Two weeks into a relationship...

  • nsnhjkj

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    Aug 12, 2011 9:05 PM GMT
    I am now
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    Sorry. icon_cry.gif No, this isn't normal. If I were you I would chalk it up to experience and consider leaving before you get any more invested. It sounds like he misled you as to what he wanted.
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    Wow, I'm shocked that both of you hopped into this relationship so spontaneously. It sounds as though your friend is having second thoughts about having a lover???

    Maybe you could move out as easily as you moved in. Do finances factor into your decision to live with this guy?
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    You moved in with someone after 2 weeks?? Are you a lesbian? Seriously, that was your first mistake. As for him wanting you when you were not there, well, thats how a lot of guys are. They want what they cant have. Now that you are living there, he can have it anytime, so he probably doesnt want it as much. 2 weeks is not a relationship. Its like an extended trick-a-thon. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:36 PM GMT
    I think it have just ran its course. I moved in with my first bf after 3 months and thought that was too soon. I personally would never move in with a guy again without a year of dating first. Sounds like you two rushed things and now its ran its course. Leave now b4 things get worse.
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    Whoa, this story is fucked up from beginning to end. icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    Things have moved way too quickly.

    He may genuinely be tired.

    He may not be that interested now that he has you.

    You have to decide, but I'd suggest moving out and getting to know him better SEPARATELY.

    Don't feel pressured to stay, besides...being around someone all the time can make you sick of them.

    And just because you lost your virginity to him doesn't mean you owe him anything either.
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
    Hello person with no picture with only one post, which happens to be about some extreme relationship issues!
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    Aug 12, 2011 9:49 PM GMT
    Those behaviors are RED FLAGS. Sorry to say this.....you are just an object of desire. It's time to pack your things and leave. I don't even wanna say goodbye if it was me.
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    Aug 12, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    ER_RNMD saidThose behaviors are RED FLAGS. Sorry to say this.....you are just an object of desire. It's time to pack your things and leave. I don't even wanna say goodbye if it was me.


    Ditto.
  • nsnhjkj

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    Aug 12, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    Well thanks for the replies. I think I'm going to sit him down and have a detailed discussion about this. We get along really well and do things together all the time, but it's becoming more like friends and not partners.

    I probably did move too fast. But moving into a new state, not knowing anyone, it seemed comforting moving in with someone I had previously met vs some random roommate. Finances are not an issue and I will probably be moving out very soon.
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    Aug 12, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
    1) You moved in with a complete stranger only days after getting to know them.


    That's just.. what?

    2) He was talking shit to get in your pants - probably didn't enjoy it - and now isn't interested anymore.

    3) He's a douche-ass and you're not the brightest chip off the block if you're willing to move in with someone that quickly. 2 Weeks is hardly a relationship. I knew my boyfriend 8 months before we even first met (Online friends). Then we took it from there. It's been almost 3 years now and I love him more than I did on day one. 2 weeks and you're dealing with this? That's just a one-night stand that didn't end when it should.

    Get out. Stay out. Don't call him back.

    This is an abusive relationship just waiting to explode.
  • kinetic

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    Aug 12, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    2 weeks is WAY too soon. There is no way you can really know someone unless its been a while. Like a year @ least. Also, if he's older w/ house, job etc. That means he prolly is tired. That's exhausting.
    Also, I think that in the back of his head he know's it won't last. Why else would he want you to move in after 2 weeks?
    Do yourself a favor -Date other guys, go out and have fun with some college age guys. There is plenty of time for a 'relationship' once you get your feet wet a bit more. And most importantly MOVE OUT -Before you become dependent on this guy. If that happens its A LOT harder of a situation to leave.
    I should know I lived it for about 5 years. just sayin...
  • jasen202

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    Aug 12, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    Alarm bells:

    I want to be with you forever, even though I don't know you.
    Too much talk about sex and not enough doing it, where neither is happy.
    Sounds like your guy is high maintenance or needy.

    I'm packing my things and storming out the door.
  • calibro

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    Aug 12, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    no, it's not normal to create a fake profile to make a thread.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Aug 13, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    calibro saidno, it's not normal to create a fake profile to make a thread.


    I agree with calibro. Are you so bored and starved for attention that you need to invent a character just to feel important?

    If you're going to invent new profiles all the time, you should at least do it serial-killer style and leave little hints for us. And then, when we've finally figured you out, you can disappear in a puff of smoke.
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said
    calibro saidno, it's not normal to create a fake profile to make a thread.


    I agree with calibro. Are you so bored and starved for attention that you need to invent a character just to feel important?

    If you're going to invent new profiles all the time, you should at least do it serial-killer style and leave little hints for us. And then, when we've finally figured you out, you can disappear in a puff of smoke.


    +1

    (I should be only so lucky after 1900+ posts....)
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    He should be more into you if he's actually into you, get rid of him before you get hurt.
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    We moved in together after a couple of weeks. However, the communication we had was very likely completely different from that of you and your bf. I kept my apartment paid up for another month, then gave notice.

    Here, I want you to listen to this, because I think he simply doesn't want to be alone and has thought only of himself:



    -Doug
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    Aug 13, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said
    calibro saidno, it's not normal to create a fake profile to make a thread.


    I agree with calibro. Are you so bored and starved for attention that you need to invent a character just to feel important?

    If you're going to invent new profiles all the time, you should at least do it serial-killer style and leave little hints for us. And then, when we've finally figured you out, you can disappear in a puff of smoke.


    Serial Killers can disappear in a puff of smoke? Wicked cool.

    The poof part, not the killing breakfast part.
  • iGator

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    Aug 13, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    This is a true story...really? WOW...
  • danisnotstr8

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    Aug 13, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    Cobalt said
    danisnotstr8 said
    calibro saidno, it's not normal to create a fake profile to make a thread.


    I agree with calibro. Are you so bored and starved for attention that you need to invent a character just to feel important?

    If you're going to invent new profiles all the time, you should at least do it serial-killer style and leave little hints for us. And then, when we've finally figured you out, you can disappear in a puff of smoke.


    Serial Killers can disappear in a puff of smoke? Wicked cool.

    The poof part, not the killing breakfast part.


    Oh wait a minute-- that just might be *me* stumbling around in a puff of smoke at the moment...
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    Aug 13, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    He's just not that into you anymore. Dump him and move on.