chat with this guy on grindr and agreed to meet, but then he cancelld again and again...

  • michaelsloan

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    Aug 07, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    hey, RJs, i will first talk about my situation here. this guy talked to me on grindr last friday. the moment i saw his pic, i knew we have talked on a dating site before through email. but then somehow the emails stopped. i guess he also knew me, so after some conversations, we exchanged cell numbers and texted each other.

    we agreed to meet last sunday, but then he said he had headache and cancelled 4 hours before the date. i was fine with that. so on monday, he tested me again and said we could do it in the week. so i tried to keep in touch with him and agreed on friday at 7pm. and then yesterday (friday), he said he was caught up at work after i texted him at 6pm to ask where we will meet and he changed again to suggest to do it on weekend. so i proposed to meet on saturday, today, but he didn't really said yes or no. so here it is. I saw he logged on grindr for about 2 hours today but he didn't talk to me at all or tested me either.

    so has he lost interest or what? i mean, if not interested at all, just let me know. the first two times, i went through so much to get ready, but he literally cancelled the last minute. i think, he should at least have the courtesy to tell me or say sorry.

    I am really angry. maybe it is not worth it. actually i am a student now. so my focus is on education instead of getting into relationship or stuff. but what he did pissed me off. I am chinese, and came to canada a year ago. can i ask if this is the usual canadian way to show people that they are not interested when clearly they are interested before since he approached me in the first place?

    thanks. i just wanna know the truth about the dating world. i am not judging. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 07, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    I would move on. I do agree that if he isn't interested in you he should just say so. Lots of people think because it's the internet that are under no obligation to explain their actions. I personally would rather be bluntly told by someone that they just aren't interested than too be left wondering wtf happened.
  • michaelsloan

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    Aug 07, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    atljoe75 saidI would move on. I do agree that if he isn't interested in you he should just say so. Lots of people think because it's the internet that are under no obligation to explain their actions. I personally would rather be bluntly told by someone that they just aren't interested than too be left wondering wtf happened.


    thx. I would move on. it is just that i never expect things would go like this. he is 35, more than 10 years older than me, and he worked at goverment. so i never thought he would be so immature and such a coward. and the most weirdest thing is that he approached to me.

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    Aug 07, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    He sounds like a douchebag. Let it go. You're better off without him anyway. There are other guys out there. You'll find a better match for you.

    I was really mad in my thread earlier in the day, also in this dating section, but I thought, whatever. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be. I'm not gonna trying to make fate happen. I'm gonna let it happen.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 07, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    First I think that is a shitty way to meet anyone!!

    second after he cancelled the first time you should not have contacted him back.
  • michaelsloan

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    Aug 07, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    waimea saidHe sounds like a douchebag. Let it go. You're better off without him anyway. There are other guys out there. You'll find a better match for you.

    I was really mad in my thread earlier in the day, also in this dating section, but I thought, whatever. If it's meant to be then it's meant to be. I'm not gonna trying to make fate happen. I'm gonna let it happen.


    thx. wish u could find someone too.
  • michaelsloan

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    Aug 07, 2011 4:50 AM GMT
    MikemikeMike saidFirst I think that is a shitty way to meet anyone!!

    second after he cancelled the first time you should not have contacted him back.


    maybe. i don't really have much time to go out and meet people. so internet might be the best way for me now.

    and after he cancelled the first date, he contacted first actually, that is why i thought that he was still interested.
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    Aug 07, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    michaelsloan said
    MikemikeMike saidFirst I think that is a shitty way to meet anyone!!

    second after he cancelled the first time you should not have contacted him back.


    maybe. i don't really have much time to go out and meet people. so internet might be the best way for me now.

    and after he cancelled the first date, he contacted first actually, that is why i thought that he was still interested.



    Perhaps he just felt bad because he cancelled the first time. It doesn't mean he's interested. I think he isn't. I think the man for you will be very clear and very determined to let you know you're important.

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    Aug 07, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
    michaelsloan saidthx. I would move on. it is just that i never expect things would go like this. he is 35, more than 10 years older than me, and he worked at goverment. so i never thought he would be so immature and such a coward. and the most weirdest thing is that he approached to me.



    Oh man, the more I get introduced to the "gay community" (for lack of a better word) the more I realise that this "community" (again lack of a better word) is a pretty hopeless place to be, most of the guys I've met weren't worth the effort to even get outta bed to meet, let alone shower and try to look presentable for and by most I mean 95% so far and that other 5% well, I wont say!

    I think accept it, the guys a twat.
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    Aug 07, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    Its not a Canadian thing, but more of 'internet mentality' of no obligation..Its better that you move on, focus on whats more important, which is your education.
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    Aug 07, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    4 words: He's not into you.

    Sorry dude - it sucks. We're all led on sometimes. Move on.
  • michaelsloan

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    Aug 07, 2011 6:04 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    michaelsloan said
    MikemikeMike saidFirst I think that is a shitty way to meet anyone!!

    second after he cancelled the first time you should not have contacted him back.


    maybe. i don't really have much time to go out and meet people. so internet might be the best way for me now.

    and after he cancelled the first date, he contacted first actually, that is why i thought that he was still interested.



    Perhaps he just felt bad because he cancelled the first time. It doesn't mean he's interested. I think he isn't. I think the man for you will be very clear and very determined to let you know you're important.

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    -Doug


    thx. i think i still need to learn the art of dating..
  • michaelsloan

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    Aug 07, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidIts not a Canadian thing, but more of 'internet mentality' of no obligation..Its better that you move on, focus on whats more important, which is your education.


    good to know. i might turn into meeting people in real life instead of online..
  • smudgedude

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    Aug 07, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    yeah, ditch the dude and do it fast
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    Aug 07, 2011 10:34 PM GMT



    Advice: Stop meeting/ chatting with people on GRINDR... crappiest App ever.