5 Things you should absolutely Know After your first date

  • Zcube

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    Aug 14, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    Alright, so tell me all what are your top 5 lists?
    Since anyone can fabricate a story on their own profiles and pretend to say things just to make you feel more comfortable going into the first, date I thought the best way to really get to know a guy is face to face, when they can't pretend to hide things. hehe so here's my list

    (The list is not in any particular order)
    1) Sanity (you can almost tell from their eyes or awkward mannerisms if something is up).
    2) Top/Bottom/Vers (Can 2 bottoms date? Sure. Can They have an awesome relationship? Yes. What happens when you take the relationship to bed? IDK, mine didn't last)
    3) Education/Work
    4) If we have anything in common.
    5) Short Term Goal/Goal in this date (i.e. casual dating, long term, short term, a fuck bud)

    Happy Sharing.
  • mybud

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    Aug 14, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    1) Common interests
    2) Family relationships
    3) Core beliefs
    4) Work and Education
    5) Confident in themselves
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    Aug 14, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    mybud said
    3) Core beliefs

    5) Confident in themselves

    Those two are all I really need to know and I'll place confident at number one
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    1.) Did I get his full name (and he mine)?
    2.) Did we have anything in common?
    3.) Did we both have fun?
    4.) Do we want to meet again?
    5.) If so, when and doing what?
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    sahem62896 said1.) Did I get his full name (and he mine)?
    2.) Did we have anything in common?
    3.) Did we both have fun?
    4.) Do we want to meet again?
    5.) If so, when and doing what?


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    Aug 14, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    - If they are either complete top/bottom, are they willing to go versatile?

    - Is he currently seeing anybody else?

    - Does he have any medical/mental conditions that require medication/therapy

    - Is he actually completely gay? Or is he actually bisexual?

    - Is he meeting me because he just wanted sex or something else? And if just sex, is he open to more if I am?

    I would think these things you MUST know by the end of the first date... assuming you didnt meet them online where two of these points are generally covered already... make sense?
  • calibro

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    Aug 14, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    90 percent of the time if someone tries to figure out if i'm a top or bottom on a first date i say goodbye.
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:38 AM GMT
    calibro said90 percent of the time if someone tries to figure out if i'm a top or bottom on a first date i say goodbye.

    Indeed and when I take you out for coffee I'm just assuming your a bottom... so all the better for me icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    Ive never asked anyone if they were a top or a bottom it always just worked out lol
  • calibro

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    Aug 14, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    calibro said90 percent of the time if someone tries to figure out if i'm a top or bottom on a first date i say goodbye.

    Indeed and when I take you out for coffee I'm just assuming your a bottom... so all the better for me icon_razz.gif


    wombo, with you i don't think it would matter... i have a feeling i'd be chained to a bed, arse in the air regardless of what i said
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    calibro said
    lilTanker said
    calibro said90 percent of the time if someone tries to figure out if i'm a top or bottom on a first date i say goodbye.

    Indeed and when I take you out for coffee I'm just assuming your a bottom... so all the better for me icon_razz.gif


    wombo, with you i don't think it would matter... i have a feeling i'd be chained to a bed, arse in the air regardless of what i said

    Noooooo I wouldn't use chains, rope is better with slip knots so when you struggle is just gets tighter and tighter!
  • Hunter9

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    did i enjoy spending time with him?

    that is all i need to know (assuming he already passed the 'good looking test')
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    calibro said
    lilTanker said
    calibro said90 percent of the time if someone tries to figure out if i'm a top or bottom on a first date i say goodbye.

    Indeed and when I take you out for coffee I'm just assuming your a bottom... so all the better for me icon_razz.gif


    wombo, with you i don't think it would matter... i have a feeling i'd be chained to a bed, arse in the air regardless of what i said

    Noooooo I wouldn't use chains, rope is better with slip knots so when you struggle is just gets tighter and tighter!


