"Affectional Orientation" instead of "Sexual Orientation"?

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    May 03, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    I posted what I believe is an interesting new form of terminology on my blog. I'd be curious to hear your thoughts on the subject matter. Please feel free to leave comments.

    http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2008/05/open-forum-affectional-orientation.html
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    May 03, 2008 5:43 PM GMT
    the writer of the article makes some good points about separating Sexuality from affectional feelings, but overall the term Sexual Orientation fits quite well, its in a way like calling a garbage collector and "SANITATION SPECIALIST" !!! LOL !!! the guy still handles garbage, and with this new term for gay tendencies, we still prefer men sexually. I kinda doubt the new term "CATCHES ON" in the mainstream.
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    May 03, 2008 8:05 PM GMT
    I'm not sure if the term will catch on, its possible considering the evolvement from "sexual preference" to "sexual orientation". So terminology does change over time.

    I think the term is covering the same subject matter but also opens up the tent for more people. Not to mention even though gay relationships are sexual, that is not the only component of a gay relationship. Our opponents want to make gay rights seem like it is only purely sexual rights, and that is false.

    I think sexual orientation has its place in our language and certainly makes sense in a certain context, but I dunno I am liking the concept of affectional orientation.

    http://www.queersunited.blogspot.com
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    May 03, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    i've not read your blog, but based on the terms involved i think i don't need to:

    i'm homoSEXUAL for sure, but i'm heteroAFFECTIONATE without doubt. maybe if men weren't such douche bags i'd be a bit more consistent.

    i do love women, i just can't bear the thought of... ew ick ew ick. i can't even say it. i'm a raging cancer, so my emotions are more important than any other part of me, in terms of my thought patterns and decision making processes. women in general allow me to be who i am. men don't. it's just my personal experience.
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    May 04, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
    I think most mature individuals already realize sexuality involves more than just the physical, hormonal dimension, and we don't need a new term to spell that out.

    The word "Affectional" confuses and muddles the picture, as there are many forms of affection that are expressly non-sexual and non-romantic, so I prefer to stick with "Sexual Orientation" with the understanding that sex is more than just a physical act.

    Lets expand our understanding and interpretation, but leave the language alone for now.
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    May 29, 2008 6:23 PM GMT
    Actually I always thought "romantic orientation" would be more accurate, and would disarm some of our foes who think our relationships are always and only about sex.
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    May 29, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    I personally would never describe someone as "gay" if they were incapable of emotional attachments or "romantic" attachments to a person of the same sex. It is not just about sex, but about who you want to share yourself with emotionally, spiritually and physically.

    I developed crushes on guys before I knew what the mechanics of gay sex were (much more innocent times).
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    May 29, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    W---,

    What do you mean by "incapable of emotional attachments or "romantic" attachments?"

    I've never had a husband, does that mean I'm not gay?

    My mom will be so pleased!
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    May 29, 2008 6:36 PM GMT
    CarlosGringo saidW---,

    What do you mean by "incapable of emotional attachments or "romantic" attachments?"

    I've never had a husband, does that mean I'm not gay?

    My mom will be so pleased!


    Incapable means you never developed emotions for a guy, you just wanted the sex. There are a lot of straight guys who want to be given a blowjob by another guy, but as soon as it is over they don't think about the guy again, but will go back to their wife whom they love.

    If you have gone out with guys and have had boyfriends then your Mom will be disappointed, you are gay.