would you consider this "normal gay behavior" or being "creepy/stalky/obsessive"....or what?

  • rnch

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    Aug 11, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    if your long term bf followed you around the room with his eyes, smiling the whole time, briefly glancing away to talk to other people or to check out a cute guy...would you get uptight/upset at his staring at you?


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    Aug 11, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Well unless you start talking to some other guy and later he interrogates to you about it,I would say its rather obsessive...

    Other than that, I think he simply 'can't take his eyes off of you' because he's lucky to have you.
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    Aug 11, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    If this behaviour is out of the blue then I'd be all kinds of suspicious, if not I'd think it's sweet.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 11, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Depends how he is in other situations.
  • calibro

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    Aug 11, 2011 6:36 PM GMT
    why would i be upset if my boyfriend were staring at me?
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    That depends. Am I naked?
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:50 PM GMT
    calibro saidwhy would i be upset if my boyfriend were staring at me?


    because the OP clearly doesnt want to be in a relationship with him anymore and just needs to drop his balls and break up with him.
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    Aug 11, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    It depends on the look in his eyes. Are they bedroom eyes? If that is the case, get him to the nearest private room, stat! icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 11, 2011 8:16 PM GMT
    Have either one of you done something to not trust one another?
    Why else would he be watching who you're watching?
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    Aug 11, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    Upset because the bf isn't having fun at the party?
  • rnch

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    Aug 11, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    derkcool saidwhat is sweet to one man is creepy to another, in seems someone is in doubt of the relationship if they think it's not sweet



    very good point, dc!
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Aug 11, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    Next time walk out the room, wait 3 minutes and if he follows you to find out where you went then, RUN!
  • rnch

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    Aug 12, 2011 9:52 AM GMT
    Fivealive said....I think he simply 'can't take his eyes off of you' because he's lucky to have you.



    awwww.........


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  • Scorpio1113

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    Aug 12, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    You used the word 'long term,' so no I wouldn't be upset/uptight. I'd figure at that point I'd know if he had obsessive/creepy tendencies. My long term boyfriend staring and smiling at me would be the least of things he could do to make me upset icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    rnch saidif your long term bf followed you around the room with his eyes, smiling the whole time, briefly glancing away to talk to other people or to check out a cute guy...would you get uptight/upset at his staring at you?


    wadduathunk?


    is this a trick question? is this a slow day for you?

    there's no reason to get upset. just the damn opposite
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    Aug 12, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    I'd say that this is absolutely unacceptable behavior, and that when this happens you should take him into the other room and bone him immediately.

    Repeat until the behavior stops.
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    Aug 12, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    rnch saidif your long term bf followed you around the room with his eyes, smiling the whole time, briefly glancing away to talk to other people or to check out a cute guy...would you get uptight/upset at his staring at you?


    wadduathunk?


    Well in all fairness aren't you doing the same thing if you notice that his eyes are constantly following you and you happen to be watching when his eyes divert to check out other guys? Sorta double-edged there.

    I'm trying to figure out where the "gay" behavior fits into this. He's your BF so the fact that he's watching shouldn't come as a surprise plus he's smiling which is better then him have some ice cold stare of death on his face. if anything you should be flattered. It would be different if he was a complete stranger doing this. That would be creepy.

    If he's your bf then confront him about it if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
  • rnch

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    Guy101 said...If he's your bf then confront him about it if it makes you feel uncomfortable.


    we did talk about it...hence this thread. i had NO idea he felt this way until recently..thought i would post the question here on the open forum and find out what other guys thought/felt about this.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    He is being creepy and obsessive. Nothing cute about a possesive person. But I dont like needy clingy distrusting people,
  • mdhrdtop

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    Aug 12, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    A ex-BF of mine used to say "I don't care where you get your appetite, just as long as you eat at home!".
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    Always keep a long leash but a short line of sight. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    He's supposedly in love with you. I'd hope he can't take his eyes off of you. "Creepy/stalky/obsessive". Really? Calling your long term boyfriend those words doesn't make sense to me.

    Maybe you subconsciously feel annoyed because you're not that into him? I don't know the specifics, but that you noticed something that'd be insignificant to most, sounds a bit like nitpicking to find something wrong.

    You said you talked to him about it...did that make you feel better?

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    Aug 12, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    calibro saidwhy would i be upset if my boyfriend were staring at me?


    because the OP clearly doesnt want to be in a relationship with him anymore and just needs to drop his balls and break up with him.


    You may have a point..
  • d_1M

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    Aug 12, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    Gaymerboy saidThat depends. Am I naked?


    how you gonna be NAKED if he is not along in the room, so you into orgies?
    or just didnt even read what he said?

    now dont hate.
  • rnch

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    Aug 13, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    chainers, forgotten fruit (and others)....some of you guys here seem to have jumped to the wrong conclusion.

    I'm the one who is staring and smiling at him; my bf is the one who is uneasy with this behavior.