Do muscular guys only go for muscular guys? If so, what about the non-muscular guys who wants to go for muscular guys?

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    Aug 14, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    Just a weird nagging question I've been havng since the start of today. To start with, I confess that I have a HUGE fetish (pun intended) with extremely muscular physiques (bodybuilders, weightlifters, rugby players, et. al.), and I've confided with my closest friends on more than one occasion that I'd like to someday meet up and be close with someone who's waaaaay more muscular than myself. It wasn't until today however that an anonymous mate of mine shot me down and derided my so-called fantasy, saying that a "skinny asian" like me would never have a chance in hell to even get a guy of my preference. His reasoning was that opposites do not in reality attract, and muscular guys would only go for other muscular guys. Is this true?

    Frankly, I'm also disappointed at him for shooting me down like that, but I'm more disappointed in myself, realising that what he said could very well be a rational criticism of my unrealistic thinking. I'm short (5 foot 4 inches) and look very boyish for my age, and I would struggle to see myself socialising confidently with someone who's much bigger and taller than myself, let alone in the public. I know it's still too early for me to say this, but should I just give up in trying to search for that special guy out there just for me, or do I have to try desperate measures to quickly beef up? icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    As long as you allow someone to shoot you down once and question your dreams and loose your confidence, your friend is completely correct. When you start getting your confidence and self esteem a bit higher, to the point that nay-sayers don't "shake you", it will happen. Strength....wants Strength....physically, emotionally, personality....as Mark Twain said, "It's not the size of the dog in the fight, it's the size of the fight in the dog.". Good Luck!icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    There are plenty of guys that go for their opposites, in terms of body type. Maybe you're just not looking in the right places.
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    Aug 14, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    I go for guys with good body definition, regardless of muscle size.
    So in a way, for me, yes...I'm 100% admittedly "shallow" by the popular definition.

    However, I love "skinny" Asians. They have some of the best body definition I've ever seen. icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 8:49 PM GMT


    i have minor issues with fat , but i've been known to overlook it if the vibe was good.
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    Aug 14, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    xrichxMaybe you're just not looking in the right places


    I haven't the slightest idea where or how to start really. I'm in Sydney, and trust me, a lot of guys here (whether straight or gay) obnoxiously promote a "macho" culture you're expected to conform into, making it difficult to simply approach another guy unless you're just as sporty or physically as him. I seldom have time to go to the beach (where one would find hunky guys) and never to the gyms in my area (you have to pay an arm and a leg just to register for it).

    Maybe I should be patient a little bit more and weigh my chances in the next two years? I'll be finished with my Architecture Masters Degree in another two years, and before I turn 25, I aim to go off to New York to work . . . and hopefully, to play ;) Sounds like a plan, I guess? What would you say?
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    Aug 16, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    While sometimes, I do question that as well. I know that there are lots of guys who go for opposites of them in terms of body type. You just have to keep looking. And who knows? Maybe those "Macho culture" guys aren't all into the same body type and like other types as well. If you were to bulk up and such, I would hope you are doing it for yourself though and not to attract them because usually when that happens, if you stop working out intensively and lose some muscle, depending on the game, some would ditch them for one that meets their "qualification". I don't know about you but I'd rather want a guy who liked me for me and not for the latter.

    My point is, don;'t give up dude. You're still young and have plenty of time to meet your special guy.
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    Aug 16, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Yey, muscles!
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    Aug 16, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    I'm glad the op asked this because I was wondering the same thing. I'm semi-skinny and I like muscular guys, but I have no desire to get big. It's not because I don't have the work ethic to get big (I go jogging almost every day), but I simply just want to be on the skinny side.
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    I'll overlook the fact that there are a couple other threads with this same exact topic in which a bunch of advise was given...

    Muscular guys don't always want another muscular guy. Guys that are fit and take care of their body have respect for their body, regardless of what their intentions are for getting and staying fit. The reason they go for other guys that are fit could be one of the many...

