Is it weird that I don't like getting drunk?

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    Aug 12, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    It seems like such a big part of the collective gay community. Every other gay guy I know seems to get such a bang out of heading to a bar or a dance club every weekend, get themselves completely smashed and stuff. And honestly, I don't really see what's so fun about getting so drunk...

    Make no mistake. I'm not a teetotaler by any means. I do enjoy the occasional mixed drink and a Mike's Hard Lemonade. I also have a taste for the local fruit wines, particularly blackberry wine. But I'm really very moderate in my consumption. I've never reached the point of falling to the floor and needing someone to lift me up if I want to stand. And I don't think I ever wanna reach that point.

    So, am I alone in feeling this way or do other people understand?
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    You're not alone. There's actually a pretty strong anti-drinking faction here on RJ.
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 saidIt seems like such a big part of the collective gay community. Every other gay guy I know seems to get such a bang out of heading to a bar or a dance club every weekend, get themselves completely smashed and stuff. And honestly, I don't really see what's so fun about getting so drunk...

    Make no mistake. I'm not a teetotaler by any means. I do enjoy the occasional mixed drink and a Mike's Hard Lemonade. I also have a taste for the local fruit wines, particularly blackberry wine. But I'm really very moderate in my consumption. I've never reached the point of falling to the floor and needing someone to lift me up if I want to stand. And I don't think I ever wanna reach that point.

    So, am I alone in feeling this way or do other people understand?


    I love how it's always gay people who do these things. Have you ever seen MTV?
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou're not alone. There's actually a pretty strong anti-drinking faction here on RJ.


    I mean, I should clarify. I'm not anti drinking. If other people wanna go out to the clubs, get themselves smashed-faced and whatnot, that's fine. But I'm wondering if this is typical and something to generally expect from other guys.
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    Szchatt89 said But I'm wondering if this is typical and something to generally expect from other guys.


    In a general consensus way, yes. It is.
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    I know a guy who doesn't like to drink at all, and next to him there's me too. icon_razz.gif Difference is this guy is straight and I'm gay icon_razz.gif. Just making the point that it can be anyone who doesn't like to get drunk and such men or women (whatever the second one is).
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:56 AM GMT
    Yes, it's pretty typical. Especially for 21-year-olds, to be honest. You may never enjoy it, or you may find yourself shit-faced lying in a pool of your own vomit in a couple years at a party. Some people do it because they enjoy it, and some do it because of social pressures. Then they'll grow out of it, and move on with their lives. Just don't get to the point where you feel you have to do it to fit in, and don't judge others for doing it, and you'll be happy.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Aug 12, 2011 11:39 AM GMT
    I know what you mean I go to the club quite a bit, people look at me weird when I tell them I don't drink.
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    Aug 12, 2011 11:44 AM GMT
    It's not weird. I like to drink but I don't go out with an intention to get drunk. Not like you have to be drunk to have a good time.

    Also there's the fact that drunk me tends to have lots of 'cleaning up' to do so sober me doesn't get mad icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 11:47 AM GMT
    The clubs here pour so strongly that getting smashed is only about 3 drinks away.

    Why do they do that? Stupid. So, I only drink beers at bars because I like a bit of a buzz, but getting sh**-faced is so 30 years ago for me.
  • rnch

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    Aug 12, 2011 11:49 AM GMT
    i'm only considered a "teatotaler" when compared to my bf. it dawned on me years ago that a 2 day hangover was not worth 3 or 4 hours of being drunk.

    the older i get, the less i drink.

    the older he gets, the more he drinks. it's affecting his weight and personality.

    sometimes i wonder & worry about our future together....


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    Aug 12, 2011 11:49 AM GMT
    I don't even LIKE alcohol (not unless its really, really sweet to the palate, but thats just like drinking shandy or some sub-par alternative) . . . and in what category will that put me in as?

    Don't get me wrong though, I may be 19 and should be out partying my ass off and getting wasted, but how can I go out and do something my body physically cannot intake well? Plus, the other major reason why I've yet to go out drinking is that its quite difficult to find other gay guys on campus who'd wanna hang out at a gay bar (and I'm talking about SYDNEY here, sheesh!) . . . maybe on my 21th b'day party, I'll start on the tequilas, and we'll see where those take me icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    Obviously people don't drink it for taste reasons. They drink it to get drunk. or buzzed. It's the same reason people do any kind of drug. for the feeling.



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    Aug 12, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    Stan904 saidObviously people don't drink it for taste reasons. They drink it to get drunk. or buzzed. It's the same reason people do any kind of drug. for the feeling.





