My little sister thinks gays are "weird" and that we are "sinners"

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    Aug 06, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    I grew up in a Catholic home, and while I've freed myself from the oppression and blind hate, my little sister hasn't. Today, while watching Katy Perry's "Firework" video she (age 11) made a comment about the boys kissing. I asked her what was so bad about it, and she said it was weird. Then I said it's just different, and they are only doing what feels right. She then went on to say very quietly that it's wrong and is sin. I told her I don't agree. She asked if I was gay, I asked "what if I were?". She left the topic after that.

    I hate the fact that my mother, who knows about my attraction to men, is allowing her daughter to grow to despise something she doesn't understand. My mother doesn't understand either. Anytime I bring the POSSIBILITY of me being gay up she gets all biblical. It's annoying. I can only hope that someday my little sister will be better educated....not likely, seeing as she's THRILLED to be going to the Catholic middle school next year.

    Anyone have similar experiences?
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    Aug 06, 2011 12:57 AM GMT
    I must say. I know what it feels like to have someone very religious in the family and trying to come out to them. My father speed dialed is psychologist friend. Oh well. I, too, was raised catholic. The fact remains is that most religious families are very closed-minded until one within the circle turns out to be that which they supposedly "hate". Your sister is still very young and impressionable, try to have some conversations with her, and try to emphasize the bit about God loving everyone, and as such she is not greater than him, so she should try loving everyone, too. Try to be a good older sibling so, when the time comes for you to come out to her, she doesn't pull away.

    She'll eventually come around to accepting gay people as just people.
  • iGator

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    Punch her....she'll come around.

    j/k
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    iGator saidPunch her....she'll come around.

    j/k

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    You better hope she turns out to be a lesbian or she'll be joining Westboro Hate Church!
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    I grew in that enviroment as well. Strict Catholics can be hysterical about the perceived evils of consensual adult homosexuality. They rant and rave on the bully pulpit, judging, etc. Meanwhile, when father O'Malley brandishes his genitals (fictional name), they conveniently ignore that. When a real evil is present, they are too spineless to act on it.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    She's an 11 year old child. Educate her on the need to be open minded, flexible and open to others lifestyle and needs. She'll be better for it.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    RumbleStud saidI grew up in a Catholic home, and while I've freed myself from the oppression and blind hate, my little sister hasn't. Today, while watching Katy Perry's "Firework" video she (age 11) made a comment about the boys kissing. I asked her what was so bad about it, and she said it was weird. Then I said it's just different, and they are only doing what feels right. She then went on to say very quietly that it's wrong and is sin. I told her I don't agree. She asked if I was gay, I asked "what if I were?". She left the topic after that.

    I hate the fact that my mother, who knows about my attraction to men, is allowing her daughter to grow to despise something she doesn't understand. My mother doesn't understand either. Anytime I bring the POSSIBILITY of me being gay up she gets all biblical. It's annoying. I can only hope that someday my little sister will be better educated....not likely, seeing as she's THRILLED to be going to the Catholic middle school next year.

    Anyone have similar experiences?


    My Mom and sister were arguing about gay marriage. My mom believes it is a sin and my sis has no problem with two people marring each other. My family is very religous so I know how you feel.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    or just shake her...

    j/k
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    I know where you are coming from man and i myself am going through the same faze with my family who as far as i know is extremely religious especially my Mother who does not like the fact that i am bisexual and nags about it with a bible every chance that she gets saying men and men together is a sin and The Devil. It can be annoying and repetitive but the only thing that i can do is hope that one day my family comes around and accepts the fact that this is who i am and i won't change it.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    Edward22 saidI know where you are coming from man and i myself am going through the same faze with my family who as far as i know is extremely religious especially my Mother who does not like the fact that i am bisexual and nags about it with a bible every chance that she gets saying men and men together is a sin and The Devil. It can be annoying and repetitive but the only thing that i can do is hope that one day my family comes around and accepts the fact that this is who i am and i won't change it.
    For the advice on the little sister she's 11 right which is still quite a young age so she doesn't necessary understand the whole being gay thing and i believe she will over time when she gets older.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    Last night I watched For The Bible Tells Me So. It was interesting, put it under their pillows :0



    I'm sorry man, I hope they come around.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidShe's an 11 year old child. Educate her on the need to be open minded, flexible and open to others lifestyle and needs. She'll be better for it.


