The Nicest Moment Of My Day...

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    Aug 11, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    ... is when I lie in bed with my partner, and just hold hands. That's all.

    He's been doing that a lot more recently, since my bad medical news. It's funny how the warmth of his hand cheers me up, and comforts me.

    We were doing it a little earlier, watching that Wheel of Fortune TV game show. I cannot STAND it, but he likes it, so I lie down next to him in the bedroom, and try to play along. I even bought him the computer version of it.

    So we lay there holding hands, he knows what I need, he's so good to me.

    He's asleep now, so I'm online obviously, and not a bit tired. In a couple of hours I'll finally join him in bed, and fall asleep holding his hand, whether he knows I'm doing it or not.

    You younger guys, if you saw us naked in bed, would say: "EWWW!!! Gross!!!"

    But we cuddle as well as you do, our affection for each other no less, even if we aren't pretty young hunks, just overweight old guys. And every night I fall asleep with his hand in mine. A happy thing for you to contemplate, in my view. As you look to your future, are you hoping for more?
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    Aug 11, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    Awww, thanks for posting this. I don't think I'll mind the loss of being a "pretty young 'gym bunny*'" if I have someone to cuddle with when I'm "Eww, gross." icon_smile.gif

    *http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1740315
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    Aug 11, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    EliStark saidAwww, thanks for posting this. I don't think I'll mind the loss of being a "pretty young 'gym bunny*'" if I have someone to cuddle with when I'm "Eww, gross." icon_smile.gif

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1740315

    Thanks. Though I'm not sure what that link is supposed to show us.
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    Aug 11, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    Oh, that was the footnote for "gym bunny" - which is what I apparently am, according to the link in that thread. icon_smile.gif
  • tautomer

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    Aug 11, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    Aww, this really was heartwarming to read icon_smile.gif. It's moments like these that show when you have a deeper connection with someone, and feel with them. You completely feel, and it's something so few people ever achieve, but spend a lifetime seeking (sometimes without even knowing it). I did read about your negative medical news and I sincerely hope that you persevere through this trial and life. In my gut, I really do feel like this will just be yet another bridge to cross and you'll make it to the other side.

    So many of us seem to seek intense relationships. Mad sex, highs and lows, crazy adventures, all the high energy that keeps the mind engaged and entertained. It's addicting and all they will seek or know. Yet, so few know how fufilling something as tender as holding hands with each other, and truly feeling with the person, just feeling for them, but with them, is. This forms stronger bonds, is far more sustaining, and can not be felt with walls up. If you can feel this, then all of the walls are down, and you have made it to a point that very few people will ever get to.

    Again, this really made me smile to read, and I am very very happy to hear that you have achieved strong and poignant moments of happiness amongst less then ideal times.

    and p.s. I did lol at the "ewww gross" comment, haha! Truth be told, many would (myself included), but that's besides the point here. This is about you two and no one else icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 11, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    tautomer4314 said...So many of us seem to seek intense relationships. Mad sex, highs and lows, crazy adventures, all the high energy that keeps the mind engaged and entertained. It's addicting and all they will seek or know. Yet, so few know how fufilling something as tender as holding hands with each other, and truly feeling with the person, just feeling for them, but with them, is. This forms stronger bonds, is far more sustaining, and can not be felt with walls up. If you can feel this, then all of the walls are down, and you have made it to a point that very few people will ever get to.

    Well thanks, I dunno. I had my "mad sex" once. That was a fun time. At least I had it, and didn't fail to experience it, despite my being a very late bloomer. Every gay guy should do the same, really.

    So now I'm here. I'm not a kid, I'm not pretending to be a kid, as some guys my age try to do. I've got a guy, and that's all I need. I'm happy beyond measure. "Better late than never" as the saying goes. I'm content with that. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    Awww, that was not gross, that was cute and endearing!
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    Hope that I have someone who I can do the same with someday!
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    That sounds awesome. Nothing is gross about that. What's better than being with your lover and feeling loved?
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    I love just getting into bed and getting ready to go to sleep, having clean sheets and being freshly showered are a plus. Of course being there with the one you love is the absolute best (even though there always seems to be that extra arm floating around that nobody knows what to with - until it goes numb). Congrats on your partnership.

