even that aside, 5 inches is on the far periphery of average anyway, almost in the certified tiny category.
    So I’m a bottom of course, not out of preference, but out of natural condemnation. I will never top, since doing so would be degrading and humiliating to me, but I’ve encountered a major problem. Not topping isn’t my only hassle in a sexual relationship. I don’t really want a guy to touch my dick at all. I’m more than willing to bottom and pleasure him all night long, but I’d be ashamed of myself if he tried to pleasure me. Furthermore, if I let him pleasure me, I probably would be too nervous and embarrassed to get or keep and erection. This of course makes having a relationship very difficult, since all guys want to pleasure their partners.
    My only options are to be celibate or devise a way of manipulating myself into getting an erection and keeping it throughout sex. Celibacy isn’t likely going to happen, so what do I do? Getting high or drunk, or taking pills might make me loopy enough to get aroused, but those aren’t healthy. I doubt I can muster false confidence often enough to perform, so what other solutions are there? And please don’t give me the “It’s the motion in the ocean” speech or try to dispute my size; it won’t help, rather make me more depressed. Also, my pleasure and happiness isn’t relevant when it comes to solutions, my only desire is to satisfy my partner. Thank you!

    Hey Brettski
    I am just about 6 inches hard and I would love to be with youand worhip your nice cock. Are you cut or uncut? Email my profile so we can talk off this forum. Don't be "hard" on yourself. Just be hard.
  • Hothouse

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    Aug 05, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    I met this hot guy, got to know him and there was a sexual attraction between the both of us.
    We went out, and ended up in bed. It was going great, getting into some hot sex, he was going down on me, I was naked, but he still had on his briefs.
    I kept reaching to get to his cock, but he would turn, or move so I couldn't get to it.
    I finally caught on that he didn't want me to go there - but I finally took the upper hand and got his briefs off.
    OK, his cock was small, extremely so. I didn't say a word, I reacted by flipping around, so we could 69 and taking his cock in my mouth.
    I don't give a damn about cock size, big or small, who cares as long as it works - and it belongs to a man that finds me attractive too.
    Don't worry about something you can't do anything about. There are guys out there like me that are more concerned about the man and not the size of his endowment. If you meet a guy that's put off by the size of your dick, he isn't worth any more of your time.
  • Muscmasmat

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    Aug 05, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    Brettski, you said "Also, my pleasure and happiness isn’t relevant when it comes to solutions, my only desire is to satisfy my partner. Thank you! "

    Guess what. Your partner might get off pleasuring YOU. I personally find guys with smaller penises really hot (in addition to average and large ones). And getting them hard and making them cum is VERY hot for me. There are probably others just like me. Thus you are in fact NOT satisfying US by not letting us touch your cock.

    As far as assuming the bottom role, also guess what. SOME of us cannot take a huge penis, but prefer a more average one when bottoming. One of the hottest guys I had fun with was smaller than you, but he really knew how to use it. He was about 4 inches and so narrow that he had to use a custom rubber because the normal ones were too large. But he was a body builder and had great muscles. Very hot. Big turn on. Your choice of bottoming or topping should not be determined by your dick size. Of course, just like everything in sexual attraction (body type, hair color, etc.) you will run into guys that are not turned on by your size of dick. That is part of life. But there are also those that will find you attractive.

    You don't mention your build, but maybe working out and having a hot body will add to your attractiveness - not to compensate for your dick size (nothing there to compensate for), but just to ADD to your attractiveness.

    You have other issues besides dick size, if you will not let another man pleasure you. You need to find a way to get over this and seek out those that find you attractive the way you are. And let them give you pleasure. SHARING in giving mutual pleasure is a turn-on for many guys.

    With the internet, sometimes we get the impression that everyone has a large penis. This is just not the case. There are a lot of guys that are just as average as you. And they are enjoying a hot sex life and are in meaningful relations.






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    Aug 06, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    Im thin, toned, some muscle, a good butt apparently from what guys say. I give up. Sex will always be humiliating for me. I'll just try my hardest to satisfy my partner. Then, when he's not around, I can sulk and sob about how pathetic my parts are. Be the tiny, worthless embarassment that shuts up and sits in the corner. About all I can do with this nothing of mine.
  • bmoney1

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    Aug 06, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    Number one, the solution must begin with you. A change in attitude for starters, and self aceptance for seconds. Most guys DO NOT care about cock size. Especially if you're in bed for the right reasons. Sure, a hook up is bound to be interested in that.. but a guy you've gone out with a few times or have been dating, bet they could care less. Do not worry about what others think- really. It will get you nowhere in life. Self loathing with set you back even further. You need to accept yorself for who you are, and I promise you like 95% of guys probably won't even notice. You're making an issue out of a non-issue. If you guys agree back me up.
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    Aug 06, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    I was considering buying a penis extender. Apparently tests have shown it works.

    Having a positive attitude when ur junk is puny isnt realistic. Like telling an impoverished hobo to open champagne and live it up.
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    Aug 06, 2011 6:40 PM GMT
    Using those vacuum pumps, "extenders," etc is like taking a placebo that you're told will cure a medical condition. They're cheesy worthless gadgets which could damage your stuff while doing nothing to build size.
    I love getting with guys who aren't packing much because they take head the BEST. My scientific theory is that nerve endings are closer together in smaller dicks. But whatever the reason is, as skilled a sucker as I am (if I do say so myself) and with as many loud and writhing responses as I give myself credit for, it still never fails. If a dude drops his drawers to reveal a thimble or a short pencil I'm all over it. And he's howling as he climbs the wall, beyond what his more heavily hung counterparts do. No exceptions. One of my favorite fuck buddies in my entire life sported maybe three thick inches, if that, but DAMN did we have fun. He would've been a keeper had he not decided to stick with the ladies. icon_sad.gif
    No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
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    Aug 06, 2011 8:47 PM GMT
    My favorite FB is a cute young guy whose dick is probably small than yours. No matter. He's a nice guy, a good kisser, and game for whatever comes his way. He would top me if I would let him, but only my BF does that. ;-)

    We also have a very close friend who is huge. It's fun to look at and play with and guys love it but in the end it's almost too big to much anything with. He's a bottom.

    No matter what you have, there will be guys who won't like it but honestly, everyone has something that someone won't like. If you work on feeling better about yourself, all will be well.

    If you're really worried about erection issues, go to your doctor and get some samples of Viagra, Levitra or Cialis and try them out. A nice hard dick is a nice hard dick, no matter what the size. icon_wink.gif