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My first experience at a gay bathhouse...

  • brendanmuscle... Posts: 582
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 7:13 AM GMT
    So when i was in Montreal last weekend, i decided to venture to one of the gay bathhouses (I cant remember the name of it, but i do remember it had a little blue light outside...it was located near the other bathhouse which i believe was like gi joe or something)

    I'll just sum it up that it was awful. There was not one good looking guy there- some did not look bad, but yeah lets just say most were not my type and most did not work out at all.

    I found it facinating how people would just rent a room and be laying down bottoms-up- ready and waiting to be fucked by anyone with a penis who walked through the door. It seems too that these people don't care if it was safe, or not safe, either

    Lots pf people seemed to be following me, and many made advancedments on me- but um no. I also observed many people who seemed to be horny for anyone as long as they had a penis- again, they really didn't care how they looked, as long as they had a dick.

    I just thought i'd try it out since i have never been to one. I was hoping to at least see one other attractive person there, but to no luck! I was soft the entire time, again sincei found no one hot there. I never did anything wtih anyone, because i did not want to.

    Is this pretty typical of gay bathhouses, or was it probably an exception? It was interesting to observe this side of the gay life, something that I do not choose to have any part in myself.

    My experience was quite reminiscent of http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyFBfgmWlaY
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 7:40 AM GMT
    brendanmuscles saidLots pf people seemed to be following me, and many made advancedments on me- but um no. I also observed many people who seemed to be horny for anyone as long as they had a penis- again, they really didn't care how they looked, as long as they had a dick.
    That explains why they were advancing on you.
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 7:46 AM GMT
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 9:19 AM GMT
    We call them saunas in the UK and yeah I would say that's pretty typical. I've been to a few and the vast majority of times I went I didn't do anything with anyone as I didn't find anyone attractive. I do think some guys go there just to get off with whoever they can and they aren't really fussy, I even had attitude from a guy once because I rejected his advances and he didn't really understand that just because I was there it didn't mean I would jump at anything with a pulse.

    However there were a couple of times (well 4 occasions) where I did actually fool around with someone, and they were all pretty good experiences. Plus even when I didn't have any fun with anyone, I quite liked the horny atmosphere of the place and jerking off in the porn room with other guys or sitting in the hot tub naked. Just more of a 'all guys together' sort of thing.

    Don't let it put you off totally as you might go another time and have a great experience, it's just a bit of a lottery is all.
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 9:22 AM GMT
    I'm sorry you did not enjoy your experience.

    My bf and I go from time to time. While they are not always the most attractive crowds (ie: fat, old, bald), there are usually a couple guys there to at least make it interesting. We've had the good fortune on three occasions this year to get together with very hot guys.

    We're only looking for jo/bj play with others though.

    We go with the idea that there's a good chance we won't do anything with someone else. If nothing else, we still enjoy the pool and hot tub.

    I assume the one you were at had some common areas with porn on TV's? Even just jacking off or having my bf suck me off while others watch can be a bit of a turn on. It all depends what you're into.
  • brendanmuscle... Posts: 582
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 10:24 AM GMT
    Anduru said
    brendanmuscles saidLots pf people seemed to be following me, and many made advancedments on me- but um no. I also observed many people who seemed to be horny for anyone as long as they had a penis- again, they really didn't care how they looked, as long as they had a dick.
    That explains why they were advancing on you.


    People tried to advance more on my friend and I more than anyone else there. We were the only muscular guys in the entire place.
  • Mascdude_1 Posts: 1
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 10:52 AM GMT
    You may also need to understand gay culture in Montreal. I have travelled a fair bit across the world, and have yet to find a city with such an attractive population, gay and straight. The bathhouse culture in both Montreal and Toronto are fairly diverse. Each bathhouse attracts a different crowd. I know there are a few that attract a more athletic/muscular crowd, steamworks in toroto comes to mind. You may have benefitted ( or not, depending on your interest) from doing some research beforehand. I'm not one for bathhouses or strippers usually, but in Montreal, I always make it a habit to visit Stockbar. I haven't come across anywhere that have dancers as hot as these guys......
  • brendanmuscle... Posts: 582
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 10:58 AM GMT
    Mascdude_1 saidYou may also need to understand gay culture in Montreal. I have travelled a fair bit across the world, and have yet to find a city with such an attractive population, gay and straight. The bathhouse culture in both Montreal and Toronto are fairly diverse. Each bathhouse attracts a different crowd. I know there are a few that attract a more athletic/muscular crowd, steamworks in toroto comes to mind. You may have benefitted ( or not, depending on your interest) from doing some research beforehand. I'm not one for bathhouses or strippers usually, but in Montreal, I always make it a habit to visit Stockbar. I haven't come across anywhere that have dancers as hot as these guys......