    He still gets to punch her though right?
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    Does she watch glee by any chance?

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    How odd: I was raised as a Catholic and remember being instructed in a Catholic school that homosexuality itself was not a sin but homosexual sex was. The explanation was that sex without the intent of procreating was simply wrong and so gay sex and Pre-marital straight sex (assuming getting pregnant was not desired) were equally wrong for the same reason. I remember clearly, though, the suggestion that homosexuality was fine as long as the person was celibate. My dad was pretty religious and I just don't recall him ever ranting about homosexuality being "evil" or a "sin" and he certainly quoted from the bible enough. Seems odd to me to hear of other Catholics doing it.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    Tell your sister to either STFU or come out of the closet.

    Clearly the only reason she's upset is she's afraid to admit she likes pussy.
  • DrobUA

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:55 AM GMT
    Oh the catholics... always on there knees...

    I agree with her though.. gays are fuckin weird.. and I don't know anyone thats not a "sinner". Homeboy jesus loved the juice... his BAC was so high wine comes out instead of blood.

    On a more serious note: she is 11 and all her peers are afraid of being different and it's natural to think everything outside her realm of normal is weird and wrong. She will grow up.
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    Aug 06, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    Why don't you, your mother and sister watch "Prayers for Bobby” movie?
  • Vaughn

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    My sister had a similar attitude. It was resolved when she left an article from 17 magazine about a sister with a gay brother. The sister in the article decided for herself that there was nothing wrong with her brother and there is something wrong with a God who would hurt families. We grew-up in an Atheistic family and my sister found God on her own. She left her church because they wouldn't stop calling and harassing me to absolve my sinful nature. She lost God when she learned about Gods "good" works on the Earth and the Christian reign of terror. If there is room for reason it will triumph.
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    I was raised catholic in a very conservative family, so that part of your story I know backwards and forwards.

    Given that you are 11 years older than your little sister, I feel that you have a good opportunity to play a strong role in helping her to become an open and accepting person with critical thinking, who thinks for herself rather than adopting the mindset of any particular dogma. Don't leave it to your mother or the nuns at catholic school.

    Sure it's "weird" to an 11-year-old that two guys like to kiss. It's probably also weird that anyone at all likes to kiss at that age. Most guys don't like to kiss guys. So what! It's great that life is full of a broad spectrum of individuals doing all kinds of things to express their love and affection for another person.

    So take this chance to think about all the cool things in this world that you can expose your little sister to. Then do it. Play the role in her life as the one she can turn to when she doesn't understand things. Be the one who opens her horizons. You both will benefit.
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    Live and let live.
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    Talk to her before it's too late !
  • calibro

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    Aug 06, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    just convert her like all the heteros say we can... but umm. yeah, you might consider coming out to her (one day). you'd be surprised how much people change from when they're 11.
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:37 AM GMT


    She will come around or be an outcast in high school. Most educated students in high school could care less thesae days who is with who and what they are doing

    As far as saying the Bible says it's a sin we all know it was written over a period of 300 years by men that had an agenda

    God had nothing to do with it. When someone says it's a sin and the Bible says its wrong they are just for a loss of words

    Jesus never mentioned homosexuality

    She will come around and possibly might find a hot GF!
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    You should tell her about all of the other 'sins' the bible points out. Cutting hair (Leviticus 19:27), wearing any clothes made of different materials (e.g. jeans and a t-shirt) (Leviticus 19:19), growing a vegetable garden with more than one kind of vegetable (Leviticus 19:19), anyone with a disability/"defect" (you could even argue anyone with glasses) going to church is sin (Leviticus 21:17-18. ), that if she's ever angrily said she "hates" your parents she should be put to death (Leviticus 20:9).
    And then you can also point out that for the first 1500 years of Christianity, marriage was deemed morally inferior to celibacy. So if your parents are married, that's a strike against them. And if they're divorced, that's another one, and in Jesus' eyes, that's a deadly sin icon_razz.gif