Your Definition Of Love

  • TallSoCal

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    May 02, 2008 10:08 AM GMT
    What does "love" mean to you? And not like you love your parents, but how you love that special someone.
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    May 02, 2008 10:12 AM GMT
    Wanting to merge with him just to be with him forever. LOL

    Being deliriously ecstatic just to see him happy. icon_smile.gif
  • GQjock

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    May 02, 2008 10:16 AM GMT
    Good post...
    I don't know if I can answer
    but the few times I think I've been in love
    I always enjoyed being with him
    and seeing them happy made me happy
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    May 02, 2008 1:44 PM GMT
    All, everything that I understand.
    I understand only because I love.

    Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind.
    William Shakespeare.

    I keep love in my heart.
    A Life without it is like a sunless garden
    when the flowers are dead.
    The consciousness of loving
    and being loved brings a
    warmth and richness to life that nothing eles can bring.
  • twentyfourhou...

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    May 02, 2008 2:14 PM GMT
    Love, Hmmmmmmmmmm.

    I would say when you FREELY put his needs before your own.
    When his happiness is just as important or more important as your own happiness.
    When you freely give of yourself and expect nothing in return.
    When his presence adds to your quality of life.
    Knowing you could NEVER hurt the person by cheating or lying to them.

    When all of the above - are still present 1 year after meeting him - then you know it is love and not lust.

    I have had the good fortune of being in love 3 times in my adult life and am looking forward to the fourth time.
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    May 02, 2008 2:16 PM GMT
    Honestly I think love is a undescribable feeling. Its hard to put into words. Its a combination of constant butterflies yet completely comfortable. It can make you feel like you are on top of the world!
  • TheBrad

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    May 02, 2008 2:59 PM GMT
    twentyfourhourslater saidLove, Hmmmmmmmmmm.

    I would say when you FREELY put his needs before your own.
    When his happiness is just as important or more important as your own happiness.
    When you freely give of yourself and expect nothing in return.
    When his presence adds to your quality of life.
    Knowing you could NEVER hurt the person by cheating or lying to them.

    When all of the above - are still present 1 year after meeting him - then you know it is love and not lust.

    I have had the good fortune of being in love 3 times in my adult life and am looking forward to the fourth time.


    I will have to agree with you on that. And then like what one other guy had said earlier...to be one with that person. Its weird...I would give up everything just for their happiness, which in most sense, isnt such a good idea. Eh, I dont know really...

    Felt that once so far.

    Good question by the way!
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    May 02, 2008 3:09 PM GMT
    Love is wanting to be there when the other person is in need, sick, mourning, sad and being able to laugh together, talk together. Love is wanting someone to walk up spontaneously and put their arms around you and hold you. It's that feeling that you dream of and finding that it does happen. Hmmmm.... I so want love!
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    May 02, 2008 3:32 PM GMT
    Never having to say "Sorry"

    Bringing him Breakfast in Bed.


    Always putting him before you!


    Massaging his feet when he comes home tired from work!
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    May 02, 2008 3:34 PM GMT
    If you love someone. Set him free.

    If he comes back hes yours.

    If not.

    Hunt him down and shoot him.
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    May 02, 2008 4:02 PM GMT
    When life makes more sense with him in your life. Love is like adding oil to a rusty machine. I do not think it means putting his needs before your own or being a servant to your passion. Its wanting to be with the person every minute of the day, but feeling strong enough to be without him for weeks on end.
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    May 02, 2008 4:10 PM GMT
    I am sure this won't be popular, but oh well.

    Are you guys nuts?
    Love means never having to say sorry? umm. what?
    Love is happiness?
    Love is always enjoying their company?
    Love is never hurting someone?
    Love is always wanting to hold them?

    Seriously, you can't really believe this. These are Hallmark moments, not requisites of real love.
    Love is a sh*tload of work. It is someone holding a mirror to all of your insecurities and ridiculousness and wanting to be there to get you through it. I don't know any couples that are always happy to see each other.... but I know the person you love will be the first person you call when something good, bad, heartbreaking or beautiful happens.
    Love isn't full disclosure, some things are just yours or his. Love means not being an insecure wreck when they need to be alone to find themselves. Love is knowing when they need their friends instead of you. Love is teaching someone to be better while holding yourself to the same standards. Love means being accountable and present. Love means being your own person, not two becomes one.
    Just because you are in love does not mean you are codependent.

    After years of being together, the thrill of them holding you is often diminished, conversation is sometimes non existent and making out is last on the list. However, that doesn't mean that love is lost.


    err.. I mean.
    Love is a bubble bath with Mariah Carey purring in the backround on the stereo.icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 02, 2008 4:17 PM GMT
    Pierrecadot saidI am sure this won't be popular, but oh well.
    After years of being together, the thrill of them holding you is often diminished, conversation is sometimes non existent and making out is last on the list. However, that doesn't mean that love is lost.


    Not sure where the love is in all that! Those are the things I think are true love, without them, you're not in love, you're roommates!
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    May 02, 2008 4:18 PM GMT
    love is being in the middle of brushing your teeth, having your partner come in unceremoniously to take a dump, and neither of you noticing except to crack a joke.

    total acceptance on a human level.

    i also personally feel that true love essentially comes down to finding a person you can tolerate enough (and vice versa) to not choke the shit out of them for being exactly who they are.

    whether or not the passion is still there isn't what you asked.
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    May 02, 2008 4:24 PM GMT
    eb925guy said[i][quote][cite]Pierrecadot said[/cite]
    Not sure where the love is in all that! Those are the things I think are true love, without them, you're not in love, you're roommates!


    ha ha.
    That is actually funny.
    My parents and grandparents are madly in love but I rarely find them making out.
    oh well... I guess they are friends with benefits..
    Sounds like a perfectly lovely relationship to me.icon_smile.gif
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    May 02, 2008 4:24 PM GMT
    Wait...gay guys poop? I'm so disillusioned.

