Is it silly of me...

  • dancedancekj

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    Aug 12, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
    ... to think that because of a small dating pool I should possibly think of relocating in a few years?

    I live in Omaha. Get all the corn and "Do you have electricity" jokes out now, because although it does have it's shortcomings, I really like it as a city. All four seasons, great underground music scene, easy access to local food and farms, great restaurants and dining (The Grey Plume: Look it up. Heaven for foodies) and relatively easy to get around. Low cost of living, stable housing market, low unemployment, and it is developing rapidly. Plus, people here are super friendly, and it has a rather charming small town feeling as a city. I've got a pretty decent job, great friends, a house with a backyard (which I love because I can garden and landscape) and I have built a great community here.

    My one concern is that the dating pool seems a bit... limited here. It is small (numberwise) for sure - kind of like a small town in that regard as well. I personally have had a very limited success in dating. Not that I profess I am the biggest catch in the world, but sometimes I suspect that there is a large "gay drain" where a lot of young gay men are moving to bigger, more metropolitan areas which is decreasing my chances of finding dateable individuals in the area. I also suspect that there is a bit of xenophobia (i.e. teh racism) in Omaha, which is fine - it's Nebraska and comes with the territory. But I also suspect sometimes that men who are a bit more open minded in that respect are moving to the more metropolitan areas as well. My previous experience has been that when I head to bigger cities such as Chicago, Minneapolis, and LA, I get attention that I don't receive in Omaha, and I can't help but think that it has a bit to do with a certain mentality present in some men in Omaha.
    (Note that it's not all men in Omaha. There are quite a few who are awesome. Although I've found that most of them are in monogamous relationships or have moved away icon_razz.gif)

    I was considering moving to a more metropolitan area in a few years (3-7) after I get my school loans paid down a little bit and gain a bit more experience. I have been thinking about Chicago, Denver, Seattle, and a couple other cities.

    My question is if I should think about moving? Would I be experiencing the same difficulty in a bigger, more metropolitan and international city?
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    Aug 12, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    Give another city a try. If you don't like it, you can always move back to Omaha.

    Try something really different, like on another continent. Really.

    Honolulu was the closest thing I got to living in a foreign country. It was great. Wouldn't trade that experience for anything.

    Now, in San Francisco. I hope I get to live here the rest of my life.
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    Aug 12, 2011 12:10 PM GMT
    What's your impression of Lincoln? Maybe a smaller town but a bigger pool? And you wouldn't have to move terribly far.
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    Aug 12, 2011 12:45 PM GMT
    No, it isn't silly at all, actually. You should pick your city wisely, however. And go to a place where people do the things you enjoy. I moved here to Austin, from much bigger city and while I don't regret my move at all, I do realize that there are 1-2 other cities in Tx that might have a much bigger pool of guys + diversity + people who enjoy sports + high paying job opportunity.
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    Aug 12, 2011 12:49 PM GMT
    With all the positives that you mention, I would say, stay in Omaha. It sounds as though you are content there.