    Really? Because I enjoy the taste of many wines, beers, and quite a few martinis... and I rarely drink to get drunk anymore.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 12, 2011 12:36 PM GMT
    I think its the age/ group you hang with... but there many gay guys older than you that take in that activity each weekend. I don't, I'd rather spend time time on more productive, and healthful pursuits....lol
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    Aug 12, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
    I certainly am not a hard drinker... If I ever go to a bar or club, I drink with friends and enjoy . Not to get plastered....And I do not want to have a beer goggles if I land up with someone cute/hot!! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:03 PM GMT
    Im not a big fan of the falling down and all that but I do like to get to the level RIGHT under that. lol drunkish?
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    Osailr saidThe clubs here pour so strongly that getting smashed is only about 3 drinks away.

    Why do they do that? Stupid. So, I only drink beers at bars because I like a bit of a buzz, but getting sh**-faced is so 30 years ago for me.


    Total agreement here.

    I rarely if ever go for mixed drinks; usually I'll stick with one or two craft beers if available, and domestics if I can convince myself to choke them down.

    Then maybe I'll nurse a third beer out fir an hour or so to keep a light buzz going.

    The most egregious example of bartenders pouring things too strongly I've seen was a few weeks ago at the NYC Eagle - this really hot Chinese guy in a vinyl wrestling singlet went from reasonable to snot-slinging drunk in the space of three Long Island Iced Teas - to the point of passing over the urinal while a number of guys were (at that point, non-consensually) molesting him.

    He had bought me a vodka and cranberry a little earlier that was about a swizzle of cranberry juice in a cup of vodka... which clued me in that something was a bit off.

    He was helped out to a cab once people realized he was totally out of it, but honestly:

    1) People would do better not to let themselves lose control to such a degree

    2) Bars and their Bartending staff should not allow their customers to get so out of control. Moderation in all things, or something like that.
  • Celticmusl

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    Aug 12, 2011 1:07 PM GMT
    I think a lot of guys drink so they can use that as an excuse to being whorish. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:13 PM GMT
    Weed > Sobriety >>> Alcohol
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    I like to go out and hang with my friends and a few a drinks but I never go out of my way to get drunk. As a matter of fact I can hold my liquor extremely well and have never been drunk to the point where I pass out or do something foolish. I'm always aware of where I am, how I'm acting and most importantly who I'm with. I always have a plan when I go out and I know when to cut myself off and how to get home. I always remember what happened that night and have never had a hangover. My friends love it when I'm around because I'm responsible and they know they don't have to babysit me and they know I'll be watching them but they hate it that I have a good memory and am prone to remind them of what they did. LOL. Also I'm fine with being the DD. My friends and I take turns being DD and we always watch out for each other. It's a good system.

    My part time job is working in a bar and as a bartender we do take responsibility of our customs and we do cut people off. Ultimately though it's the customers responsibility to know how to handle themselves and cut themselves off before we have too. Know your limit.
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    No you're not alone I don't really like drinkin either. I like the buzzed/drunkish feeling but I was never the type to go crazy and pass out. Did that once and never wanna do it again.
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Well I drink sometimes but I've never gotten drunk in my life. The closest Ive always been was in Montreal when my friends told me to drink straight vodka and I was tipsy but not drunk. I remember the first time I got tipsy I was 21 and I thought it was the weirdest feeling ever lol. Being that said I have low tolerance to alcohol, 1 beer is enough to get me tipsy but then for some reason I just stop drinking, not because I hate it, my body just doesn't crave it in anyway. I guess it's different for other people that actually like drinking and their bodies create a positive response when it comes to alcohol, in my case after one beer I feel more like drinking water, chocolate bars or redbull so why spend more money on something I don't even want?
  • austex85

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    Aug 12, 2011 1:40 PM GMT
    Not a fan of alcohol here. I just drink it socially, but I never understood the appeal of getting shitfaced / throwing up / passing out / feeling like shit / getting fat

    but hey, whatever floats your boat, right?
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    Aug 12, 2011 1:47 PM GMT
    Osailr saidThe clubs here pour so strongly that getting smashed is only about 3 drinks away.

    Why do they do that? Stupid.


    Most people would rather have a lot of liquor in their drink. Why drink 7 drinks to get the same buzz that 3 will give you?

    I love the taste of alcohol, as long as it's whiskey or tequila. If I see that the bartender is only putting in about a shot's worth of alcohol, then filling with tons of mixer, I'll either start asking for doubles, or just taking shots or grabbing a glass of scotch. I hate a weak drink. I'd rather drink water.