pjs1450 saidSo I'm in the process of coming out and I'm looking to meet some guys who are gay in Chi Town since all my friends are straight. I've started going out in gay friendly areas to meet guys. Everything goes well and we exchange numbers on a friendly basis with the intention of hanging out and helping me get familiar with the gay community. However, I've noticed that either I lose touch with these guys or it's always hard to get in touch with them. Kinda "flaky" I guess. I'm a very social person and I've never had problems meeting new ppl.
Is it me, them, or do I just need to be patient? Looking for some advice.
It's probably mostly them. The gay community is notoriously flaky & unreliable. It's the cost of doing gay business.
Don't become discouraged, it just requires extra patience and perseverance. As long as you understand that you're dealing with a high percentage of flakes, and don't doubt yourself, it'll be OK. Just don't be a flake yourself!
There are good guys out there, but you have to go through a hundred to find a keeper. You're gonna encounter duds & losers, expect that. I like to use the fishing analogy, having once fished a lot.
You drop bait 50 times without a nibble. And out of dozens of nibbles you get a bite. And then sometimes you manage to haul something in. Only to discover it's not a keeper. Such is the gay world.
Patience & perseverance, and also a positive attitude, will find you a guy. If you flash that smile around, that you have in your profile pic, you're gonna do just fine.