How many of you guys haven't completely ruled out women as a possibility?

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    Aug 12, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    Just wondering how many guys out there in RJ land haven't completely closed that door. Maybe its just me, but, tho I do love men, I still hold on to some possibility that I may meet a woman I could have a life with because I was straight once upon a time. Is this delusional, or product of my upbringing/society/peer pressure???

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    I'm bi and still hookup with random girls, but the fact is you have to disclose if you're going to be serious with a girl and most couldn't handle it in my experience.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    ....or meet a man to spend your life with? Just saying
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    ive net u kanaka icon_smile.gif plus men r more fun
  • Latenight30

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    Honestly I was expecting this to be post by a faceless profile.
    But to answer and be a good sport, never in 20 years. Women drive me up the wall. Don't want kids and only woman I love is my Mother.
  • laxdude25

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:08 PM GMT
    Do whatever feels like is the right path with you, I know mine has been pretty different. First of all, I've tried to never get hung up on labels, notwithstanding the full use of labels below!

    I was 100% hetero through college. Ended up connecting just after graduation with my best buddy from college, who happened to row varsity crew. Instant fireworks, the sex was awesome. I'm a pretty impulsive guy, and more or less instantly decided I must be 100% gay, especially given how great it was to combine my best friend with earth moving sex. My buddy and I essentially lived together on and off for more than a year. We then "broke up" for a number of reasons (he was insatiable for ever bigger cock, and I guess I wasn't big enough at 8"), I dated guys and girls for a while, then met another guy, fell in love again, and went out with him for 18 months or so. Again, didn't work out after a while (he was getting into pretty kinky stuff, which just wasn't me). And I began to wonder if I was really as gay as I thought. A while later I met my wife to be, firerworks, but more importantly our friendship grew into something that was truly amazing and unique. I told her all about my sexuality, she understood and was cool with it, and we got married a year later. She gets me completely, and I can be me with her. Both my former bf's came to our wedding. We've now had 25 years of a great marriage, two kids, along a path that most folks would find strange. My happiness and "choices" have nothing to do with delusion or peer pressure, nor any label. But treat your partner with mutual respect whatever the path.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    im bi, but can really only see hooking up with girls and not actually dating them. they play too many head games and i have been hurt too many times
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    LVmotoJock said
    product of my upbringing/society/peer pressure???
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    I appreciate when people answer their own questions.
    Let's face it: the world is shaped by the straight male point of view. This affects how we see the world. Only through self-analysis and honest assessment can we even begin to undo this socialization/programming/mindset/etc. (And I don't mean therapy...I just mean stopping ourselves in a quiet moment to really think about things that are surprisingly simple and obvious despite the general fuzz.)

    It would be curious to pose this question in 25 years, when the next generation of gay young adults - not even the present Millennials have had the example - have grown up in a society where gay marriage and relationships are public, actualized and exist as an example that moves beyond the dad/mom paradigm.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    Ya, it'd be nice to have someone who could make you a sammich once in a while.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    stone66 saidim bi, but can really only see hooking up with girls and not actually dating them. they play too many head games


    and guys don't? icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    great1one said
    stone66 saidim bi, but can really only see hooking up with girls and not actually dating them. they play too many head games


    and guys don't? icon_lol.gif


    I think we just understand them better because they're the same ones we play.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    I will never close that door. Just saying.
  • RSportsguy

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    I have never had any interest in dating or having sex with a woman! I enjoy the company of many women and have some pretty close friends that are women, but I am only attracted to men. I guess LVmotoJock, you just have to find the right person to fall in love with man or woman. It would not be fair to either of you if you are dating or making long term commitment plans with a woman because of your upbringing/society/peer pressure though. Just my opinion! Good luck!
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    I value the human relationships that I have in my life 100%. I have intimate not sexual relationships with men and women.

    I've identified as a gay male for 13 years. However, I'm coming to terms with the term queer male. I've recently opened up about the fact that I am attracted to women in a sexual/physical sense, but I'm attracted to men in a sexual/physical and romantic sense.

  • NashRugger

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    I have, I'm just not physcially attracted to them other than a nice set of knockers. No physical connection then there is nothing at all.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    LVmotoJock, I am really interested in how you phrased this, "ruled out," "completely closed the door." I think that if you were really attracted to women on a serious level you probably wouldn't be so analytical about it. You'd just know.

    RunintheCity, interesting musings. I think people are going to be a lot less hung up on labels like "gay" and "straight" - people are just going to be who they are. I think we see this already in a lot of younger people.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    I never have, and never will. I frequently get a taste for girl.

    I identify as gay. Deal with it.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    I`d never say it was absolutely impossibe for me to meet a woman and have that full sexual/romantic relationship with her,but after fourty odd years I haven`t found one who even made me hard.....
  • Musicman91

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    I dated a girl back in high school and she was insane! She would get pissed if I talked to any other girl, and I have a ton of friends who are girls. She even thought I had a crush on my cousin because we are pretty close icon_confused.gif

    But she could be all lovey dovey around other guys and that was ok lol. I knew I was gay at the time but I figured I'd try it out and well it didn't workout to well. I am with NashBoomer on the fact that I have no physical connection or attraction to woman whatsoever. I have alot of amazing gal pals but I could never be romantic or physical with a woman.
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    Aug 12, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    trance999 saidYa, it'd be nice to have someone who could make you a sammich once in a while.

    You can't make your own sammich? icon_eek.gif


    LVmotoJockMaybe its just me, but, tho I do love men, I still hold on to some possibility that I may meet a woman I could have a life with because I was straight once upon a time.


    Are you playing "the grass is greener over there" with yourself? Yes, you could meet a woman and have a life with her, but that doesn't mean it would be any less challenging than the life you have now.
  • DrobUA

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:47 PM GMT
    After having sex with a guy for my first time there was no going back. Can't compare the two.

    *Closes Door*
  • Glorfindel

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    Aug 12, 2011 7:47 PM GMT
    I haven't ruled them out. And there are a couple that I actually like.

    I'm more tempted to go back to girls given how shitty my dating life with guys has been. icon_sad.gif Can't seem to find a normal, non-flaky guy whom I share a mutual interest in.
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    Aug 12, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
    Latenight30 saidHonestly I was expecting this to be post by a faceless profile.
    But to answer and be a good sport, never in 20 years. Women drive me up the wall. Don't want kids and only woman I love is my Mother.


    Me too, I have no patience with them and there are few straight women that I want to hang out with.
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    Aug 12, 2011 11:24 PM GMT
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    great1one said
    stone66 saidim bi, but can really only see hooking up with girls and not actually dating them. they play too many head games


    and guys don't? icon_lol.gif


    I think we just understand them better because they're the same ones we play.


    it's true. we do understand guys better. its like women speak a different language that is never what they mean. and im not saying there arent some guys that do the same, but its easier to tell and avoid those people. then again, im single now and cant find anyone....
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    Aug 12, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    I'm bi and still fuck women time to time so yea i haven't let them go