Buddy/hot list: do you actually TALK to them?

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    May 01, 2008 5:58 PM GMT
    Do you talk to the people on your buddy list often? How about your hot list, do you try to contact anyone on that?

    I am very guilty of being a talker lol. As anyone on my buddy list(both mutual and the ones I have listed but haven't listed me yet) and quite a few on my hot list can tell ya, I like to send out random messages sometimes...mainly aimed at making the other person smile, laugh, think, or just to say "hey".

    It's part of who I am. I like to make others happy and help them forget their troubles(even if only for a few seconds).
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    May 02, 2008 12:59 AM GMT
    With only 1 exception, I have contacted by either email, IM or phone every one of them And they are all great men!icon_wink.gifThanks guys!
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    May 02, 2008 1:01 AM GMT
    I talk to very few people on this site. Just don't have the time... but I'm not against meeting and chatting with new people. As long as they can seperate reality from cyber reality than they're fine by me =D
  • Timbales

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    May 02, 2008 1:07 AM GMT
    i don't want to come off pervy
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    May 02, 2008 1:09 AM GMT
    Luckydog76 saidWith only 1 exception, I have contacted by either email, IM or phone every one of them And they are all great men!icon_wink.gifThanks guys!


    And I have always enjoyed talking with you too, matey.
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    May 02, 2008 1:48 AM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey saidDo you talk to the people on your buddy list often? How about your hot list, do you try to contact anyone on that?

    I am very guilty of being a talker lol. As anyone on my buddy list(both mutual and the ones I have listed but haven't listed me yet) and quite a few on my hot list can tell ya, I like to send out random messages sometimes...mainly aimed at making the other person smile, laugh, think, or just to say "hey".

    It's part of who I am. I like to make others happy and help them forget their troubles(even if only for a few seconds).


    i am lucky to count myself among those who are frequently on the receiving end of your messages, texts, etc. and am happy to be so.
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    May 02, 2008 1:50 AM GMT
    some of them... but I'm kinda shy, I don't usually initiate the conversation icon_redface.gif
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    May 02, 2008 1:53 AM GMT
    Yes sometimes, but I am very shy. I have initiated a few conversations on this website though, mainly to thank people for compliments or for good forum comments.
  • bigtallguy

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    May 02, 2008 1:54 AM GMT
    the guys on my buddy list are actually my buddies so I do talk to them regularly.
    The guys on my hot list I pretty much just drool over.
  • bradsmith

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    May 02, 2008 2:15 AM GMT
    Only the ones not covered by the restraining order...

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    May 02, 2008 3:06 AM GMT
    Sometimes, but not all of them. But i have chatted with most of them
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    May 02, 2008 3:13 AM GMT
    The people on my hot list are just guys I think are hot. I try to keep my buddy list to people who I know in real life or would like to know icon_smile.gif
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    May 02, 2008 3:13 AM GMT
    I've talked with all of them, but I don't always keep the conversations going. I find it difficult to talk with someone whom I haven't met/talked with live before.

    Any suggestions?
  • sandiegovince

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    May 02, 2008 3:13 AM GMT
    I only have two on each of my buddy/hot lists so far. I have had several emails exchanges with one of them...usually on food, cooking and eating. I wouldn't mind adding a few more guys on my lists and exchange workout tips and well just chat about stuff like life, love etc.

    --Vince
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    May 02, 2008 3:20 AM GMT
    Definitely -- that's what separates buddies from the hot list (which is for drooling, as bigtall said).

    I've met three in person, chatted on the phone with two others, and the remainder I've email chatted with enuf to call em a buddy.

    K
  • SkyMiles

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    May 02, 2008 3:22 AM GMT
    I've talked to everyone on my buddy list I'm happy to say. We'd talk more if I was more captivating, or if I thought about it more ;)

    Hot list, well, ok, basically I'm just cyberstalking them. Yes, ALL of them icon_twisted.gif Ok, not to that extent, but it's more 'drive-by' ;)
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    May 02, 2008 3:23 AM GMT
    Yes. People I consider buddies are usually on my hotlist as well because they have a quaility abouyt them that I consider hot, not just their looks and I constantly stay in touch with everyone on both my lists.

    The reason I do that is I always ask afor their permission if I can add them to either list and that usually only happens after we've chatted a few time and I feel comfortable witht he person and vice versa.

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    May 02, 2008 3:29 AM GMT
    i talk to some of my buddy list people on a regular basis. some i find easier tot alk to than my real life friends, mainly cuz my real world friends are straight, and don't necessarily wanna hear about certain parts of my life just yet. but basically, ya i talk with people.
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    May 02, 2008 5:02 AM GMT
    I wish I did, the ones that have added me as a buddy seem like potentially nice guys. I tried talking to one but he wasn't very conversational. It's sort of a disappointment as I really joined this site to a) get help with getting more fit but mostly b) meet nice guys to be friends with.

    I'm a gay man in New York with no gay friends! This is appalling!
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    May 02, 2008 8:26 AM GMT
    Yeah...the guys on my buddy list are just that...people I enjoy talking to, hearing from, and interacting with out and about on the forums. These are the guys who I'd love to live down the street from so we could go out for a beer or a coffee every now and then.

    Maybe that's why I'm reticent to buddy-list people. In fact, I've never buddy-listed guys unless they buddy-list me first. I don't like to presume they like me as much as I like them. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 02, 2008 10:03 AM GMT
    No. I ignore them. They are my future slaves. icon_cool.gif
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    May 02, 2008 7:13 PM GMT
    Sedative saidNo. I ignore them. They are my future slaves. icon_cool.gif


    Awww, Sedative. I much prefer the term houseboy. I can live with that one. icon_razz.gif
  • jarhead5536

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    May 02, 2008 7:17 PM GMT
    Don't typically talk to guys on my hot list unless they reach out to me. I'm afraid of having that whole stalker vibe going on. My hot list is just a little wink that says "wow you're sexy", with no strings attached. I have talked to everybody on my buddy list.
  • auryn

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    May 02, 2008 7:22 PM GMT
    It takes me awhile to really start talking, so no. icon_redface.gif But since my buddy list consists of one person that contacted me, I usually do all my talking in here.

    Besides, I don't have much time to talk when I'm not at work, because I'm either playing video games, getting caught up on stuff from my Netflix account or DVR, or some other thing. I respond to emails if/when I get them though.
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    May 02, 2008 8:57 PM GMT
    no