    Where was stockbar? the only one i saw with dancers was called Campus there.
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    Never been to one, but I picture it being really sticky inside and moldy with a high smell of bleach. icon_biggrin.gif
  • gymfunu Posts: 28
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:09 PM GMT
    Again with the homosexual puritans on this site! Get over yourselves already! Who are any of you to judge anyone that goes to a bathhouse? There are a million different ways to have sex in a million different spaces! "Bathhouses had their day.".......obviously they STILL have their day if they are still functioning.

    The rhetoric spewed by the question and the responses (the majority, not all) is the usual blend of "eeeewww I don't like people who don't have sex like I do or like I pretend to have sex in public (and then go to bathhouses, tea rooms, have sex at the gym etc) or like I think all people should have sex." Gay identity was forged in bathhouses and bathhouses still pay a role in many people's lives. Gay men judging others in how they have sex is repugnant.

    Interestingly enough throughout the world bathhouses are not met with this sort of puritanical disdain that you all spew. Bathhouses in many places are necessary because people can't afford to live outside of the confines of familial space until they are much older. In these situations bathhouses certainly aren't viewed as dirty, disgusting and deviant in the way you all want to talk about them.

    Seriously, get over your judgment.......who are any of you to be judging how others have sex......whether in monogamous couplings (eeewww); at the beach; in orgies; threeways; on camera or off camera.....it is sex and we all do it.
  • iHavok Posts: 1477
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    Bathhouses and Grindr both make me wonder when proximity became a factor for attractiveness...
  • MuchMoreThanM... Posts: 21416
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:23 PM GMT
    In Chicago there is a place called Steamworks. It is the same Steamworks as the one in CA and Canada and I think there is one in Puerto Rico. I can't vouch for the ones in other cities but back in the 1990's Steamworks had some really hot men. Especially on the weekends when the bars closed around 2AM. Many of the guys during this time were hot guys that didn't get anyone to go home with when the bars closed so they would go to Steamworks.

    Seemed like this did not last long. I am not sure why the hotter men stopped going to Steamworks. But I also noticed that when crystal meth came into the scene a lot of things changed and the hotter guys I used to see in Chicago just disappeared (moved away to other cities like NYC, Miami, etc.)

    I haven't been to one in over five years. I'm tempted to go once in awhile to try it out but I remember how disappointed I was while going after Steamworks had their prime. I usually stay for about ten minutes after I do a walk around and leave disappointed and after having paid an entrance fee.

    But I will say that during its prime I had some really amazingly hot times there. Great memories. icon_twisted.gif
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    Yeah I tried a bathhouse in new Orleans a few times just after I realized I was gay when I was just trying to fuck a guy for the first time. They were gross and most of the guys where unattractive. Still it was interesting to see and a little flattering. In the end I just went to the video room and blew my load while guys watched lol.

    Yeah I'm a little slutty, but not slutty enough to touch the guys I saw there in the nola bathhouse when I went.

    Now when I was in Europe in Prague I met a guy and we went to a bathhouse together and it was fun messing around with a sex sling and all of the other sex accessories they had. But i guess it was different because I went eith the jot guy already lol. Also the bathhouse had a bar in it too which was cool.


  • awm55 Posts: 619
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:48 PM GMT
    gymfunu saidAgain with the homosexual puritans on this site! Get over yourselves already! Who are any of you to judge anyone that goes to a bathhouse? There are a million different ways to have sex in a million different spaces! "Bathhouses had their day.".......obviously they STILL have their day if they are still functioning.