    BTW - you bring up another good point. I was at a pool party with a guy I've been dating and he put his arm around me and tried to kiss me - but I turned away. He asked me what was wrong and I said there are a lot of young guys here and I don't want to gross them out, He just laughed and kissed me anyway.
    The message is loud and clear from at least some young gay guys (not all) but the ones that are vocal about it are pretty ruthless. In spite of everything my generation lived through to give them the world they live, in spite of the fact that we were "the front line" in all this, the only thing that matters now is that we are no longer young and therefore not fit to be part of thier world and certainly should not be seen in public in bathing suits or making displays of affection.
    Even while I'm writing this my belly is feeling a little sick at some of the things I read in these forums and heard at the pool or beach.

    But back on subject, please give your sweet guy a little bedtime back massage and a bearhug for me icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:25 AM GMT
    dancedancekj saidHope that I have someone who I can do the same with someday!

    You will! If I can, dorky & stupid as I am, anyone can.

    BTW, I love Omaha, want to get my partner up there. My late partner was there with me, he thought The MAX was great. Do you know the bartender Rusty? She was in the upstairs bar, overlooking Stosh's Place (named after one of the owners) but I think she later became the head bartender. Been a few years since I've been there.

    Wow, I'd love to get my partner up here, that's one of the best gay nightclubs in the entire US. And in corn-fed Omaha, Nebraska. Who woulda thunk?
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    Art_Deco, I don't know if Rusty is still working there. I think the guard might have changed, since I haven't seen her in a couple years - she used to work at the main bar, and my friend got "Rusty Specials" all the time. Stosh is of course, still around. Omaha has probably changed quite a bit since you've been her last with the new Midtown area and stuff.

    The Max is pretty fun, right? Impressive. Omaha has all sorts of interesting secrets that take a bit of searching to find, but has a surprising lot to offer even the most cosmopolitan gay man. Plus, it is developing quite rapidly.

    jawrhedThe message is loud and clear from at least some young gay guys (not all) but the ones that are vocal about it are pretty ruthless. In spite of everything my generation lived through to give them the world they live, in spite of the fact that we were "the front line" in all this, the only thing that matters now is that we are no longer young and therefore not fit to be part of thier world and certainly should not be seen in public in bathing suits or making displays of affection.


    Jawrhed: Take it from one young gay guy that I appreciate the paving your generation did. While I wouldn't say that it is only young gay men who carry on with this behavior (heterosexuals, and society in general), it still is a bit sad to think that once you hit 30, you are old, and once you hit 40, you're supposed to become some sort of sexless pristine individual (Please. We all suspect seniors have relentless amounts of sex in retirement. And one of my friends complained that her parents have more sex and more often than she does at 26 )

    Also, If more men your age looked like you, perhaps there would be less protests. You could kiss anyone you like, including me icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:40 AM GMT

    jawrhedThe message is loud and clear from at least some young gay guys (not all) but the ones that are vocal about it are pretty ruthless. In spite of everything my generation lived through to give them the world they live, in spite of the fact that we were "the front line" in all this, the only thing that matters now is that we are no longer young and therefore not fit to be part of thier world and certainly should not be seen in public in bathing suits or making displays of affection.


