If a guy doesnt call you back how would you respond to him if you see him in public?

  • ChicagoCarl

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    Aug 13, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    I had what was a seemingly good date and we agreed to have another one. We chatted the next day and I told him to call me with his schedule. Four days pass so I left him a message, but nothing. I figure he is no longer interested, his loss!

    How would you react to him if you see him again in public? I would not be a bitch, we obviously were not meant to be together, but would you have a conversation with him or just a simple head nod?
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    Aug 13, 2011 1:35 PM GMT
    I'd acknowledge him with a head nod if he makes a point of looking at you, other than that I'd file him under unimportant. It's up to him to approach you as you already lobbed the ball into his court.

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    Aug 13, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    head nod
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    Aug 13, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    No to conversation
    Any sort of acknowledgement only if he first does it
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    Aug 13, 2011 2:30 PM GMT
    If he is a friend .. n i feel that he didn't mean it ..I would just ask him why u dont answer ... if something else i would just tell him that am mad at u cuz of that
  • toybrian

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    Aug 13, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    Chicago, sorry to hear that. He should have the decency to at least contact you and say you are not his type or whatever but not to call at all is his loss. If not a match you could have been a good friend then maybe. I would just say "hello" and nothing more unless he talks to you first.
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    Aug 13, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    a half smile and nod usually does this trick. just to show the nice side a little bit.
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    Aug 13, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    meninlove said I'd acknowledge him with a head nod if he makes a point of looking at you, other than that I'd file him under unimportant. It's up to him to approach you as you already lobbed the ball into his court.



    This. As usual, the meninlove are wise. Listen to them.
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    Aug 13, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    Eh, Life goes on......





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  • bmoney1

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    Aug 13, 2011 4:16 PM GMT
    Do and say nothing. Offer no acknowledgement. If he approaches you and speaks, be cordial but agree to nothing. Even if he has a good excuse.

    If you two had developed more of a rapport I'd say no big deal that he didn't answer a phone call.. but after the first date- pretty clear message.
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    Aug 13, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    A head nod. I would not ask him why he didn't call. Unless he's dead or in a comma it's pretty clear why he didn't. I would not give any second chances either. Life is tooo short for those sort of games.
  • kemoze

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    Aug 13, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    Ducky47 saidA head nod. I would not ask him why he didn't call. Unless he's dead or in a comma it's pretty clear why he didn't. I would not give any second chances either. Life is tooo short for those sort of games.


    Exactly what i want to say.
    just a head nod, and nothing more,
    you would make a big mistake if you ask him again,

    life is full of decent guys ...
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    Aug 13, 2011 5:57 PM GMT
    Like others have said, a head nod, or smile and that's it. Whatever you do, if you make eye contact, don't try to act like you didn't see him or turn your head to look away. It's an opportunity to show him how a real adult male acts.

    Also, I don't know why guys act like that. It's one thing if you're doing an online chat. But if you go out on a date, the least you can do is let the person know you're moving on after they reach out to you. I am always pretty straightforward and most guys appreciate me being honest. You can let a guy know, "hey, you seem like a great guy, I'm just in a weird place right now and am looking for something a little different. Best of luck to you."
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    Aug 13, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    Meh I guess I'm the opposite here. I've had this happen a number of times, on both sides (me not calling back) and I try to always be super friendly when I see them. I don't take someone not being interested as an insult, so why be unfriendly?

    There was one guy I was interested in but he was kind of an asshole after we hooked up... but now I see him out all the time. We'll dance together and talk. I don't really care... also I plan on sleeping with his friend (just kidding.... ?)
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    Aug 13, 2011 6:01 PM GMT
    It is absolutely his loss. You just have to understand that there are a lot of bastards out there in the dating pool. If you let every single one of them bother you, you'd be dead. So don't let it bother you. Go on with your life and live to the fullest. It is the best revenge.
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    Aug 13, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    bmoney1 saidDo and say nothing. Offer no acknowledgement. If he approaches you and speaks, be cordial but agree to nothing. Even if he has a good excuse.

    If you two had developed more of a rapport I'd say no big deal that he didn't answer a phone call.. but after the first date- pretty clear message.


    Exactly...I don't get all this head nod stuff.

    If they can't acknowledge you on the phone then don't acknowledge them in person. simple as that.

    steamfunk saidI don't take someone not being interested as an insult, so why be unfriendly?


    It's not about being unfriendly. It's about not being a doormat and just letting people treat you any kind of way.

    I would be a fool to run up to someone who has clearly shown no interest in me. All that does is make them look good and make you look bad.

    I had to do that to someone the other month. We met 3 times before. But on the 3rd time he act like he wasn't interested anymore even though he spent the night. I seen him a couple weeks later at the club and didn't even acknowledge him. And neither did he.

  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 13, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    My advice would be to ignore him.He obviously doesn`t want to see you.
  • aumsean77

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    Aug 13, 2011 10:31 PM GMT
    Ducky47 saidA head nod. I would not ask him why he didn't call. Unless he's dead or in a comma it's pretty clear why he didn't. I would not give any second chances either. Life is tooo short for those sort of games.


    Agreed. We've all been there, and the high road is the best route. You'll be glad you took it.
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    Aug 14, 2011 9:25 AM GMT
    If I could, I'd simply breeze pass him without batting an eye....If there was eye contact, then I would give a small nod...icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    Greet him with this.
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    Make sure he lands with his head first.
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    File under ignore.

    I don't even think a head nod is necessary.
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidFile under ignore.

    I don't even think a head nod is necessary.



    Not necessary, but classy, I think. And maybe, just maybe the other guy will learn something. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    I'd keep on truckin'. No hostility but no hospitality either. If he said hi to me then I suppose I'd acknowledge it just to be the bigger person but other then that I wouldn't feel the need to say hi to him. I'd just file it and move on past it.

    Crying over spilled milk doesn't get the dirt out. Just pour another cup.
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    Aug 14, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    TroyAthlete saidFile under ignore.

    I don't even think a head nod is necessary.



    Not necessary, but classy, I think. And maybe, just maybe the other guy will learn something. icon_wink.gif


    Or a waste of a good head nod.

    He might learn something from a punch in the face. But if a guy in his 20s, 30s, 40s is so reatarded on his social cues that he hasn't learned common dating courtesy in all those years (i.e. don't agree to another date if you're not interested), it's highly doubtful that his epiphany moment will come from your head nod.

    If you must do it, do it for your own benefit, i.e., to get a temporary high from making yourself feel superior. But never expect an ass to get the message.
  • mybud

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    Aug 14, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    You look him in the eye....nod....say hi.....move on.....BUD