    1) Other guys that stay fit and respect their body will respect him.
    2) Obviously they are more sexually attractive (in most cases).
    3) They see a partner that can participate in activities that jogs his interest.
    4) Guys that are fit tend to have more in common with an in-fit guy: sports, masculinity, etc...
    5) Most guys, myself included, like to find partners that are like themselves in stature and build.

    There are a lot of other reasons.
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    I've never dated a guy as built as me, and I think you're attractive. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    Allathlete saidI'll overlook the fact that there are a couple other threads with this same exact topic in which a bunch of advise was given...

    Muscular guys don't always want another muscular guy. Guys that are fit and take care of their body have respect for their body, regardless of what their intentions are for getting and staying fit. The reason they go for other guys that are fit could be one of the many...

    1) Other guys that stay fit and respect their body will respect him.
    2) Obviously they are more sexually attractive (in most cases).
    3) They see a partner that can participate in activities that jogs his interest.
    4) Guys that are fit tend to have more in common with an in-fit guy: sports, masculinity, etc...
    5) Most guys, myself included, like to find partners that are like themselves in stature and build.

    There are a lot of other reasons.

    So does this mean that you'd go for a marathon runner that stays fit and respects his body despite the fact that most marathon runners are skinny?
  • danielvn

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    Aug 16, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    Don't let those big muscular guys put you down just because you're no match for them lol. Everyone is different in their own way. You should be comfortable in your own skin
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    i think it varies by person but there is probably a good chance that muscular guys prefer other muscular guys. I like muscular guys because they appear more masculine which i find attractive.

    i am sure there are guys out there that find you attractive just the way you are.
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    there are so many threads about this lol
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    i dont like muscular guys all that much.......icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    Julians saidJust a weird nagging question I've been havng since the start of today. To start with, I confess that I have a HUGE fetish (pun intended) with extremely muscular physiques (bodybuilders, weightlifters, rugby players, et. al.), and I've confided with my closest friends on more than one occasion that I'd like to someday meet up and be close with someone who's waaaaay more muscular than myself. It wasn't until today however that an anonymous mate of mine shot me down and derided my so-called fantasy, saying that a "skinny asian" like me would never have a chance in hell to even get a guy of my preference. His reasoning was that opposites do not in reality attract, and muscular guys would only go for other muscular guys. Is this true?

    Frankly, I'm also disappointed at him for shooting me down like that, but I'm more disappointed in myself, realising that what he said could very well be a rational criticism of my unrealistic thinking. I'm short (5 foot 4 inches) and look very boyish for my age, and I would struggle to see myself socialising confidently with someone who's much bigger and taller than myself, let alone in the public. I know it's still too early for me to say this, but should I just give up in trying to search for that special guy out there just for me, or do I have to try desperate measures to quickly beef up? icon_neutral.gif



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    Aug 16, 2011 5:23 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidi dont like muscular guys all that much.......icon_neutral.gif


    we all know you like old white men who offer to buy you nice things.
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    dekiruman saidi dont like muscular guys all that much.......icon_neutral.gif


    we all know you like old white men who offer to buy you nice things.


    ewww you're 30 before i respond to your comment imma need one of these.......


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    thanks daddy
  • muscle4same

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    Aug 16, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    I started bodybuilding because i am into muscle guys but also want to be a muscle guy. I've had this discussion with a lot of guys in the gym, and what a part of it does boil down to is that a guy who works hard on his body, is mostly never going to be interested in a guy that does not work out at all. A guy that respects his body and wants it to be in good shape, generally does not want someone who does not have the same interest. However, here in Seattle, a lot of muscular guys go for skinny little boys. But, it really all comes down to personal attraction. Most muscle guys are into other muscle guys. But not all.
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:30 AM GMT
    dekiruman said
    AvadaKedavra said
    dekiruman saidi dont like muscular guys all that much.......icon_neutral.gif


    we all know you like old white men who offer to buy you nice things.


    ewww you're 30 before i respond to your comment imma need one of these.......


    breitling-bentley-motor-speed1.jpg


    thanks daddy


    have you even been wearing the bling i got for you?

