Gay Sports Leagues -- experiences good or bad?

  • shoelessj

    Posts: 511

    Aug 15, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    Hey, I'm thinking of joining a gay sports league this fall, non-competitive. I've never been involved in such an organization before and i wonder if anyone here has thoughts, good or bad, about it. My chief concern is that since i have not been involved in this before and i couldn't get my partner to join (though he is a sports fan) i don't know anyone else in the league and i worry about it being a bunch of, or just one big, clique of guys who know each other already, etc. And i wonder if it's geared toward guys who are single, or if coupled guys will still have fun and feel part of the bigger group.

    I think it'd be neat if i was able to make friends with maybe just a couple guys who, you know, would be RJ types who we could hang out with, watch sports with, etc. That's possible, right?

    Also would be interested to know if there's anything i need to be aware of as far as the different types of guys i might run into or tips to make it a good experience.
  • FrontRowIn

    Posts: 133

    Aug 15, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    From my experience with sports leagues, they really are what you make of them. You can have a great time if you are single or in a relationship. I will say that some can be cliquey, but for the most part you can find a really great group of guys (guys who commit to something, their team).

    To the "RJ" types, I'm really not sure what that means as there are all kinds of guys on Real Jock, but if you go in there with an attitude of only wanting to be around a certain type of guy, because there are ALL kinds of guys who particpate in sports (trust me, I've seen lisping, flaming queens run circles around "Masc-only" types).

    The last thing I'll say is that there are some jerks in sports, but there are also some really great, genuine guys out there who play. I've made some great friends in softball and in rugby who I never would have met or hung out with otherwise. I also wanted to add that you'll want to be very clear about your reasons for joining with your prospective team. I speak from experience when I say you definitely don't want to end up on a very competitive team when your intentions are to be more social. Then again, some teams can be open to having helpers who don't actually play but they do consider to be part of the team.
  • shoelessj

    Posts: 511

    Aug 17, 2011 11:39 PM GMT
    Thanks for your input, FrontRown...I guess when i said RJ-types, I meant guys who you could talk about your favorite teams or players with and even silly stuff that goes on here like, 'who do you think are the hottest baseball players?' etc. I know what you mean about non-sporty guys having talent. I have a group of friends i run with, 5Ks, 10ks and that...these two guys who are in our group are the farthest thing from jocks - they don't watch sports, they don't know who's playing, (they do watch the Olympics though), but get them on a race course and they blow past everyone else - they're just really good at it.

    I think I will join a recreational league here, one game a week, just to get a feel for it. We'll see what happens from there. Maybe i'll get lucky and meet some friends, as well.

    Thanks again!
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    Aug 18, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    My experience has been good.

    Best to try it and see how you like it....
  • aycer

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    Aug 21, 2011 10:30 AM GMT
    Joined for the first time thsi year and it has been fun. i go there to have fun and get some additional exercise. It is what you make it. I've met new friends and keep meeting others through friends. You are in a big city with a lot of gay leagues and from what i hear most of them are well organized. good luck and have fun

    BTw, you guys are hosting the Gay world series this year ( softball), starts next week I believe, check it out online and head over to some games. It is fun and worth it.