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  • Musicman91

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    Aug 13, 2011 5:45 AM GMT
    My friends set me up with a guy who they met at a camp they were counsellors at. I went out with him tonight, my first legit date ever. I saw pictures of him and he is very good looking, even more so in person so I felt really akward because I am pretty average looking sitting there with a very hot guy. I thought we were getting along pretty well. Then his phone rang and he excused himself. He was gone for a few minutes and I had to go to the bathroom so I went and I heard the guy talking in a stall on the phone. He said he was with "some fat kid" and he was going to "ditch" him soon making up an excuse that his friend was sick and needed his help I got pretty pissed and when he walked out his face was priceless. I told him he had no need to lie and I hoped his friend got better and I left.

    I am mad he called me fat because I am not fat I have lost alot of weight and I've been working on toning up and trying to look half way decent. This is why I have no gay friends because every gay guy I have met has been a stuck up, arrogant bitch.

    Sorry for the rant just trying not to go for the ice cream and the cheesy Sandra Bullock rom com to drown my sorrows here lol. After all I dont want to get even fatter.
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    Aug 13, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    MusicMan91 saidMy friends set me up with a guy who they met at a camp they were counsellors at. I went out with him tonight, my first legit date ever. I saw pictures of him and he is very good looking, even more so in person so I felt really akward because I am pretty average looking sitting there with a very hot guy.

    ...skip...

    I am mad he called me fat ...
    You just called yourself fat.
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:03 AM GMT
    If I were you id just start snatchen bitcheslol...but seriously..those guys that treat you like shit can stick their egos up their asses
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:05 AM GMT

    I think you should change the title of this thread to:
    "Gay Men Suck"

    First, you wouldn't be wrong (for obvious reasons).
    AND you would gather much more attention to this thread.

    Sad story, BTW... how did you meet the dick-wad???
    Your response to the whole situation was priceless, though... GOOD WORK!!
  • Musicman91

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    Aug 13, 2011 7:46 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    MusicMan91 saidMy friends set me up with a guy who they met at a camp they were counsellors at. I went out with him tonight, my first legit date ever. I saw pictures of him and he is very good looking, even more so in person so I felt really akward because I am pretty average looking sitting there with a very hot guy.

    ...skip...

    I am mad he called me fat ...
    You just called yourself fat.



    "Average" and "fat" are not the same thing.
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:53 AM GMT
    This is why blind dates are a bad idea. I hope you're gonna tell your friends that they are horrible match makers.
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:53 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidI think you should change the title of this thread to:
    "Gay Men Suck"
    First, you wouldn't be wrong (for obvious reasons).
    AND you would gather much more attention to this thread.
    Unwanted attention, because people would go off about generalizations and how they're bad or whatever. icon_neutral.gif Duh.
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    Aug 13, 2011 8:30 AM GMT
    xrichx saidThis is why blind dates are a bad idea. I hope you're gonna tell your friends that they are horrible match makers.


    This....

    Plus I'm sorry to hear such a rude behavior and glad you told him off....Sad thing is that he's not going really be affected by it and resume being a douche.

    Keep your head up mate icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 13, 2011 12:14 PM GMT
    I feel sorry for the man who ends up with that douche. You didn't need him in your life, MusicMan... Good response on your part. Someone who "gets" you will come around icon_smile.gif He's out there. Stay hopeful.
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:08 PM GMT
    Some guys are just conceded and inconsiderate. Don't worry, just tell your friends no more setups.
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:17 PM GMT

    "This is why I have no gay friends because every gay guy I have met has been a stuck up, arrogant bitch."


    A lot of gay people aren't, you know.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 13, 2011 1:21 PM GMT
    You didn't rant.. you told us how you felt and you did the right thing. While I was reading, my instant response was.... I would have just left. I'm glad you did too. He wasn't worth your time.

    Unfortunately many dates don't turn out well.. in this case, consider yourself lucky. You ended it with him whereas if you hadn't heard him on the phone and he did leave, you would have felt worse.

    There are guys out there that will appreciate you and won't call you "fat".
    Do what you can with your fitness and continue to go out on dates.
    I'm confident you'll find a good date eventually.
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:31 PM GMT
    Well I have 2 things to say to this:

    1st: in your defense, screw him, theres always gotta be some guys that are just assholes and can't appreciate someone for who they are.... the guys was an ass hole for what he said, and probably should have kept his mouth shut.

