Dallasfan824 saidBut I dont make the night about meeting them.
Then, if you get stood up you're at a place you want to be anyway.
For me it's long since gotten so that the shocker is a guy who DOES show up, and on time.
After 20 minutes of no-show I just kick back and order something at the bar.
Methinks it all points back to our "culture" which is all about flighty promiscuity - or seems that way a lot. Het women and men in general are a lot better about keeping dates because they're conditioned by society to be looking for a spouse. With marriage equality legal for seven years at most (in Massachusetts, woot) and still not the law in most states "we" still have a long way to go before the concept feels normal. Being men, most of us (myself included) will still be horndogs on the prowl. The difference, eventually, will hopefully be that with the prospect of the next one being The One right to the altar more of us will act like responsible grown-ups when plans are made to meet someone. That sense of responsibility just isn't there when you're never thinking past who to sleep with and add to your scorecard next week.