Do you guys relate to straight men better than you relate to women?

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    Aug 08, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    I originally thought that a lot of gay guys would relate to women better than they relate to men (people always say that women love having gay friends) and I'm starting to have my doubts. I have to say that I don't relate to any of my female friends and that their attitude towards guys is naive and that they get into ridiculous relationships. It seems like they find the worst guys possible and then they constantly complain about how bad guys are treating them. They also make no effort to find decent guys that they get along with and if they do find a guy like that they'll probably shut him down because they like assholes. Most of the guys they go for aren't attractive either. I know that there are a lot of women who aren't like this, but the majority of the girls that I've been around are in the same situation. My straight male friends are a lot more selective about the women they get into relationships with and they seem to have a lot less tolerance for women who are stuck up. Has anyone else noticed this or are my friends just abnormalities?
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    Aug 08, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    I'm lucky to be blessed with straight friends that aren't overly concerned with typical male gender role behavior. Some of my straight guy friends are actually on the feminine side, but I love them for being who they are and not what others want them to be. They are very intellectual, loving, caring, and fun. I also happen to be blessed with roughly the same amount of women who are just as intellectual, loving, caring, and fun.

    I cannot say that I really have noticed any particularly alarming different between the two sets of friends. Then again, I'm not one to think of separating my friends into different groups. They are simply my friends, regardless of their gender, and I love them dearly.
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:06 AM GMT
    Do these guys talk to you about your life, though? Do they ask you about your boyfriend, or potential boyfriend? I'm sure they talk about females, but are you given the same respect? Cause if not, those aren't friends. I know straight men are Gods on this website, I don't know why.
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    trainhard2011 saidDo these guys talk to you about your life, though? Do they ask you about your boyfriend, or potential boyfriend? I'm sure they talk about females, but are you given the same respect? Cause if not, those aren't friends. I know straight men are Gods on this website, I don't know why.

    Yes they do. They actually became even more interested in my life when I came out to them and they had a lot of questions for me.
  • trainhard2011

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    Aug 08, 2011 4:13 AM GMT
    If you're telling the truth, that's great. Those are friends.
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:51 AM GMT
    joe122 saidDo you guys relate to straight men better than you relate to women?


    Yes, yes, and yes. Wait, what? There was only one question?
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    Aug 08, 2011 6:23 AM GMT
    I've always had problems in this area. I'm pretty sexist, which isn't a good quality for sure...and makes it difficult to be remotely objective. I've spent very little time with girls in general. While I'm more emotional than the average guy, sometimes I find their drama/emotionality/pettiness annoying.

    On the other hand, I feel like they're willing to go a bit emotionally deeper in friendships than most guys are. I'm the kinda person who hates superficial friendships where you just go out and get hammered every time you chill with a friend.

    So I guess I'm conflicted. I've had a lot more experience with guys and relate to them pretty decently, but before I say I relate better to them, I should probably get more experience hanging out with girls. I've always felt a little intimidated by them, probably because of the few I HAVE been around (like my sister and my mom, to name a couple :shockicon_smile.gif.
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    Aug 08, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    I relate to houseplants. Who's my ficus baby? You're my ficus baby!
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    Aug 08, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    I barely notice woman exist anymore, so not challenging to manipulate; much more fun with straight guys.
  • rnch

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    Aug 08, 2011 10:25 AM GMT
    i've jokingly called my bf "the str8est gay man that i know" more than once.

    once his boner goes down and his clothes are back on he reverts back to what i call his "str8 man behavior".
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    Aug 08, 2011 10:30 AM GMT
    I have straight male friends, but I can't say we are really close friends. My best friends are girls and gay men. I definitely relate to women a lot more than I do to either gay or straight men.

    The women around me are exactly what I want my friends to be like - smart, confident, ambitious, sexy, funny, loyal.... : ) And I can't say the same about the men in my life. Straight or gay.
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    Aug 08, 2011 10:35 AM GMT
    Yes
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    Aug 08, 2011 11:08 AM GMT
    Yes, I always have, and I usually relate better to lesbians then I do to gay men. Probably explains why I was single until the age of 37!
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    Aug 08, 2011 11:09 AM GMT
    This isn't the first time women have been described like this in the forums. All I can say is, maybe you need to hang around with different women. It doesn't sound like they're crap ladies, just sounds like they're crap people.
  • alphatop

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    Aug 08, 2011 11:24 AM GMT
    My communication is much better with opposite sex, and most of my friends are females, That doesn't mean that I necessarily relate to them, I just feel more relaxed around them.
  • rnch

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    Aug 08, 2011 11:57 AM GMT
    so joe...are you saying/suggesting that, as gay men, we should be more "feminine" and relate more to women than men...only because we are gay?


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    Aug 08, 2011 2:44 PM GMT
    Most of my friends are gay men with the exception of my straight male clients who are really cool and always engage a mutual conversation about each others personal life to which I hang with outside of work.

    My female friends are just as cool who mostly have a relationship already. There are some single ones that I won't go into detail about as to why I think they are single.

    My answer to your question leads to this, I find I get along better with guys because they are just very chill. Women tend to manipulate men and loose them selves in a relationship. Sometimes I refer to this as CWR(crazy women syndrome) they have been raised to be a princess and tend to act like a diva. Not all women.

    Lesbians are just mean and bitter because they don't have a dick and everyone else is getting dick. For example... Gay men get dick and have one, straight guys have a dick, straight women get dick. Lesbians just have to suffer of penis envy and thus just have a mean attitude cause they get tired of scissoring and eventually wanna be dominant over their partner and can't fuck them.
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    Aug 08, 2011 2:46 PM GMT
    I relate better to men. Whether it be sexually or intellectually. Bitches be crazy.
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    Aug 08, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidI relate better to men. Whether it be sexually or intellectually. Bitches be crazy.


    That too!!
  • davidsticky69

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    Aug 08, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    I swing both ways icon_biggrin.gif


    I relate best to food though. And so does it to me icon_redface.gif
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Aug 08, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    Hell yeah I do. I am still very much a man thank u.
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    I relate better to other gay men and my straight male friends, who are genuinely interested in who I date or am sleeping with and are very loyal.

    I've said it before

    "Bitches be shoppin'!!... Bitches be shoppin'!"
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    rnch saidso joe...are you saying/suggesting that, as gay men, we should be more "feminine" and relate more to women than men...only because we are gay?


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    No I'm actually saying the opposite. I used to think that gay men relate to women more, but now I feel like I was wrong and I was wondering if you guys agree.
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    Aug 08, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    antonomad saidMy communication is much better with opposite sex, and most of my friends are females, That doesn't mean that I necessarily relate to them, I just feel more relaxed around them.

    I'm glad you mentioned that because I'm the same way. If I'm hanging out with new people I always find myself talking to women more than men.
  • Musicman91

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    Aug 08, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
    I feel more comfortable around women and have more female friends but I don;'t relate to them for the most part. I have a few straight guy friends but most of the straight guys I know have no personality. I have tried to be friends with them but they just don't seem interested in being friends. There aren't too many gay guys where I live or atleast I haven't met any /=