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    Aug 16, 2011 5:38 AM GMT
    Julians saidJust a weird nagging question I've been havng since the start of today. To start with, I confess that I have a HUGE fetish (pun intended) with extremely muscular physiques (bodybuilders, weightlifters, rugby players, et. al.), and I've confided with my closest friends on more than one occasion that I'd like to someday meet up and be close with someone who's waaaaay more muscular than myself. It wasn't until today however that an anonymous mate of mine shot me down and derided my so-called fantasy, saying that a "skinny asian" like me would never have a chance in hell to even get a guy of my preference. His reasoning was that opposites do not in reality attract, and muscular guys would only go for other muscular guys. Is this true?

    Frankly, I'm also disappointed at him for shooting me down like that, but I'm more disappointed in myself, realising that what he said could very well be a rational criticism of my unrealistic thinking. I'm short (5 foot 4 inches) and look very boyish for my age, and I would struggle to see myself socialising confidently with someone who's much bigger and taller than myself, let alone in the public. I know it's still too early for me to say this, but should I just give up in trying to search for that special guy out there just for me, or do I have to try desperate measures to quickly beef up? icon_neutral.gif


    are you joking? I think your friend is crazy. I think reality is the opposite. Muscular tops want skinny bottoms and vice versa, right?

    But I'm neither slim build nor muscular so I am caught in this lonely middle ground (not saying I am that fat I only weigh 185 lbs). I've just been a lot busy with other things but I'm definitely going to start hitting the gym more. Because I decided I don't care about the numbers on the scale (my stupid body won't let me lose any more weight) I just desperately need more muscle definition.

    okay enough about me.icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
    I think generally speaking it's true, sorry icon_sad.gif but that is not to say opposites don't attract. Sure opposites can and do attract but I think it might be more of a challenge for you if a muscular and bigger guy in your ideal. That said, I still think you should go after what you want but at the same time don't limit your dating pool icon_smile.gif Good luck!
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    Aug 16, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    I too have always admired muscle on a man. I also acknowledged that beefed up jock types will rarely, if ever, give a scrawny looking nerd a second look. Hence in order to attract muscle, I thought one has to offer a degree of muscle or athleticism in return and so I started to train up myself. At the end of the day, having Asian genes, I will never be 200 lbs of muscle, but at least I will have the definition that some guys go for.
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    Aug 16, 2011 6:15 AM GMT
    I believe if you truly want to increase your chances of being with a muscular guy...that you need to put in some effort yourself rather than reap the benefits of their labor.

    I attest because I used to be skinny by genetics. I still did get some muscle guys here and there but not nearly anything acceptable amounts.

    In fact, I was dating a guy who I thought was gorgeous when I was about 18-19 and skinny. He was thin (like cocaine everyday thin) but I was thin too and thought him and his 9" cock was cute. I mean this Venezuelan Puerto Rican had a big dick!

    BUT...2 year later when I turned 21 and had been in the gym for several months and gained 15 pounds, I had met him again after not seeing him for over a year. I was not at ALL attracted to him anymore. I could not believe I was even attracted to someone who was so disgustingly thin. I fucked him anyway because he had a big dick and a 6-pack and I still had feelings for him for what we used to have..but God I felt like I would break him in 2's.

    And nowadays...even though I can fuck a skinny guy, I can never truly have an attraction to them and will always want a more muscular guy even if he's a bottom. You don't have to take steroids to get the look...just get in the gym.

    I feel that guys who want to get with me, but don't put effort into their own bodies are a bit selfish and in actuality don't even appreciate me for who I am...They just want my body

    ...And even at this point, I'm not all there either. I messaged a guy who lives here in Denver and is on this site. He actually had the audacity to tell me, "I prefer more muscular guys" when I tested his level of interest in me.

    But although I wasn't up to amp to his standards, I still seem to make a living off of my physique to the point where damn...I can't be that bad. I know I've improved because my bank account has improved.