'survival of the kindest'

  • metta

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    Aug 15, 2011 4:39 AM GMT
    'survival of the kindest'

    http://www.berkeley.edu/news/media/releases/2009/12/08_survival_of_kindest.shtml
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    Aug 15, 2011 11:55 AM GMT
    I discovered many years ago that kindness was a habit... or rather that unkindness is a bad habit. I find that when I am giving, and caring and thinking of others I am SO much happier.

    I dont NATURALLY do it, I have to consciously do it, but the TV pastor Joyce Meyers said, "When you are feeling depressed, go find someone who needs help and help them. It is impossible to be selfish and happy at the same time. Focus on someone else for a while."

    While many dont like her, I love that philosophy because what I think happens is you take your perspective on life and reboot it.

    Thanks for posting that interesting article!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 15, 2011 12:49 PM GMT
    I think it's a nice theory.. you do see people always helping out in times of crises, but it does seem like there is plenty of evidence to the contrary.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 15, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    Humans are social and individual beings,but we are happiest and healthiest in groups of social give and take and interest in others.That is our heritage-as Darwin showed a hundred and fourty years ago.It makes individual and collective sense.
    Unfortunately,a politically correct ideology of 'selfish/militant/hyper- individualism' has ruled in western socities,more in the USA,less in GB/Europe,these last fifty years;leading to a materially wealthier but socially impoverished culture;a society richer than ever but more discontent (see the recent riots in London,etc.)I think the biggest example of this social 'poverty' is the breakdown of the family.That`s really harmed people,especially children.
    I find I`m personally happiest when volunteering or doing public service.
    Kindness and concern for others is a quality I look for in any long term partner.
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    Aug 15, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    Very nice, Metta. icon_wink.gif

    Thank you!

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    Aug 15, 2011 9:22 PM GMT
    Great article.
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    Aug 15, 2011 10:13 PM GMT
    Enjoyed the article:

    Prayer of the Dalai Lama

    May I become at all times, both now and forever
    A protector for those without protection
    A guide for those who have lost their way
    A ship for those with oceans to cross
    A sanctuary for those in danger
    A lamp for those without light
    A place for refuge for those who lack shelter
    And a servant to all in need


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    Aug 17, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Great article, definitely made me feel good today. Thanks for sharing. Always pay it forward icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 17, 2011 4:53 PM GMT
    dcblue saidGreat article, definitely made me feel good today. Thanks for sharing. Always pay it forward icon_smile.gif
    . Hey Dan I know you from SU
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    Aug 18, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
    JonPk said
    dcblue saidGreat article, definitely made me feel good today. Thanks for sharing. Always pay it forward icon_smile.gif
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    Really? Who is this? Send me a pvt message if you like.
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    Aug 18, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidI discovered many years ago that kindness was a habit... or rather that unkindness is a bad habit. I find that when I am giving, and caring and thinking of others I am SO much happier.

    I dont NATURALLY do it, I have to consciously do it, but the TV pastor Joyce Meyers said, "When you are feeling depressed, go find someone who needs help and help them. It is impossible to be selfish and happy at the same time. Focus on someone else for a while."

    While many dont like her, I love that philosophy because what I think happens is you take your perspective on life and reboot it.

    Thanks for posting that interesting article!


    I had the same happen to me when i was depressed... the moment I became involved in others, the depression would go away... its when i was focusing too much on myself, I would get depressed i believe....

    @the antijock... Ive been doing similar things lately, where I basically began cutting people off who were mean, in any way, mean to me, or mean to another... and it makes me a lot calmer....
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    Aug 18, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    in Berkeley...where every business from Rasputin records to whole foods gives trays of food and money to homeless kids. where homelessness is much easier than say boston where i grew up where when winter comes half the homeless population freezes to death or moves to sober living. i know Berkeley well...i can see why they feel that way. its a great town full of kindness and money but its not very reflective of the rest of the country.
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    Aug 18, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    ^ Shit like how?
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    Aug 18, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    Another great article. Thanks Metta for posting!
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    Aug 18, 2011 7:05 AM GMT
    Kindness (for me) = paying into the karma piggy bank..

    Idle superstition? probably.. But never fails when in a critical situation I get what I need. Or at least bad things happen in the best way possible
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    Aug 18, 2011 7:15 AM GMT
    the kindest always get walked on... lol.
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    Aug 21, 2011 11:39 AM GMT
    Notable about this thread is the complete absence of comment from certain people associated with one side of the political spectrum.

    Just an observation. Make of it what you will.

    Perhaps if they read the article they would feel shame, but the mere title of the thread frightened them off. icon_lol.gif

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    Aug 21, 2011 11:44 AM GMT
    Kindest also makes you taken advantage of....icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 21, 2011 11:53 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidKindest also makes you taken advantage of....icon_neutral.gif
    Only if naivety accompanies the kindness. Once you've been taken advantage of a few times, you learn how to be kind and still keep your guard up...and when not to be kind at all.
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    Aug 21, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
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    Fivealive saidKindest also makes you taken advantage of....icon_neutral.gif
    Only if naivety accompanies the kindness. Once you've been taken advantage of a few times, you learn how to be kind and still keep your guard up...and when not to be kind at all.


    Yes, I've developed a cold streak because of it icon_smile.gif