DudeSf, everything you said is unfair. First of all, not being a good communicator is not a "typical gay trait." I'm sick of hearing gay guys refer to every negative trait as GAY only. Damn, i'm glad heteros aren't as perfect as gay men exclude them to be, or else we might never have been gay.
I think the main thing you are forgetting about being gay is how hard it is to be gay. If you are a "typical" gay man, my guess is you haven't been the poster boy for communication. Depending on when you realized it to when you came out, chances are high you had to be secretive and internalize your emotions for an undetermined amount of years that could span a decade or two. That is a lot of internalized angst that couldn't be released. And then there is the living in society and walking on its eggshells, more internalized emotion.
I find it no surprise that gay men find it hard to communicate, but consequently the language of love is universal. Gay or straight, you should KNOW when a relationship is on the skids. The person, naturally withdraws and unless communication is facilited by either party or an outside agitator (or atleast this is what they appear to be at the time)it could possibly never happen!!
If you are the concerned party, then you know. I think most guys get angrier because it's over not that they aren't properly informed by their partner."You haven't been the same for weeks, one minute you're fine, the next minute you're freakin out on me...After all we've been through, I deserve to know what's going on..."