    Love is something that makes me happy. It can be that simple, or a lot more complex, but that's all it needs to be, to me.
  • UncleverName

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    May 02, 2008 4:28 PM GMT
    Pierrecadot said
    err.. I mean.
    Love is a bubble bath with Mariah Carey purring in the backround on the stereo.icon_biggrin.gif


    I love that Mariah Carey song! OMG, I totally thought you were some big sour puss with everything you wrote, then you totally redeemed yourself by mentioning that Mariah song!!! Yay!!! Hugs and kisses!
















    (In all honesty, I'd have to agree with what Pierre said. Love for me is much more about acceptance than it is about passion, and it takes a lot of work sometimes to make a loving relationship work)
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    May 02, 2008 4:47 PM GMT
    Love true love is a whole shit load of work. Love is being able to have make up sex
    mutual understanding
    respect
    wanting to bring him home to your parents
    (even if you know they would approve)
    it has its ups and downs
    its commitment
    yes it is all those wonderful things in the start but after a while it fades.
    Also love well the feeling of love is universal and an undying truth, but the understanding of love... well that is up to the two people in love
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    May 02, 2008 5:13 PM GMT
    ItsMyLife saidLove true love is a whole shit load of work. Love is being able to have make up sex
    mutual understanding
    respect
    wanting to bring him home to your parents
    (even if you know they would approve)
    it has its ups and downs
    its commitment
    yes it is all those wonderful things in the start but after a while it fades.
    Also love well the feeling of love is universal and an undying truth, but the understanding of love... well that is up to the two people in love


    well said.
    What most people describe is romance.
    You can have love without romance and vice versa.
    It would be sad, but not everyone has a need for romantic fairy tale love.
    For some, love is a spiritual connection and the source of your most important life lessons.
    I grew up in a home full of revelations, not just chocolate and flowers. My mother is an amazing cook and our dinner table conversations were rarely about the importance of "generic" romance. I remember watching my mother painting and sometimes she would have tears streaming down her face while she created and my father checking on her without intruding or making her explain. He has such faith in her well being and trusted her so much that he never seemed to worry about what it was that caused the tears. He knew that she would tell him if she needed to. I love that about him.
    Someone wanting to make you a better version of yourself while allowing you to have your own journey is about as romantic as it gets for me.
    That has become my ideal and aspiration.
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    May 02, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    FOR DANCER JACK -

    Aaah you make me up and down through emotions
    Like a rollercoaster
    Spinning like a ferris wheel
    Aaah you turn me upside down with my feelings
    And I know the reason
    Baby your love is surreal
    You make me go you make me go you make me go
    Make me go
    You make me go you make me go
    Like a rollercoaster

    There's a high level of love going on
    The feelings are just way too strong
    The reason that you got me gone
    Is babe cause you turn me on
    With a bit of it more than a little bit
    I'm addicted every time get a hit of it
    Cause oh baby you take me so high
    When I'm on your rollercoaster ride

    I'm in and out of love
    And it's all because
    I can't make up my mind
    I'm so confused
    Don't know what to do
    And it's cause of you

    Boy you give me butterflies
    So deep inside
    Breaks me down when I look in those eyes
    Takes me out way across the sky
    Baby boy I won't lie
    Usually I'm not this shy
    You do it to me every time
    I get on your rollercoaster ride

    Cause you make me go up and down
    And around and around and
    I can't take it
    You make me go up and down
    And around and around
    That's why boy I can't take it
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    May 02, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    Pierrecadot said[quote][cite]
    Someone wanting to make you a better version of yourself while allowing you to have your own journey is about as romantic as it gets for me.


    i always aspire to the kind of love my parents have for each other... being there for each other, not always agreeing on everything, but extremely close when circumstances were tough...always having each other in mind and tears when apart...
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    May 02, 2008 7:50 PM GMT
    nicensmoothla:

    point taken.


    everyone knows i think janet is god. ergo, i retract my previous statement about love. i am now playing "rollercoaster" in order to absorb the gospel.
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    May 02, 2008 8:04 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidnicensmoothla:

    point taken.


    everyone knows i think janet is god. ergo, i retract my previous statement about love. i am now playing "rollercoaster" in order to absorb the gospel.


    ergo, i love you even more!
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    May 02, 2008 8:07 PM GMT

    When you care about him more than you care about yourself ..
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    May 02, 2008 8:16 PM GMT
    For me:

    When someone trusts you as you do him.
    When someone believes you as you do him.
    When, in each others arms, nothing in the world bothers you in spite of what may be going on in your lives.
    When you think about him at completely random times of the day.
    When a touch can be both electric and calming at the same time.
    When someone knows the bad things about you and doesn't hurt you with that knowledge.
    When you can mutually respect each others wishes and and genuinely compromise.
    When 'give and take' is truly mutual.
    When the thought of him makes you feel like a child.
    When you can't put in words how I feel about him because every adjective is insufficient in grandeur and power or too overused.