So... how "straight" are the hot "straight" guys who dance and strip at gay clubs?

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    Aug 15, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    There is a guy I met who is awesome, he says he is straight, but I have doubts.

    Any experiences, thoughts, comments?
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    Aug 15, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    In my experience, the dancers who say they're straight get tipped much less because they're perceived to be unattainable. Better to say they're bi, because bi is [socially] associated with masculinity and attainability. The ones who say they're gay generally get tipped the least.
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    Aug 15, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    Okay.... but how straight is "straight"? Do they just say that as a self-protective measure or are they really straight and just in it for the money?
  • Neurons

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    Aug 15, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    That's basically like saying a stripper is most likely straight if he's at a "straight" club. I don't know why gay guys have a tendency to be hopefully that everyone they like is gay.
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    Aug 15, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    The way the question is posed really cannot be answered because it depends on the guy.

    I know of several straight guys who work (both dance and tend bar) at gay bars because, despite being unattainable, they get much larger tips than they would working at a straight bar.

    If you think about the nature of working at a bar, it's usually done for supplemental income, so I would consider the straight guys very smart for working there.

    Of course, the question of "how straight" depends on the individual. It's no different than wondering "how straight" a co-worker, family member, or friend is should you lock them in on your gaydar.
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    Aug 15, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidThe way the question is posed really cannot be answered because it depends on the guy.

    I know of several straight guys who work (both dance and tend bar) at gay bars because, despite being unattainable, they get much larger tips than they would working at a straight bar.

    If you think about the nature of working at a bar, it's usually done for supplemental income, so I would consider the straight guys very smart for working there.

    Of course, the question of "how straight" depends on the individual. It's no different than wondering "how straight" a co-worker, family member, or friend is should you lock them in on your gaydar.



    Yes, it is a poorly worded question.

    I think what I meant was really this question:

    Do the dancers say they are straight (without regard to orientation) as a means of profiting or as a self protective move or are the guys just being honest?

    Is that more clear?

    Is there a legitimate reason for a gay guy who strips to want to tell everyone in a gay bar that he is straight?
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    Aug 15, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    Why do I find it hard...really hard...rock solidly hard, to believe anyone would tell Alpha they are straight?
  • wild_sky360

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    Aug 16, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    Casually chat up one of the gay dancers. They're not supposed to, but they know, and they'll tell you who's straight and gay.
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    Aug 16, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidThere is a guy I met who is awesome, he says he is straight, but I have doubts.

    Any experiences, thoughts, comments?


    Gay for pay
  • JP85257

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    Aug 16, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    I dont tip strippers.
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    Aug 16, 2011 12:57 AM GMT
    most of them are bi or gay from what I hear...I doubt he's straight but its possible
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    Aug 16, 2011 1:01 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidOkay.... but how straight is "straight"? Do they just say that as a self-protective measure or are they really straight and just in it for the money?
    I've stopped questioning people when they claim to be straight. I've even started claiming to be straight in the past few weeks. Even if the people know you're gay, when you say "I'm straight now" they actually respect you more and actually invite you to do more stuff with them.

    In my 20 years of experience being "out" I've noticed that being openly gay might be accepted, but it's certainly not conducive for social interaction. It's one of those things they'd rather "know" rather than be reminded of in public.

    Stupid I know, but I'm tired of being left out of all the fun stuff. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 16, 2011 1:05 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidThere is a guy I met who is awesome, he says he is straight, but I have doubts.

    Any experiences, thoughts, comments?


    This is the story of my life. Every guy i like says he's straight. But I have doubts. Oh well, if he says he's straight than he's either straight or not ready of come out. You can't change either one of this situation. Trust me, I waited 7 years for my crush to admit he's gay.
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    Aug 16, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    a friend of mine at work dances in dallas from time to time at zippers. hes straight but enjoys the money. i guess more power to him.