what are your requirements in order for someone to date you? Example: Must live close by.. Are you flextable on any of them?

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    May 03, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    Must list is short..
    1. Must love dogs..
    2. Must be willing to spend hours being close to only one person.
    3. Must care about other people and not treat them less because of there place in life or what they look like or how the might not be in shape.
    4. Must be able to hold a converstaion on something other than just working out...
    5. Must understand I do not drink or smoke and never will.
  • GQjock

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    May 03, 2008 3:41 AM GMT
    Here's the top Five ...

    1. Does not smoke

    2. Drug free

    3. Handsome and Hunky ... hey it's my wish list alright

    4. Witty and on the cocky side

    5. Has a job please
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    May 03, 2008 3:50 AM GMT
    for me:

    SHORT!!!! (the angle of the dangle is inversely proportional to the height of the man)

    Decent physical shape

    No smoke, No drugs, Limited alcohol

    Allow me my "down time" when I need to be alone reading

    Dedicated and loyal to me

    Has a job please (that made me laugh!!! So true!)
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    May 03, 2008 3:52 AM GMT
    Requirements huh? Hmmmmm

    1) Good hygiene

    2) Non Smoker/drugs

    3) Sense of humor

    4) Be HONEST - I hate people who lie icon_evil.gif

    5) Independent - not needy

    6) IN SHAPE (doesn't have to be perfect, I'm far from it, but c'mon... if you're heaving going up the stairs, how are you going to keep up with me in other ways? icon_twisted.gif.)
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    May 03, 2008 7:26 AM GMT
    Football_lover saidMust list is short..
    1. Must love dogs..
    2. Must be willing to spend hours being close to only one person.
    3. Must care about other people and not treat them less because of there place in life or what they look like or how the might not be in shape.
    4. Must be able to hold a converstaion on something other than just working out...
    5. Must understand I do not drink or smoke and never will.

    happened to Football Lover as well?

    Oh what
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    May 03, 2008 7:29 AM GMT
    Well l hope l never have to date again as l have my Boy but if it comes to that ......

    1.Must be up front no bullshit
    2.None smoker if possible
    3.No ulterior motive for being with me
    4.Young sexy and tall if possible
    5.Does not have to be Mr Universe
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    May 03, 2008 7:53 AM GMT
    Nothing special at all. He's interested, I'm interested, it's physically possible, and he's not a psycho axe murderer. That's it. icon_razz.gif
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    May 03, 2008 8:27 AM GMT
    Here are some of mine for consideration:

    Loyal
    Intelligent / well educated
    Urbane / enjoys town and country lifestyle
    Appreciative / good upbeat attitude
    Enjoys people / likes having them around
    Sensual / sensuous / in tune with me
    In shape / worked out
    Clean living / Joan Crawford here
    Non smkr / no drugs
    Not after money / has his own
    In short, a happy, smart, sexy, worked out, responsible hunk (a clone of me!)





  • DeeB

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    May 03, 2008 11:45 AM GMT
    1) good hygiene (teeth mainly)
    2) No LIARS, cheaters
    3) someone with goals
    4) someone who has confidence, and knows the difference between cofidence and arrogant.
    5) Must take care of their responsibilities.
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    May 03, 2008 12:17 PM GMT
    Must list (not the wish list) in no particular order:

    1. Not an addict (drugs, alcohol or cigarettes)
    2. Must be independent personally and financially. He doesn't have to be rich, just not financially dependent on me.
    3. Must have an active want to learn. A sense of personal progressive self development. Not stagnant in a cultural, intellectual or spiritual way.
    4. Must be compassionate and empathetic. No bigotry, judgmental behavior.
    5. Must have an active lifestyle. (workout, outdoor activity, sports etc.)

    These are not 100% absolutes for no one can be perfect in everything, but they are basic tenants of starting a relationship.

    Now the wish list...that's another story entirely.
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    May 03, 2008 12:29 PM GMT
    What are your requirements in order for someone to date you?

    Hmmmmm....

    Well, he is probably going to have to ask my partner if he CAN date me first...
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    May 03, 2008 1:19 PM GMT
    1. No smoking, no drugs...period.

    2. Be passionate about something - as in, have in interest or hobby that you love! I hate it when I ask someone what they like to do in their free time and they reply with, "I don't know" or "Go to bars." Ugh...c'mon. Paint, read, collect books on bizarre insects, design the perfect paper airplane...DO SOMETHING!

    3. Must love food. Think about it - when you do something 3-5 times a day EVERY day, you should try make it interesting. Ya know?!

    4. Have healthy habits...exercise, diet, etc. And no, I'm not willing to get you in shape.

    5. Above all, BE COMPLETE! I'm not going to "complete" you, and I don't need you to "complete" me. I'm doing just fine nurturing my own soul...you should be doing the same.

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    May 03, 2008 1:23 PM GMT
    I'm not so organized that I make such a list. I meet lots of guys for sex. If I really click with one, I date him.

