Unsure what to do...

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    Aug 06, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    I am a closeted bi and today I was talking to a 'friend' at work about his sex life, He said he never uses protection and we got talking about sexual health and we got onto gay sex and he came out with..."I'M NOT DOWN WITH THAT SHIT, IT ISN'T RIGHT" icon_mad.gif and then went on to say that he was brought up to be like it by his father and the conversation didn't go on much further.

    I just don't know what to do about the situation, any advise?

    Rich.
  • starboard5

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    Aug 06, 2011 3:10 AM GMT
    The fact that he doesn't use protection (and I'm assuming he's not in a monogamous relationship) is an even bigger clue to his idiocy than his homophobia. Why would you associate with this person if you don't have to?
  • mybud

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    Aug 06, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    You do nothing....Sex is a private subject...It's not professional to talk about sexual subjects at work....Second...His reaction shows he's uncomfortable talking about gay issues....It doesn't mean you can't still be friends but there's limitations to that friendship....BUD
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    Aug 06, 2011 3:54 AM GMT
    The lady doth protest too much, methinks.
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    Aug 06, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    Nothing. dont talk about sex. done and done.
  • bmoney1

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    Aug 06, 2011 5:06 AM GMT
    mybud saidYou do nothing....Sex is a private subject...It's not professional to talk about sexual subjects at work....Second...His reaction shows he's uncomfortable talking about gay issues....It doesn't mean you can't still be friends but there's limitations to that friendship....BUD



    So much truth. For real.
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    "Sex is a private subject"...He is one of those that brags.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 06, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    Sexysam22 said"Sex is a private subject"...He is one of those that brags.



    Tell him that having unsafe sex is nothing to brag about. 'Nuff said.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 06, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    Sounds like he isn't terribly educated, flexible or doesn't express himself very well. If it were me, I probably wouldn't ever have a conversation along those lines again.
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    Aug 06, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    When do men NOT talk about sex? "Private subject" my azz. icon_razz.gif
    But what the one guy said upthread is right. "I don't do it because (I'm homophobic)" is way different than saying "That's not the team I play for." It makes no sense to waste time trying to get in the pants of somebody like that. They could well be making connections for DL fun anyway. As for being friends, you have to realize that it'll take a lot of gradual attitude adjusting before you can be comfortable outing yourself to somebody who clearly has issues. You'd start by saying either that you have friends who happen to be Gay (cliché, I know) or that you don't see what the big deal is. The key is to put it right out there that anti-Gay attitudes have no place in your world. More hets are getting to be at least "tolerant" than ever before, so that shouldn't give away anything that you're not ready to share yet.
    But ask yourself, is he really worth the effort? If you only see each other on the job and live separate lives beyond that I'd tend to think not.