    Indeed, taht is shameful... I for one, will never allow any younger ones to forget what the older generation had to fight for.... i go FIERCE when people make fun of older people... and when young gays make fun of older gays especially... Im willing to sacrifice a friendship for that even
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:42 AM GMT
    I've had 20+ years of such bliss, and we got together when I was still in my 20s, and he in his 30s. We will get to grow old together, as well spent the last of our youth together too. I have been so blessed in my life when it comes to beging loved.
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:49 AM GMT
    jawrhed saidI love just getting into bed and getting ready to go to sleep, having clean sheets and being freshly showered are a plus. Of course being there with the one you love is the absolute best (even though there always seems to be that extra arm floating around that nobody knows what to with - until it goes numb). Congrats on your partnership.

    BTW - you bring up another good point. I was at a pool party with a guy I've been dating and he put his arm around me and tried to kiss me - but I turned away. He asked me what was wrong and I said there are a lot of young guys here and I don't want to gross them out, He just laughed and kissed me anyway.
    The message is loud and clear from at least some young gay guys (not all) but the ones that are vocal about it are pretty ruthless. In spite of everything my generation lived through to give them the world they live, in spite of the fact that we were "the front line" in all this, the only thing that matters now is that we are no longer young and therefore not fit to be part of thier world and certainly should not be seen in public in bathing suits or making displays of affection.
    Even while I'm writing this my belly is feeling a little sick at some of the things I read in these forums and heard at the pool or beach.

    But back on subject, please give your sweet guy a little bedtime back massage and a bearhug for me icon_smile.gif

    I will give him a hug, but perhaps tomorrow morning, too late now, he's already asleep.

    BTW, I've been in Lafayette a few times. I didn't think it was very gay friendly, or gay open. Are you OK there? You list a second location as New Orleans, which I also know. And of course that's very gay friendly, at least in le Vieux Carré.
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    Aug 11, 2011 9:39 AM GMT
    jawrhed saidI love just getting into bed and getting ready to go to sleep, having clean sheets and being freshly showered are a plus. Of course being there with the one you love is the absolute best (even though there always seems to be that extra arm floating around that nobody knows what to with - until it goes numb). Congrats on your partnership.

    BTW - you bring up another good point. I was at a pool party with a guy I've been dating and he put his arm around me and tried to kiss me - but I turned away. He asked me what was wrong and I said there are a lot of young guys here and I don't want to gross them out, He just laughed and kissed me anyway.
    The message is loud and clear from at least some young gay guys (not all) but the ones that are vocal about it are pretty ruthless. In spite of everything my generation lived through to give them the world they live, in spite of the fact that we were "the front line" in all this, the only thing that matters now is that we are no longer young and therefore not fit to be part of thier world and certainly should not be seen in public in bathing suits or making displays of affection.
    Even while I'm writing this my belly is feeling a little sick at some of the things I read in these forums and heard at the pool or beach.

    But back on subject, please give your sweet guy a little bedtime back massage and a bearhug for me icon_smile.gif


    Wow! What an insightful post! Jawrhed, most of the guys who make those snide little comments are insecure with themselves and will not have close to the body that you have when they get a little older!
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    Aug 11, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    Art and jawrhed, thanks.
    Reading your posts yesterday was the nicest moment of my day. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 11, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    Very nice to remember some of the simplier things in life can mean much.....
    thanks for that.... and certainly much less stressful than reviewing a $400.00 monthly phone bill...lol

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    Aug 11, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said...

    You younger guys, if you saw us naked in bed, would say: "EWWW!!! Gross!!!"
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    Come on.... we would not... this is a great thread about togetherness, sharing and an intimate moment.
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    Aug 11, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    That's awesome, Art. I'm glad you have someone to love and to love you. icon_biggrin.gif Thanks for sharing!
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    Both of you are very lucky to have each other icon_biggrin.gif
    I really hope you can enjoy cuddling and holding his hand , for a very long time ...Best wishes .
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    Its not gross but and this how I always imagine our seniors doing together...JUST like any other couple....
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    I used to frequent Haulover quite a bit, so now it takes MUCH more than just two "overweight old guys" to gross me out. I find it rather cute and lovely...the way I'd like it to be when health puts an end to my gym time. icon_biggrin.gif