KIDS....

  • kemoze

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    Aug 12, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    I like kids so much....
    i hope one day to have kids
    i have always been thinking about kids, so i think one day when i find a good partner we might adopt one or two kids,
    so, what about you guys , dont you think of having kids? or you already have kids?

    or as gay. what you do you think of this idea?
    we might have the big heart and also the enough resouces to raise kids and enjoy having a nice family...icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    I think that if you want to have kids some day you definitely should.

    I have wondered what it would be like to be a father but I don't see it happening for me. My boyfriend feels the same way. You never know, however. Our feelings could change.

    When I am dating sites like match.com and the potential date has checked "definitely" for wanting kids, it sort of scares me away though. That's just me.
  • Scorpio1113

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    Aug 12, 2011 10:19 PM GMT
    Being a dad is not really a goal of mine, though that doesn't mean it could never happen.One day if my then partner and I are ready, maybe we'll have kids. Or maybe we won't. As of now I can say that I am content with either or. Though that could change in the future. I could never want kids, or I could be dying to be a father icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    I would be okay with dating someone that already has kids.
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    Aug 12, 2011 10:26 PM GMT
    Hell no I would never date someone who has kids!

    Only because, gay men already have enough excuses to flake...throwing in kids would complicate the matter.

    Last minute cancellations and no-shows would be followed by; "my son got sick and I had to rush to the hospital".
  • kemoze

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    Aug 12, 2011 10:36 PM GMT
    what i mean here is, when you and your partner agree on the idea of having kids then why dont both of you adopt a nice kid, really there are lots of homeless kids who are so pretty and just need someone to give them attention and care,
    also this would be good for making the relation between the couples more stronger, just imagine when you and your partner have a nice home, one or two kids, every one is enjoying his job,
    oh god this gonna make the life more interesting ..
    but dating someone who already has kids, this is something different , cuz his kids might not welcome you ,
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    I wanted children until I got older I was scared id find someone have children then they flake on me and I end up having to raise them alone. I ended up being a donor and father a child for a friend of mine. He and his wife wanted a second child, due to a medical problem he couldn't so I donated and gave them their second child
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:19 AM GMT
    . . . anyone else thinking of Paul Lynde? . . .
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    My bf and I want kids when we are older, but we are planning on having a surrogate mother carry it for us... instead of adopting.

    Yay for my future dream coming true icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    Kids are not in my longterm plans to achieve.
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    I absolutely cannot wait to have kids! Having children is something I day dream about all the time and if I could carry a child biologically I would. I am jealous of the fact that heterosexual couples get to experience the miracle of a child with the genetic makeup of the one they love. I know adoption is the responsible choice to make but a part of me wants a child with my own genetic makeup and the genes of my partner as well which would clearly mean two children. However, surrogacy is extremely expensive and there is always that minor detail of finding a female to contribute the necessary egg. I know I will have kids some day but I also worry about all the questions they will have about having two parents who are males and whether they will be chastised by their peers for having gay parents. I guess I will figure out how to deal with those problems as they arrive but I can't wait to be a parent!
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:24 AM GMT
    vballjock16 saidI absolutely cannot wait to have kids! Having children is something I day dream about all the time and if I could carry a child biologically I would. I am jealous of the fact that heterosexual couples get to experience the miracle of a child with the genetic makeup of the one they love. I know adoption is the responsible choice to make but a part of me wants a child with my own genetic makeup and the genes of my partner as well which would clearly mean two children. However, surrogacy is extremely expensive and there is always that minor detail of finding a female to contribute the necessary egg. I know I will have kids some day but I also worry about all the questions they will have about having two parents who are males and whether they will be chastised by their peers for having gay parents. I guess I will figure out how to deal with those problems as they arrive but I can't wait to be a parent!


    I am so jealous too icon_sad.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif
  • davidsticky69

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    Aug 13, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    I love kids so much I have them for breakfast everyday icon_cool.gif
  • kemoze

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    Aug 13, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    vballjock16 said
    . I am jealous of the fact that heterosexual couples get to experience the miracle of a child with the genetic makeup of the one they love. I know adoption is the responsible choice to make but a part of me wants a child with my own genetic makeup and the genes of my partner as well which would clearly mean two children. However,

    for me i strongly believe in something, that having kids with your genetics and the genes of the one you love dosen't mean that you would be happy with your kids, cuz i have been seeing lots of families have lots of troubles and kids dont like their parents at all, and treat them so badly , on the other hand i see lots of adopted kids who like their parents and do anything to please their parents.
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    I want a daughter
  • kemoze

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    Aug 13, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidNo kids for me, no way, José.




    what a big loss to kids
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:19 PM GMT
    Everyone knows this... but I want an orphanage
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    I want a son so I can rear him in my image and have him achieve all the things I never did. I will name him after me and he'll be a huge success. But an alcoholic. Probably. For he'll never get to follow his own dreams. Indeed, he'll never truly know who he really is. A lost soul, traversing the echoes of what never was for another. And he will detest me for it. I thank you.
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    It will depend who I'm with (I don't want kids alone)...

    I've already accepted, and will be happy with, either scenario.