Is it weird for a straight guy to give you a random compliment?

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    I went out to grab some lunch. I am walking back to my condo and there is a guy sitting in front of what use to be Borders. He was in his 20s, tatted up, had a skate board. Looked thuggish but could have also been homeless. I thought he was going to ask me for money. I got more of the "I will steal your car" vibe than a gay vibe.

    Anywho....I am walking past and just as I do he looks up at me and instead of asking for money says "wow, you are ripped dude". icon_biggrin.gif I still have the "fat guy becoming middle aged" mentality. So the unsolicited comment was nice to hear. But is it weird for some stranger on the street to comment on what you look like?

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    Not at all. There is this one guy that I know, he's married and have three kids witty his wife, but I loves going around complimenting guys' asses. Go figure.
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    Aug 14, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    Not uncommon. In fact, I get more random complements from straight guys than I do from gay guys.

    Or, are those straight guys perhaps "not so straight"?????


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    Aug 14, 2011 5:04 AM GMT
    Happens a lot at the gym. I definitely appreciate it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 6:00 AM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said He was in his 20s, tatted up, had a skate board. Looked thuggish but could have also been homeless. I thought he was going to ask me for money.


    And the moral of the story is: don't just a book by its cover. Just because he looked like that doesn't mean that he could be homeless. I know plenty of kids with that exterior, and they come from nice families and neighborhoods.
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    Aug 14, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    well i guess the one advantage of not being out is that i can assure you that plenty of straight guys talk about their bodies too. i get the feleing that if they thought i was gay they wouldnt say anything
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    Aug 14, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    I always accept compliments. How rude would it be to discard someone's kindness.
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    Aug 14, 2011 12:50 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidI went out to grab some lunch. I am walking back to my condo and there is a guy sitting in front of what use to be Borders. He was in his 20s, tatted up, had a skate board. Looked thuggish but could have also been homeless. I thought he was going to ask me for money. I got more of the "I will steal your car" vibe than a gay vibe.

    Anywho....I am walking past and just as I do he looks up at me and instead of asking for money says "wow, you are ripped dude". icon_biggrin.gif I still have the "fat guy becoming middle aged" mentality. So the unsolicited comment was nice to hear. But is it weird for some stranger on the street to comment on what you look like?



    he sounds hot in a skater dude sort of way. i find the younger ones are generally more open to what ever comes their way.
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    Aug 14, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
    Accept the compliment and smile gracious icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 12:56 PM GMT
    j170 saidwell i guess the one advantage of not being out is that i can assure you that plenty of straight guys talk about their bodies too. i get the feleing that if they thought i was gay they wouldnt say anything
    ^this
    For the past few weeks I've "pretended" to be in the closet while working out of town where people don't know me. It's amazing how many "straight" guys are body conscious, and appreciate other guys with well built and defined bodies...though most of them are not into anal or oral sex. Since I'm also not into that, it makes it much easier to bond with them.

    In fact, I've been seriously considering deleting all my gay profiles and going back in the closet just so I can be myself again. Not being into anal or oral, I get more hate from the gay community than the straight. Straight guys love touching and mutual masturbation on the DL once they're comfortable with you. icon_cool.gif
  • LJay

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    Aug 14, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    It is pretty common for straight guys to say stuff like this. Someone who takes the time to work out seems to impress them. It's like knowing the ball games and the team and all that. Means nothing.
  • starboard5

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    Aug 14, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    It's a different generation. Had two boys in my gym locker room who couldn't have been much more than 20 spontaneously compliment my body and there was no doubt at all they were straight. I took it as an honest compliment since there was no sexual component. Like I said, they're a different breed now and I think it's a positive change toward more openness and honesty.
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    Aug 14, 2011 1:05 PM GMT
    How do you really know he was straight?
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    I don't think it's weird at all. Young guys these days are way more relaxed and just chill. I give compliments all the time to men and women.

    I think people can appreciate all the work it takes to get there, especially men. Giving another man a compliment or checking him out in a non sexual way doesn't mean one is gay.icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    I'm always waiting for the compliment to be followed by: ".....for your age".....

    Luckily, most people think I'm younger than I am so that's not normally the situation for me. But a compliment is a compliment, so feel flattered, regardless of the source.

    One that got me thinking, in a negative way, the other day was this. This Asian guy, whose build was closer to, say, John Goodman, tapped me on the shoulder, gave me a thumbs up, and said, "yeah, another big Asian". Needless to say, I cut more carbs out of my diet. I'm now at 186
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    I get the "for your age" and "you don't look that old" things once in a while. I think they're great compliments.