    2nd: in his (small) defense, everyone has different taste, someone i think is hot my friend may think is ugly, so he wasn't into you.. he didn't directly say he thought u were fat, he was talking to another person and he wasn't going to try to hurt you by saying it to you, he was just going to make up a story to leave.... yes, this is childish and it would've just been better to wait out the dinner then just tell you its not working out. But he's immature for doing that, just feel bad for him because he's still using those immature ways of getting out of things
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    Aug 13, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    MusicMan91 said
    I am mad he called me fat because I am not fat I have lost alot of weight and I've been working on toning up and trying to look half way decent. This is why I have no gay friends because every gay guy I have met has been a stuck up, arrogant bitch.

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    Oof, indeed! Especially this person here, wow! I wouldnt give a person who talks like that the time of day.. I used to be more forgiving, but now once people are like that, I basically cut them out immediately.... I still have family who acts like that, but hell, I cant choose them lol
  • starboard5

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    Aug 13, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    You have a handsome face. I see potential hotness written all over you. Keep up your fitness routine but do it for yourself and the way it makes you feel. Everything else is just a perk.
  • dancedancekj

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    Aug 13, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    That guy was super awful, and lame to boot. I'm sorry that was your first actual date experience. I promise you that although there are jerks, there are really nice guys out there too, and don't let him ruin your future experiences in dating.
  • Musicman91

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    Aug 13, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    "This is why I have no gay friends because every gay guy I have met has been a stuck up, arrogant bitch."


    A lot of gay people aren't, you know.



    I'm sure they aren't, alot of people on here seem nice. In my real life experiences all the gay guys I've met just suck lol. Must be the area I live in. I told my friends thanks but no thanks and I'll try and find dates from now on.
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    Aug 13, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    Wow, I am so sorry for that. It's almost unbelievable to me that someone could be so rude. Your response to him was perfect.

    As others have said, keep your head up and don't think on his comments at all.
  • jasen202

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    Aug 13, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    Sorry to hear that. People, regardless whether straight or gay, some can be mean. Most are really cool and do it politely. Obviously, that one guy wasn't and I wouldn't want to be around someone like that anyways, so I would be glad he's gone.
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    Aug 13, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    Imagine what he would've said if you had been black or asian. haha

    "they hooked me up with this gangster rapper"
    or
    "i'm on a date with this oriental".

    it totally happens. haha.

    Sorry bud. It gets better....
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    Aug 13, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    The guy is a douche. Plain and simple. You are better off without him. He did you a favor.

    In fact, you're probably better off being raped by a broomstick than to go on a second date with that douchebag.
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    Aug 13, 2011 8:30 PM GMT
    Really bad gay dates, like the experience you just had, are learning experiences. Although they can be quite miserable as they are happening it does provide a sound education in learning how to spot trouble from a mile away so you never make the same mistake again.

    I am glad you told your friends you would find your own dates from now on - gay matchmaking is very hard to do generally because most younger guys will never be honest about how shallow they are and/or they just might not have adequately expressed what their "type" really is.

    Sorry it was such a bad first gay date ever in your life ... but in a silver lining way it should give you plenty of confidence that you stood up to him. So get back in the sea and find another fish of your own choosing this time. And learn a new lesson from that experience if the date ends with fiery chaos, as some gay dates are known to do ... an unusually high percentage of which are with MD/Ph.D candidates icon_smile.gif
  • MarvelClimber

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    Aug 13, 2011 9:00 PM GMT
    Blind dates typically don't go well unless the person setting you up really knows both parties preferences. But people who like to match-make don't really go that in-depth.

    You might see a lot of superficial assholes out there, but they're out there because no one really wants them. They flit from like-tastes because they don't have the maturity, humility, etc to maintain a real connection with someone. There are plenty of nice, good-looking, single guys out there. Sometimes you have to broaden your view a bit to see them. And I've noticed that you have to look outside of where the douchebags congregate.
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    Aug 13, 2011 9:15 PM GMT
    HisAlterEgo saidBlind dates typically don't go well unless the person setting you up really knows both parties preferences. But people who like to match-make don't really go that in-depth.

    You might see a lot of superficial assholes out there, but they're out there because no one really wants them. They flit from like-tastes because they don't have the maturity, humility, etc to maintain a real connection with someone. There are plenty of nice, good-looking, single guys out there. Sometimes you have to broaden your view a bit to see them. And I've noticed that you have to look outside of where the douchebags congregate.


    Really? Where? Care to share? Please!!! I am begging you!
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    Aug 13, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    I know how you feel. My ex used to say awful things to me, beyond shock and horror. If you're happy with yourself the way you are, which you should be, forget about him. Know that someone else will treat him the same way, sooner or later. Either way, use this experience as an inspiration to prove him wrong.