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    Aug 06, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    When I go to a gay club with my boyfriend, I like to walk around to see if there's any of my friends in the club. If they are there I want to say hello, that's the reason I go to clubs and bars in the first place, to meet up with my single friends and catch up for the lost times I have been hanging out with my boyfriend. Btw, not all people who go to clubs and bars are out looking for a hookup, they go there to dance and meet up with some friends so don't think clubs and bars are sleazy scenes. I don't like it when "straight-acting" gays proclaim, "Oh, I'm not into THAT whole gay club and bars scene,...(hence, I would be less likely to out you in public with my suppressed closetted fear.)

    Any way, I would introduce my boyfriend if they haven't met my bf. But when it comes to dancing or excessive hovering around, I don't like it, e.g. when I go to the bathroom, I don't want my boyfriend following me.

    However, when it comes to dancing, I don't want to dance with my boyfriend. First of all, he can't dance at all. Not that I'm embarrassed by his dancing. Obviously, he is enjoying himself and I also want to see that he's enjoying the time. For me, I like to enjoy myself as well, dancing to the music as I like. So, I don't want him behind me, touching me up and grinding me. Personally, grinding is tacky. I don't understand the American's mentality of grinding at clubs. It's so pre-historic and ape like. You don't find that kind of display in clubs in Europe or Asia.

    So my boyfriend leave me alone, and I don't worry about my boyfriend being snatched up by another guy. I tell my boyfriend that "Look, it's not you that I don't want to dance with, it's just I want to dance alone. It doesn't mean I want to dance with some other guys as well." After that, he said the sweetest things, "It's okay, I'm not worried because at the end of the night, I know you are coming home to me." awww...

    I have noticed that my previous boyfriend said the similar thing to me as well....

    THAT's what CONFIDENT MEN say to their boyfriends. Any thoughts???

    (Sorry for the long rant)
  • Springer70

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    Aug 06, 2011 4:49 PM GMT
    There's a song from the 60's

    "Save the Last Dance for Me" is the title of a popular song written by Doc Pomus and Mort Shuman, first recorded in 1960 by Ben E. King with The Drifters.

    In the song, the narrator tells his lover she is free to mingle and socialize throughout the evening, but to make sure to save him the dance at the end of the night. The song is likely based on the personal experience of songwriter Pomus, who had polio and used crutches to get around.  His wife, however, was a Broadway actress and dancer. The song gives his perspective of telling his wife to have fun dancing, but reminds her who will be taking her home and "in whose arms you're gonna be."