    Plus, rope leaves these nice marks that you can look at for a few days as a reminder of what a great night you had. icon_twisted.gif
  • stratavos

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:12 AM GMT
    both joke and serious answers:
    1) did we have any chemistry?
    2) are we going to meet-up again?
    3) can I play games (virtual and real) with them?
    4) (if they were from the internet) how accurately did they portray themselves on their profile?
    5) are there any shows we can see together?
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    Why did it take 4 post before someone said "full name"....That should have been #1 in the frist post...really guys....
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    1-Mental Sanity. If you're not there yet. I'm even gonna bother.
    2-Life goals. You MUST have something that can get me interested in you.
    3-Common Interest. Good but not a total requirement.
    4-Work/Education level. A MUST
    5-Your presence. That speaks volumes.

    But I would prefer to have them fill out one of these just to play it safe.

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  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    calibro said
    lilTanker said
    calibro said90 percent of the time if someone tries to figure out if i'm a top or bottom on a first date i say goodbye.

    Indeed and when I take you out for coffee I'm just assuming your a bottom... so all the better for me icon_razz.gif


    wombo, with you i don't think it would matter... i have a feeling i'd be chained to a bed, arse in the air regardless of what i said

    Noooooo I wouldn't use chains, rope is better with slip knots so when you struggle is just gets tighter and tighter!


    OOOOHHH...the slip knot thing is getting me excited!!!
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    11337S saidi've got my own set of things i look out for.. i could go on but im really big on the shoes! i started noticing a pattern..

    u know those guys who work corporate jobs and lose their lives in it and have only old sneakers that they use and it could pass off for being casual but then they have those mid-high socks? or worse, they have the long ones and just kinda roll em down??

    it wasn't til i saw someone with those socks that i took notice of the shoes.

    never, never, never, trust a man with shit shoes! whether or not the shoes look ok, if they seem crap, he more than likely is.. the feet reveal sooo much! like if u catch somebody and they're heading out, before they walk out the door you know if they find you worth their time and whether or not they're listening if their feet are still pointing towards their original destination; out the door!!!!!!

    watch their shoes.. if the shoes are ugly, if they're not a knowable name brand (they don't have to be brand spanking new; i'm not saying become a sneaker whore)..... if they're of good quality, you got yourself a good one.

    but if the guy is walking around with skechers or something that looks he stole from ferris beullers' goodwill donation to kmart, yeah, u got yourself a wheeler and dealer and more than like, he's not attractive anyway so why are u there to begin with?

    i'll never accept a date from a guy with crap shoes. i noticed the pattern with people trying to build something to be 'friends'.... i don't buy it, not w them shoes.. they're just trying to get on my good side and waiting for the 'trust' to build thinking that once it does, that i won't see their ugliness.

    those guys are the worst!
    they try t pass of for being good guys because they're ugly
    so they can't just flat out petition you for sex like guys who are 'fit',
    so they result to going under the belt; you musn't let them!
    never allow them in!!!!!!!!!!!



    Wow. Seriously, you're making all those judgments off of a pair of shoes?

    From a different perspective, I'd say that if a guy cared what shoes I was wearing, that would be reason enough not to want a second date.
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:53 AM GMT
    1 up or down
    2 in or out
    3 backwards or forwards
    4 upside down or right side up
    5 left or right

    you interpret them.
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:56 AM GMT
    Zcube said...
    1) Sanity (you can almost tell from their eyes or awkward mannerisms if something is up).
    ...


    Crazy can hide for a while. When it comes out...surprise!
  • Hunter9

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    Aug 14, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    MSUBioNerd said
    11337S saidi've got my own set of things i look out for.. i could go on but im really big on the shoes! i started noticing a pattern..

    u know those guys who work corporate jobs and lose their lives in it and have only old sneakers that they use and it could pass off for being casual but then they have those mid-high socks? or worse, they have the long ones and just kinda roll em down??

    it wasn't til i saw someone with those socks that i took notice of the shoes.