    I don't think off-the-cuff comments are weird. It's more of a "nice work/good job" kind of compliment rather than "you're hot/let's go" compliment.

    Both are welcome though :-)


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    Aug 14, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    How do you know he was straight Dallasfan824? Gays and Bis come in all shapes, sizes and behaviours. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
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    j170 saidwell i guess the one advantage of not being out is that i can assure you that plenty of straight guys talk about their bodies too. i get the feleing that if they thought i was gay they wouldnt say anything
    ^this
    For the past few weeks I've "pretended" to be in the closet while working out of town where people don't know me. It's amazing how many "straight" guys are body conscious, and appreciate other guys with well built and defined bodies...though most of them are not into anal or oral sex. Since I'm also not into that, it makes it much easier to bond with them.

    In fact, I've been seriously considering deleting all my gay profiles and going back in the closet just so I can be myself again. Not being into anal or oral, I get more hate from the gay community than the straight. Straight guys love touching and mutual masturbation on the DL once they're comfortable with you. icon_cool.gif


    Wait you are not into oral or anal? I mean I kinda get maybe anal, and maybe not giving blowjobs, but what is wrong with receiving them icon_smile.gif?

    Not being a hater I just find this extremely bizarre.
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    Its just a compliment, appreciate it, after all, we're all humans....right???
  • ATXnative

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    Straight guys can be kind too.

    Funny story, my university in San Marcos is notorious for being fulllll of totally hot studs. I had some favorites out of the hundreds over the years I was there. I met my favorite at the gym in my hometown, and we became loose friends.. we were supposed to go to nursing school together actually.

    But one time, when I was still on the fence about his orientation.

    Big, strong, blonde, cut, blue-eyed guy walks up to me, hey shawn. Man you look much bigger, you have been workin out.

    I gawked. But quickly recovered!
  • GQjock

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    Aug 14, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    I wouldn't put too much thought to it
    It was a nice compliment say thank you appreciate that your work is being apecoated and go on with your life
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
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    paulflexes said
    j170 saidwell i guess the one advantage of not being out is that i can assure you that plenty of straight guys talk about their bodies too. i get the feleing that if they thought i was gay they wouldnt say anything
    ^this
    For the past few weeks I've "pretended" to be in the closet while working out of town where people don't know me. It's amazing how many "straight" guys are body conscious, and appreciate other guys with well built and defined bodies...though most of them are not into anal or oral sex. Since I'm also not into that, it makes it much easier to bond with them.

    In fact, I've been seriously considering deleting all my gay profiles and going back in the closet just so I can be myself again. Not being into anal or oral, I get more hate from the gay community than the straight. Straight guys love touching and mutual masturbation on the DL once they're comfortable with you. icon_cool.gif


    Wait you are not into oral or anal? I mean I kinda get maybe anal, and maybe not giving blowjobs, but what is wrong with receiving them icon_smile.gif?

    Not being a hater I just find this extremely bizarre.


    I don't find it bizarre. I think kissing, touching and mutual masturbation can be hot just on its own. Makes it hard to find someone who agrees icon_rolleyes.gif , but, each to their own.

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    Anyway, not to hijack the thread with a tangential discussion, I once had a guy at a bus station approach me and say 'hey man, I like your style'. I was just dressed in very casual clothes for uni. I nodded in an 'err..okay' way and said thanks. The only reason it was weird was because it was unexpected.

    So, I think it would only be weird if one is used to having mental blinkers on whilst in public and not expecting to be approached or talked to. Otherwise, it's a nice occurence ^^
  • djloner

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    Aug 14, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'm so glad the younger generation is more accepting and open than mine. I have terrible gaydar though, and I wish there was a socially acceptable gay "sign" so I knew who I could flirt with in public. Straight people have the wedding bands, gender differences, and well, 90 percent of the adult population for making such decisions. Are there other ways besides going to gay venues or stereotyping, to meet gay men in public without the embarrassment of guessing?
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    Aug 14, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    It's a compliment. You take it with a grain of salt and move on.
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    Aug 14, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'm so glad the younger generation is more accepting and open than mine. I have terrible gaydar though, and I wish there was a socially acceptable gay "sign" so I knew who I could flirt with in public. Straight people have the wedding bands, gender differences, and well, 90 percent of the adult population for making such decisions. Are there other ways besides going to gay venues or stereotyping, to meet gay men in public without the embarrassment of guessing?