Virgin in Austin...any tips?

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    Aug 10, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    21 year old college student in Austin but never been with a guy before. I'm a little nervous and don't really know what to do, or even how to meet guys. I'm still not out yet. Any tips? Personal experiences?
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    Aug 10, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    My first time, it felt just natural I guess instinct took over and well it happened. Whatever you do I recommend don't rushing your first gay experience, unless that's what you really want. Don't know about meeting guys cause well obvious I'm single still.
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    Aug 10, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    Go to Rustys and pick up a cowboy! Have fun.
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    Aug 10, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    Come to spaghettimonster's place icon_smile.gif

    But in all seriousness just take it slow, don't get yourself involved in a situation you are going to regret. Don't do the skanky zerg rush into a bar and lose your v-card to the first guy that approaches you. Don't set up something shady on craigslist. Respect yourself and your common sense more than any of those bad options will ever provide.

    It is harder if you are not out, but if you use the websites and Grindr, eventually you will find someone that will give you a chance if you are good with cheeky conversation rather than instantly blocking you since you are not showing your face - but eventually you will need to show what you look like.

    Just try not to be nervous. You already made a user account on a gay site and just admitted you were the holder of a shiny v-card - that is about as rough and scary as things can get for you at this stage of life. Just relax. You have taken some good first steps, the rest will come in due time. icon_smile.gif

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    Aug 10, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    mmm I think you should loose you virginity to someone you care about. but, it you just want the NSA way I would just go to a bathhouse.
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    Aug 10, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidthe skanky zerg rush


    <3 this phrase.
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    Aug 10, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    wi2sd saidGo to Rustys and pick up a cowboy! Have fun.


    Think they closed Rusty's again. But it is Texas and gay cowboys are a dime a dozen. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 10, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    silkrock saidmmm I think you should loose you virginity to someone you care about. but, it you just want the NSA way I would just go to a bathhouse.


    Don't do a bath house.....and don't wait for someone you care about. best thing is chatting up a guy online letting them know what you're looking for and go from there.

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    Aug 10, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    Don't forget to breath.
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    Aug 10, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    Forget about random hookups, that only leads to STDs and emptiness. Find someone of quality your own age that you're really into.
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    Aug 10, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    Don't be in a rush to lose it for the sake of losing it. Take some time to find a guy you have fun with, get to know him and at least like him as a person and then go from there. And don't do it when you've had alcohol!
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    Aug 10, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the advice guys. I guess the general consensus is to wait and be patient, so I suppose I'll do so and muster up the confidence to include a face pic in the near future.
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    Aug 10, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    Go to the nearest gay bar, dont drive though, get wasted, and the rest will all work out or come visit me in Tampa!
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    Aug 11, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Davisboy04 saidThanks for all the advice guys. I guess the general consensus is to wait and be patient, so I suppose I'll do so and muster up the confidence to include a face pic in the near future.


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    Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. Generally, straight people don't browse gay people corners of the internet just to "out" people ... but if you have reservations about putting your face out there, wait until you have hit that level of acceptance. You just might get recognized at Whole Foods by someone who will say "hi" and it is better for the world at large if you say "Yeah, that's me!" rather than punch a gay person in the face for knowing you from around the internets.

    The gays shop at the Whole Foods. This is true.
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    Aug 11, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    Be real...be yourself....the rest of take care of it's self...BUD
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    Aug 11, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
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    Aug 11, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster said
    Davisboy04 said
    Don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. Generally, straight people don't browse gay people corners of the internet just to "out" people ... but if you have reservations about putting your face out there, wait until you have hit that level of acceptance. You just might get recognized at Whole Foods by someone who will say "hi" and it is better for the world at large if you say "Yeah, that's me!" rather than punch a gay person in the face for knowing you from around the internets.

    The gays shop at the Whole Foods. This is true.


    The Whole Foods thing is so true. Central Market as well. This includes several of the cashiers (as a few of them have emailed me online). Take it slow. You'll either be like "fuck yeah I'm gay and that was awesome" or "hmmm... that wasn't as hot as I thought it would be". PLEASE USE PROTECTION! HIV is on the rise as well as other STD's in Austin because of all the "trust". Good luck man.
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    Aug 11, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    I also agree that your first time should be with somebody special, not just a random hookup. My first time was with a guy who ended up being my boyfriend for over three years. We have since broken up, but it was amicable and we still are good friends.
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    Aug 11, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    Patience is great. But that's easy to say when you've had plenty of sex already... and you're not 21 anymore when you're hard half the day. Wanking three times a day is only going to keep you at bay so long. I wouldn't suggest going to a gay bar on your own with the intention of meeting guys. Veterans can practically smell the newbies. They will pounce. Once they get you in bed a few times, you don't hear from them again. You're going to have plenty of sex in your lifetime. At some point you're going to have sex so good it's going to wipe away all the other times... so although your first time seems like a big deal now... it really isn't in the grand scheme.

    I would focus more on finding gay guys to befriend. There are always support groups on colleges. I'm sure there's an LGBT center with a lot of information. There's LGBT meetup.com groups, sports leagues, student groups... plenty of ways to do what you already like doing while meeting new people. Sex will probably come will you least expect it, so don't force it.
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:06 AM GMT
    HisAlterEgo saidPatience is great. But that's easy to say when you've had plenty of sex already... and you're not 21 anymore when you're hard half the day. Wanking three times a day is only going to keep you at bay so long. I wouldn't suggest going to a gay bar on your own with the intention of meeting guys. Veterans can practically smell the newbies. They will pounce. Once they get you in bed a few times, you don't hear from them again. You're going to have plenty of sex in your lifetime. At some point you're going to have sex so good it's going to wipe away all the other times... so although your first time seems like a big deal now... it really isn't in the grand scheme.

    I would focus more on finding gay guys to befriend. There are always support groups on colleges. I'm sure there's an LGBT center with a lot of information. There's LGBT meetup.com groups, sports leagues, student groups... plenty of ways to do what you already like doing while meeting new people. Sex will probably come will you least expect it, so don't force it.


    Great advice. Bars are tricky when you're still in the closet because people may try to go to bed with you for the wrong reasons. Not that your first time needs to be someone you're seriously dating, but it should at least be someone you're comfortable with and probably someone close to your age. There are lots of gay guys at UT Austin, I would start with that or another college campus and see if anyone strikes your fany. Only go to Oilcan Harry's if you're desperate icon_smile.gif