The odd one out?

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    Aug 10, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    I don't know if this will apply to a lot of guys on here, but ever had the issue of being the only gay you know?

    For me, it's kinda weird. I don't have any friends that happen to be gay.
    And like, within my close circle of friends, I'm basically the only gay guy they know.

    Because of this, I do feel a bit out of place, but my sexuality is not the most prominent thing about me (not everyone knows I am either). I do get ticked off when a friend who knows about me, introduces me as "my gay friend." but aside from that, I don't have a huge issue with it, just weird.

    Also, as far as meeting other gay guys, I'm not exactly the type to randomly hook up. I'm more of the type that would like networking to meet people, because at least I'll have a little background on the guy I'd meet. But obviously that won't work for me at the current moment.

    I'm not really asking for advice, just wondering if you guys have similar problems? ( I guess advice would be nice too... haha)
  • qd2009

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    Aug 10, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    I have exactly the same problem; and am desperately trying to make gay friends in town. It's really hard given that any approach you make on other gays looks like you're trying to hit on them... argh! the frustration icon_evil.gif

    Online dating sites are worse. Nobody wants to be your friend; they just want you to suck their cock and be their dildo. icon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gif

    Any advice on this is much appreciated
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    Aug 10, 2011 6:24 AM GMT
    Haha, it is frustrating! I'm not gonna be randomly going up to guys, because more times than not, they'll want just a hook up then move on. If anything, I want just a normal relationship.

    Although, I'm not against the idea that I'll meet "the one" during a random meeting. Haha just like in the movies!! icon_lol.gif

    Oh! and the weirdest part is that I live in the SF area! hahaha
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    Aug 11, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    Ever since I started dating my current boyfriend (we've been together for almost a year now), I realized that I really didn't have any gay friends because he has so many and I only have a few. The problem is that I really don't know how to go about making new gay friends, or if I should or need to do so at all. I might just be jealous of my boyfriend's gay friendships, but I shouldn't compare because everybody is different. While he might have more gay friends than I do, I have closer family relationships with my parents and siblings than he does. So maybe sometimes we shouldn't worry about forcing ourselves to make gay friends and instead let things happen on their own? I'm not sure myself.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Aug 11, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Yeah that is kind of strange since you live in the sf area. Just find some local groups that do things u like to do you can probably find some gay platonic friends that way.