Stupid Question I Know...

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    Aug 14, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    So to put it short, last night I went to the gay party.. and there was this guy I found attractive... he was talking to everyone in my circle of friends and dancing with the whole club, very sociable, uninhibited, loud and present, but when he glanced in my direction, he looked away quickly... Only time we interacted was doing a few dance moves, but really short, and then he would go away again and dance with everyone else.

    I always assumed that meant they had no interest, so never approached em... but last week I was told that when someone does that it means they're actually interested and playing it safe... I know its a stupid question, but do you guys think that's true? I feel its wierd he would be so sociable with everyone in my circle, but be somewhat evasive about me
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    I've met plenty of guys that do that but yeah I don't bother.

    meeting guys involves risk, your going to be hurt, your going to be beaten around, your going to be emotionally drained and it's going to toss you around like a little sail boat on the great big seas.

    Thats just the way it is..

    Actually that's pretty much how life is sometimes it just beats the shit outta you and your left on the ground blood gushing from all sorts of places.

    But ya get up, grab your nuts to check they are still there and you go after it.

    Otherwise whats the point.

    Did you like him? make a move next time.

    If you don't ask for what you want, you'll get what your given!
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    I don't think its always true, but definitely can be. I try to never play these games. But sometimes people are so interested that they get nervous.

    Example: I have, on occasion, admired (facebook stalked) this guy that is friends with an acquaintance of mine. Well last weekend we were at a gay club and I saw that acquaintance and talked to him for a bit. When he walked away, I turned towards the bar and this guy I had been admiring was standing there staring straight at me. He didn't break eye contact so I pretty much just gasped then ran away and found my friends. Pathetic, yes. Haha
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    Yep, it's true. I do that too.
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidYep, it's true. I do that too.

    yeah but your a pussy! icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI've met plenty of guys that do that but yeah I don't bother. !


    See thats what I used to do.. but now Im reconsidering that strategy.... its really strange if hes friendly with my whole circle, but evades me somewhat, just glances here and there
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidYep, it's true. I do that too.


    Lol awwww icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidmeeting guys involves risk, your going to be hurt, your going to be beaten around, your going to be emotionally drained and it's going to toss you around like a little sail boat on the great big seas.

    Thats just the way it is..

    Actually that's pretty much how life is sometimes it just beats the shit outta you and your left on the ground blood gushing from all sorts of places.

    But ya get up, grab your nuts to check they are still there and you go after it.

    Otherwise whats the point.
    !


    Lol, thats a bit more negative about it then I thought, but I guess thats true... its a bit frustrating, the whole she-bang, but its not as bad as when you actually fall in love with someone, thats just a nightmare lol
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    lilTanker saidI've met plenty of guys that do that but yeah I don't bother. !


    See thats what I used to do.. but now Im reconsidering that strategy.... its really strange if hes friendly with my whole circle, but evades me somewhat, just glances here and there

    then next time you see him make your move. If he's to scared and you are interested then go after him since he's to scared to do it.
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    I think the guy is interested; he just doesn't want to make his desires known. It's probably because you're so hot that he feels intimadated.
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    Aug 14, 2011 10:57 PM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    lilTanker saidmeeting guys involves risk, your going to be hurt, your going to be beaten around, your going to be emotionally drained and it's going to toss you around like a little sail boat on the great big seas.

    Thats just the way it is..

    Actually that's pretty much how life is sometimes it just beats the shit outta you and your left on the ground blood gushing from all sorts of places.

    But ya get up, grab your nuts to check they are still there and you go after it.

    Otherwise whats the point.
    !


    Lol, thats a bit more negative about it then I thought, but I guess thats true... its a bit frustrating, the whole she-bang, but its not as bad as when you actually fall in love with someone, thats just a nightmare lol

    intention wasn't meant to be negative by any means.

    I actually found being in love to be a whole lot more settling then anything else once it was confirmed the other guy felt the same, it was comforting to know that it was returned in kind and that things where moving forward to where I'd hoped they would, I settled down mentally and just let things happen as they would in what ever hap hazard way it would go there.
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    Aug 14, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    GreenHopper said
    lilTanker saidmeeting guys involves risk, your going to be hurt, your going to be beaten around, your going to be emotionally drained and it's going to toss you around like a little sail boat on the great big seas.

