I really dont wanna look stupid but i wanna act stupid!

  • Teeboza

    Posts: 3

    Aug 15, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    Im gonna try cut this short as i possibly can ! I live in an apartment (flat to be exact) and got this rather weird but flippen hot next door neighbour, when eva i see him, i instanly get turned on its not even funny...as much as i want to share a bed with him (even if its for r hour) i jus dont know how to do it! Im still in da closet with all this so i know for a fact that nobody else knows im bisexual (well i hope not) so approaching him is not an option...we both still in school and i fear the embarrassment it may cause but on the other hand i really wouldnt (mind my language) give a fuck-if it turned out for the better! I keep telling myself im paranoid but this feeling is killing me inside! Any suggestions on how to solve this crisis of mine...?
  • Neurons

    Posts: 537

    Aug 15, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    Best piece of advice: Forget about him. If you're that worried about being in the closet, don't try to pursue him. ESPECIALLY since he's probably not even gay.
  • Teeboza

    Posts: 3

    Sep 21, 2011 11:32 AM GMT
    its easier for u to say that,but i'l keep it in mind!icon_biggrin.gifCOLORED TEXT GOES HERERESIZED TEXT GOES HERE
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    Sep 21, 2011 11:57 AM GMT
    Actually it's easy to say and it's easy to do. You need to check yourself and not let your lusting emotions get the better of you. If you are this scared (let's face it...that's what you are) and are lacking the confidence to pursue what you want because you aren't exactly secure about yourself then you are probably better off not having it or rather you're better off not pursuing him i.e your neighbor.

    Just let it go and move on. I know this might sound mean but it's something you need to hear. You'll end up hurting yourself if you play games and mentally fuck yourself from being paranoid. It's not healthy and it's not worth it. When you can come to grips about who you are then maybe it might be ok but until then you need to figure some things out and having some high school crush on your neighbor and lusting after him should be the least of your worries.
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    Sep 21, 2011 12:03 PM GMT
    Gotta agree with the other posters: if you're not confident enough to pursue him, you need to forget him. The truth is that keeping your secret is more important to you than being with him (no problem with that, it's just reality) so you shouldn't put yourself in a twist trying to imagine different scenarios.

    If it were reversed, and you cared more about being with him than being on the down low, then you could just roll up to him and hit on him to see where it went. Even if he's straight, the worst that happens is probably momentary embarrassment, followed by sheepish apologies, then life back to normal.