Are insecure people patronizing?

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    Aug 09, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    I work with a girl, and I'm not sure if she is bright or not, sometimes she is...but, she always talks down to me in a very patronizing kind of way. Like, I'm below her in a way.

    Do you find people who are insecure about something act in this way?
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    Aug 09, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
    gymrat100 saidI work with a girl, and I'm not sure if she is bright or not, sometimes she is...but, she always talks down to me in a very patronizing kind of way. Like, I'm below her in a way.

    Do you find people who are insecure about something act on this way?


    I think patronizing people are just patronizing...
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    Aug 09, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    Absolutely, yes.
    It's the classic bully.
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    Aug 09, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidAbsolutely, yes.
    It's the classic bully.


    I think being a bully and being patronizing are two very different things. This women may not be aware that she is being patronizing, its just kind of how it is.
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    Aug 09, 2011 5:59 PM GMT

    Confidence does not mean "insecure"..... icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:04 PM GMT
    I think so. In college I had a roommate who was plagued with insecurities and to everyone besides me (his only friend at the time) he was very sarcastic and condescending. When I pointed it out he admitted it was a defense mechanism. No excuse to be a dick but people like that end up alone.
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    wpbnole saidI think so. In college I had a roommate who was plagued with insecurities and to everyone besides me (his only friend at the time) he was very sarcastic and condescending. When I pointed it out he admitted it was a defense mechanism. No excuse to be a dick but people like that end up alone.
    Oh, wow. I have gone through that EXACT situation. icon_eek.gif

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    Aug 09, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    wpbnole saidI think so. In college I had a roommate who was plagued with insecurities and to everyone besides me (his only friend at the time) he was very sarcastic and condescending. When I pointed it out he admitted it was a defense mechanism. No excuse to be a dick but people like that end up alone.


    Im sarcastic and condescending...but Im great...please explain!
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    So to summarize, she could be insecure, or she could just be a bitch.

    Either way, the answer is to tell her you really don't appreciate it. With a dose of understanding in the first case, or dressed in emotional armor in the second case.
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
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    wpbnole saidI think so. In college I had a roommate who was plagued with insecurities and to everyone besides me (his only friend at the time) he was very sarcastic and condescending. When I pointed it out he admitted it was a defense mechanism. No excuse to be a dick but people like that end up alone.


    Im sarcastic and condescending...but Im great...please explain!


    I suppose it depends on a person's patience. I have a friend that is very sarcastic and condescending, but there are times when I'm not feeling it and I find it very, very annoying. It's not enough to make me drop the friendship. Then again I've always seen friendship as a connection beyond what is convenient. That means you are willing to tolerate some of their crappy qualities. If they do it alllllll the frickin time I tell them they are annoying and I usually leave.

    But like I said it's not enough to end the friendship with them. I don't know a true friend I have in my life that I like 100% of the time. That's just reality.
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    showme saidSo to summarize, she could be insecure, or she could just be a bitch.

    Either way, the answer is to tell her you really don't appreciate it. With a dose of understanding in the first case, or dressed in emotional armor in the second case.


    so if your not insecure your just a bitch? Got it!
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
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    showme saidSo to summarize, she could be insecure, or she could just be a bitch.

    Either way, the answer is to tell her you really don't appreciate it. With a dose of understanding in the first case, or dressed in emotional armor in the second case.


    so if your not insecure your just a bitch? Got it!


    If you're patronizing. I guess you could actually be superior to the other person, but I think etiquette says you're not supposed to use that against them.
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    wpbnole saidI think so. In college I had a roommate who was plagued with insecurities and to everyone besides me (his only friend at the time) he was very sarcastic and condescending. When I pointed it out he admitted it was a defense mechanism. No excuse to be a dick but people like that end up alone.


    Im sarcastic and condescending...but Im great...please explain!

    I suppose there are exceptions. You're just special icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    Friendsrbetter said
    Confidence does not mean "insecure"..... icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    Patronizing doesn't necessarily mean "confident" either
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    Chainers saidIm sarcastic and condescending...but Im great...please explain!


    But you're not patronizing.
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    showme said
    Chainers saidIm sarcastic and condescending...but Im great...please explain!


    But you're not patronizing.


    Yea your right, Im just a stupid bitch!
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    Aug 09, 2011 6:34 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    showme said
    Chainers saidIm sarcastic and condescending...but Im great...please explain!


    But you're not patronizing.


    Yea your right, Im just a stupid bitch!


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