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    May 03, 2008 2:12 PM GMT
    I always said "No smokers". Well, guess what? I met a guy who I really like, and he's a smoker. We get along well together, and he goes outside to smoke and brushes his teeth a lot. So I guess the point is, be careful about your list!
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    May 04, 2008 1:27 AM GMT
    Some of the ones that I should have listed and loved seeing being listed...
    Has a job please
    Independent - not needy
    Urbane / enjoys town and country lifestyle
    Clean living / Joan Crawford here
    Not after money / has his own
    Must take care of their responsibilities.
    Must be compassionate and empathetic. No bigotry, judgmental behavior.

    And what I look for most...
    NO BULLSHIT....
  • dfrourke

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    May 04, 2008 1:33 AM GMT

    I have to agree with most of the requirements that have already been listed...I also find that as I get older that list gets longer...and the more comfortable I am with my own self...the less I am likely to be flexible...

    - David
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    May 04, 2008 1:38 AM GMT
    I agree with pretty much everyone's to some degree (especially the gainfully employed).

    My number one requirement though is - they must be out.

    Met/dated/slept with a couple of guys in recent months who have been relationship worthy, but have been so far in the closet that they don't want to go out with and be seen in public with a gay guy.

    It may be harsh... but if I'm with a man, I want to be seen with him, take him out to dinner, take him dancing. Just can't do that when someone is in the closet.
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    May 04, 2008 2:00 AM GMT
    Pretty much covered some of this in my profile...

    1. Confidence but not cocky. Wait, a little cocky is intriguing. Cocky entering arrogance? NO!
    2. Passionate about life.
    3. Romantic but not clingy
    4. Loyal
    5. Incredible sense of humor
    6. Respects their own body and does not abuse it.
    7. Awesome communicator
    8. Makes me think. Challenges me in an established topic of interest. A hot debate where he gets on my last nerve can get me very fired up and horny as hell. It's a turn on to watch his passion for something come out.
    9. has no shame in revealing his inner child but knows when to reel that in.
    10. Knows how to make love slowly, passionately vs a generic suck, jerk, and fuck. The later is very acceptable as well and bound to happen, but must balance the two situations out.
    11. Doesn't have multiple accounts on a bunch of gay chat sites where he communicates with complete strangers and tries to feed his ego by putting up a bunch of hot photos of himself while I'm in the next room figuring out our weekly budget icon_smile.gif wink wink!
    12. Looks like a young Dermot Mulroney. Fuck it, I'll take an aging gracefully looking Dermot Mulroney. Hey, it's my prototype of perfection might as well be specific LOL

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    13. Loves to cuddle
    14. Creative and non stop goal setter.
    15. Athletic and enjoys being active physically
    17. Willing to shave off too much body hair. Willing to trust me and let me do the shaving.
    18. This one is strange but in an ideal fantasy he'd be over 6ft tall. The taller the better. I don't know why. I'm not at all so fixed on this that it's a definite requirement but if Gay Santa is watching and taking notes include that as well. Just as an added bonus.
    Damn... the list goes on and on.....
  • EricPrado

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    May 04, 2008 5:57 AM GMT
    redheaded_dude saidI always said "No smokers". Well, guess what? I met a guy who I really like, and he's a smoker. We get along well together, and he goes outside to smoke and brushes his teeth a lot. So I guess the point is, be careful about your list!





    very true.
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    May 04, 2008 7:57 AM GMT
    Requirements;

    a) He bathes regularly
    b) He has all his teeth to brush
    c) He can conjugate basic verbs
    d) He knows the show "Courtship of Eddie's Father"
    e) He doesn't snore
    f) He doesn't smoke or partake in chemical substances
    g) He drinks very minimally if at all
    h) He works in a job
    i) He has friends
    j) He can get it up on a regular basis

    Any takers? icon_lol.gif

    B787
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    May 04, 2008 8:00 AM GMT
    BREATHING! Everything else can be worked on. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 05, 2008 8:04 AM GMT
    Geez... do you tick off everything on these check lists before saying yes to a date invitation? LOL

    It's a date! Not marriage! icon_razz.gif
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    May 05, 2008 1:33 PM GMT
    BIG COCK.


    I am a whore.
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    May 05, 2008 1:37 PM GMT
    6 figure bank account and a yacht in the Bahamas
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    May 05, 2008 2:21 PM GMT
    Well....all I can say is I almost broke up with my boyfriend twice in the beginning because he didn't fit what I had in mind (and I realize how stupid that is and I have never told him that - and never will). Anyway, the more I got to know him the more I liked him. We always have a great time together and he makes me laugh. He's one of the nicest people I've ever met and is always willing to lend a helping hand. He accepts me and all of my quirks and doesn't even act as if they are quirks.

    If things were to end today, I feel I have learned a lot and I'm a better person for knowing him. We both agree that we will maintain a friendship if anything were to happen and we're both secure enough to know that we are responsible for our own happiness.

    So, be careful of your lists and be willing to change them or you may miss out on someone great. Also think about when you've been rejected for not measuring up to someone's list. How did it feel? Did you feel that person gave you a chance or just rejected you because you didn't fit his image of the ideal boyfriend? Remember that feeling when you're tempted to reject someone.