    Thats just the way it is..

    Actually that's pretty much how life is sometimes it just beats the shit outta you and your left on the ground blood gushing from all sorts of places.

    But ya get up, grab your nuts to check they are still there and you go after it.

    Otherwise whats the point.
    !


    Lol, thats a bit more negative about it then I thought, but I guess thats true... its a bit frustrating, the whole she-bang, but its not as bad as when you actually fall in love with someone, thats just a nightmare lol

    intention wasn't meant to be negative by any means.

    I actually found being in love to be a whole lot more settling then anything else once it was confirmed the other guy felt the same, it was comforting to know that it was returned in kind and that things where moving forward to where I'd hoped they would, I settled down mentally and just let things happen as they would in what ever hap hazard way it would go there.


    Noted... btw, correction: its not a she-bang, its a he-bang LOL icon_razz.gif (corny mood)
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    Aug 14, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    vincent7 saidI think the guy is interested; he just doesn't want to make his desires known. It's probably because you're so hot that he feels intimadated.


    aww thanks man, thts really sweet of you to say... I dont really wanna think of myself like that though... I like regular guys without attitude lol, ok maybe just a LITTLE attitude to make it a bit challenging icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 15, 2011 12:23 AM GMT
    the golden rule is, is they won't look into your eyes, they're not interested.
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    Aug 15, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    I do that sometimes... :_(

    It's stupid but I get intimidated and shy... I can't help it, unless I'm drunk icon_mad.gif

    And the weird thing is I'll have no problem socializing with his friends...
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    Aug 15, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI've met plenty of guys that do that but yeah I don't bother.

    meeting guys involves risk, your going to be hurt, your going to be beaten around, your going to be emotionally drained and it's going to toss you around like a little sail boat on the great big seas.

    Thats just the way it is..

    Actually that's pretty much how life is sometimes it just beats the shit outta you and your left on the ground blood gushing from all sorts of places.

    But ya get up, grab your nuts to check they are still there and you go after it.

    Otherwise whats the point.

    Did you like him? make a move next time.

    If you don't ask for what you want, you'll get what your given!


    Thank you, this is actually just what I needed to hear for my own life ;)
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    Aug 15, 2011 12:35 AM GMT
    I don't understand why some guys play games, act coy, and want a chase. If I like a guy I go up to him and tell him right out. Been told I come on too strong that way but if they can't handle that then we would not be a good match aways. Games are just plain stupid.
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    Aug 15, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    steamfunk saidI do that sometimes... :_(

    It's stupid but I get intimidated and shy... I can't help it, unless I'm drunk icon_mad.gif

    And the weird thing is I'll have no problem socializing with his friends...


    Yup, thats exaexactly what I meant
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    Aug 15, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    It sounds like you have live one! Go get him dude!

    Good luck!

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    Aug 15, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    waimea saidIt sounds like you have live one! Go get him dude!

    Good luck!

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    Lol wouldnt mind.. hes in the navy, I always had a thing for navy peeps lol icon_razz.gif

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    Aug 15, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    Yep, he might be interested. Might be shy or unsure how to approach you yet
    If anything you should make the first move. Might be a nerve racking move, but if you don't pursue then he might be the one that got away.....not a pretty feeling.
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    Aug 15, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    I think its true ... cuz i usually do that .. when some guy look at me .. i just blush n look away so he doesn't see that am blushing .. n then i forget
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    Aug 15, 2011 4:19 AM GMT
    You could just wait til next month's party. He'll be there for sure, looking for you, with nerve up and ready to approach. But a month is a long time. I bet if you called him tomorrow and just told him your name, he'd know exactly who you are, and be thrilled if you asked him out.

    I can't believe you let this one get away. You have some detective work sir, getting that phone number. hippity hop to it.icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 15, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    GreenHopper said
    waimea saidIt sounds like you have live one! Go get him dude!

    Good luck!



    Lol wouldnt mind.. hes in the navy, I always had a thing for navy peeps lol icon_razz.gif



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    Aug 15, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    wild_sky360 saidI can't believe you let this one get away. You have some detective work sir, getting that phone number. hippity hop to it.icon_smile.gif


    LOL hippity hoppity greenhopper lol

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