    never, never, never, trust a man with shit shoes! whether or not the shoes look ok, if they seem crap, he more than likely is.. the feet reveal sooo much! like if u catch somebody and they're heading out, before they walk out the door you know if they find you worth their time and whether or not they're listening if their feet are still pointing towards their original destination; out the door!!!!!!

    watch their shoes.. if the shoes are ugly, if they're not a knowable name brand (they don't have to be brand spanking new; i'm not saying become a sneaker whore)..... if they're of good quality, you got yourself a good one.

    but if the guy is walking around with skechers or something that looks he stole from ferris beullers' goodwill donation to kmart, yeah, u got yourself a wheeler and dealer and more than like, he's not attractive anyway so why are u there to begin with?

    i'll never accept a date from a guy with crap shoes. i noticed the pattern with people trying to build something to be 'friends'.... i don't buy it, not w them shoes.. they're just trying to get on my good side and waiting for the 'trust' to build thinking that once it does, that i won't see their ugliness.

    those guys are the worst!
    they try t pass of for being good guys because they're ugly
    so they can't just flat out petition you for sex like guys who are 'fit',
    so they result to going under the belt; you musn't let them!
    never allow them in!!!!!!!!!!!



    Wow. Seriously, you're making all those judgments off of a pair of shoes?

    From a different perspective, I'd say that if a guy cared what shoes I was wearing, that would be reason enough not to want a second date.


    I agree 100%... and somehow I end up going on dates with these judgmental scumbags more often than not. it takes about 90 seconds for me to realize im not interested
  • MSUBioNerd

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    Aug 14, 2011 4:12 AM GMT
    [quote]
    i simplify it.
    it takes about one look at ur shoes
    to be able to tell u that
    i'm not interested.

    y so defensive, men?
    GET SOME FUCKING SHOES!!!!!!!!!!!!![/quote]

    The reason for the reaction to your statements has nothing to do with the state of our shoes. It has to do with building an entire philosophy over whether someone's worth dating based on something completely arbitrary and superficial. If you're going to make statements about how people with unknown brand names of shoes aren't worth dating, responses that boil down to "superficially judgmental people aren't worth dating" are pretty much to be expected as a response.

    I'm not saying I agree with all of the other criteria people are throwing out there -- some I do, some I don't -- but really, the brand of shoes they're wearing strikes me as fundamentally way more ridiculous than anything else offered in earnest on this thread.
  • Zcube

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    Aug 14, 2011 4:43 AM GMT
    ESCESV said1-Mental Sanity. If you're not there yet. I'm even gonna bother.
    2-Life goals. You MUST have something that can get me interested in you.
    3-Common Interest. Good but not a total requirement.
    4-Work/Education level. A MUST
    5-Your presence. That speaks volumes.

    But I would prefer to have them fill out one of these just to play it safe.

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    Haha I love that one.
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    ESCESV said1-Mental Sanity. If you're not there yet. I'm even gonna bother.
    2-Life goals. You MUST have something that can get me interested in you.
    3-Common Interest. Good but not a total requirement.
    4-Work/Education level. A MUST
    5-Your presence. That speaks volumes.

    But I would prefer to have them fill out one of these just to play it safe.

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    And what if, let's just say, oooh for argument's sake... that one's guy wasn't interested in applying for the "Boyfriend" position? icon_neutral.gif
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    CHIdude said
    ESCESV said1-Mental Sanity. If you're not there yet. I'm even gonna bother.
    2-Life goals. You MUST have something that can get me interested in you.
    3-Common Interest. Good but not a total requirement.
    4-Work/Education level. A MUST
    5-Your presence. That speaks volumes.

    But I would prefer to have them fill out one of these just to play it safe.

    25a3q6d.jpg


    And what if, let's just say, oooh for argument's sake... that one's guy wasn't interested in applying for the "Boyfriend" position? icon_neutral.gif


    Then he wasn't interested in anything other than a date in the first place. The first date is always to evaluate the person. If things went/seem OK, then you'll have a second date and third. BF material should only be considered after a few non-sexual dates. At least that's how I view this. The application would be to seal the deal when you know you had found THE guy.