What of Lifestyle?

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    Aug 08, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I've been following some of the threads around here. One thing that struck me is that lots of people here aren't afraid to pursue their passions and dreams like travelling, living in another place etc. But the culture where I come from is very regimented and almost all my peers set their sights on pragmatic dreams. I have two sets of mutually exclusive (i think) goals:

    1. Travel the world, and eventually settle down to do community work and find new interests.
    2. Trying for a local scholarship and Ivy education, then getting a high-paying job and enjoying a high life with good social status (i.e. typical Asian dream)

    So now I really don't know what I want to do in my life; 1. or 2.? Or some amalgamation? How does this look from your perspective? If you've got personal experiences I would love to hear them icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 08, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    Oh, and if there's nothing much that you could speak of from experience anything will do. I'm very open to opinions! Just be nice yeah haha.
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    Aug 08, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    My head says #2, my heart says #1.

    I'm always in a weird place because I see the value in both. I follow my head more than my heart so I have essentially the #2 lifestyle (or I'm working toward it). But every now and then, even now, I think about what it'd be like to screw my job and go do my own thing for a while. Who knows, it just may happen.
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    Aug 08, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    closer85 saidMy head says #2, my heart says #1.

    I'm always in a weird place because I see the value in both. I follow my head more than my heart so I have essentially the #2 lifestyle (or I'm working toward it). But every now and then, even now, I think about what it'd be like to screw my job and go do my own thing for a while. Who knows, it just may happen.


    Closer85, I think you really captured the dilemma i'm in. I got a nasty feeling I'll do #2 and end up thinking about #1 like what you're doing now. How are you doing in your job now? Ever had any regrets about these choices?
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    Aug 08, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    They are only mutually exclusive if you make them so.

    Perfectly possible to spend time traveling, doing something useful for the world, and then settling into a more traditional life. In some ways, having all that experience is more likely to make you successful in getting the big job and doing it well.

    I can well relate - I spent time volunteering in Africa before I went to university, traveled loads when I was there, but then graduated into a big corporate graduate job (and trust me, most of what I talked about in interviews was about traveling, volunteering etc - i.e. the less 'normal' things I had done). Did that for 10 years, realized it was not satisfying and now starting out on my own. I will never likely earn what I used to, but getting out of bed in the morning is something I can't wait to do now.

    Your life is your playground - make the most of it, and don't ever live by other people's standards.
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    RunAlong, you make great sense. Thanks for sharing! I was also nurturing some thoughts of doing both, but albeit differently from you by reversing it. I.e. strive for success first, then with that independence and ability do what I want.

    Problem is of course I wouldn't know when is enough, or, worse still, lose sight of my original purpose and fall into a routine.

    I guess for me it would take a lot of personal courage to break free from the pragmatic ideals of Singapore and just do something that doesn't pay off financially. Right now I don't see myself being able to do that because of my passiveness; i tend to get swept along with the crowd quite easily :/
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    Aug 08, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    Number 2. Hell, you could even turn around and do number 1 after your Ivy league education.
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    Aug 08, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    Im aiming for a bit of both.. medicine is both a career and a way of going places to do community work
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    Aug 08, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    What is your plan for achieving those goals?
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    Aug 08, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    I am currently working on 2 to eventually make 1 happen. I personally don't think it's good to start with one, because I would have to have my parents pay for everything and I don't want that. I want to be able to afford it without anyone's help first.
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    Aug 09, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    Do whatever you want to do. The grass will always look greener regardless of what you do.
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    Aug 09, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    I'm doing a combination of both, but have to take sacrifices with them. I can't realistically afford to travel the world, because I need a steady income to pay for all that damned college I went through. I've got a fairly high-paying job, and have my own version of a social status with people around the world that mean a lot to me, but this makes me stay local to work said job. When I'm ready to travel somewhere new, it's a hassle, but possible (I've done it several times already). As of now it's an okay balance, but am trying to shift it to where I get to travel more and have a more portable job. Just find the balance that works for you.
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    Aug 09, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    Do #2. Then do #1 when you retire. Which should be an early retirement, assuming you properly saved/invested while working in your high paying job.
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    Aug 09, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
    I am glad I had the experience of traveling and living on the other side of the country when I was younger (younger than now anyway).

    Maybe this guy wrote this about me?
    http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/2008/02/22/72-study-abroad/
    http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com/2009/01/11/120-taking-a-year-off/
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    Aug 09, 2011 12:49 PM GMT
    just want to enjoy myself