    The rhetoric spewed by the question and the responses (the majority, not all) is the usual blend of "eeeewww I don't like people who don't have sex like I do or like I pretend to have sex in public (and then go to bathhouses, tea rooms, have sex at the gym etc) or like I think all people should have sex." Gay identity was forged in bathhouses and bathhouses still pay a role in many people's lives. Gay men judging others in how they have sex is repugnant.

    Interestingly enough throughout the world bathhouses are not met with this sort of puritanical disdain that you all spew. Bathhouses in many places are necessary because people can't afford to live outside of the confines of familial space until they are much older. In these situations bathhouses certainly aren't viewed as dirty, disgusting and deviant in the way you all want to talk about them.

    Seriously, get over your judgment.......who are any of you to be judging how others have sex......whether in monogamous couplings (eeewww); at the beach; in orgies; threeways; on camera or off camera.....it is sex and we all do it.


    Oh please, like only puritans would be against anonymous public sex with strangers in a dark room. Because some of us have standards we are all now bible humping, sounds like you are the one who is insecure.
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:51 PM GMT
    wolverinecub86 saidNow when I was in Europe in Prague I met a guy and we went to a bathhouse together and it was fun messing around with a sex sling and all of the other sex accessories they had. But i guess it was different because I went eith the jot guy already lol. Also the bathhouse had a bar in it too which was cool.


    Sounds like you went to the same one in Prague that I went to - was it called something like Babylon? I met a very hot muscular and hairy Czech guy there, the only downside was his breath was a bit cabbagey, haha!

    I think it's true what Mascdude_1 said, sometimes these places have specific crowds that they generally tend to attract, and also some have specific nights like a Bear Night or a Naked Night. Try and find one that is mainly frequented by the sort of guys you like, a muscle crowd I would assume.

    The main branch of saunas/bathhouses in London is Chariots and the best place for muscle guys used to be the one in Vauxhall (probably still is, I don't know) because it was close to the clubs that attract a muscle boy crowd, as well as being near a gay gym.
  • HndsmKansan Posts: 15647
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    I've never been to a bathhouse or even seen one when I've been in a larger city, unless it was inadvertant.

    I've often thought I should be "worldly" enough to visit one, just to see what it was all about, but after hearing about Brendan's experience, I think I can really do without. My partner has said, "Chris you're a little naive when it comes to some of what goes on, but you aren't missing much".

    A bathhouse visit probably doesn't rank very high on my list of priorities....lol
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 2:54 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidA bathhouse visit probably doesn't rank very high on my list of priorities....lol


    Nor should it, I don't want to come across like they are brilliant, they are what they are, sometimes they are a good way of getting some hot anonymous sex if that's what you are looking for. The sexual equivalent of a McDonald's.
  • 2PecanDeBeurr... Posts: 302
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Well, my experiences with bathhouses bring a smile to my face.
    The first one was in St. Louis( 1973), then Chicago, Frankfurt and Kaiserslautern(Germany) and Amsterdam(Holland).
    Yes, it was about male to male, in every aspect. All shapes and sizes.
    Majority of the ones visited were maintained very well. The "meat market" was abundant. Age varied. There was some persistant males, horny and out for a conquest yet some very classy gentlemen who taught me the "etiquette."
    To each his own preference, bathhouses are a wonderful memory
    J.C.
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    I have occasionally gone to a bathhouse - usually when traveling, together with the bf - but I would say that the experience in Europe is vastly different than it currently is in the U.S. (Babylonia, in Prague, was such a weird, old-fashioned experience - Labyrinth was more modern.) There are still some really nice, cool experiences to be had in Europe (so long as you take the obvious precautions), but in the U.S. bathhouses have been on decline - I understand them to be, for the most part, pretty skeevy.

    (An aside - having had a hot tub and taken care of one, and knowing how hard it is to keep the sanitation levels proper in such a small/hot environment even when it gets minimal use, I would NEVER go into a public hot tub, especially in a place like a gay sauna where it gets constant use. Yuck.)
  • MuchMoreThanM... Posts: 21416
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    I wanted to iterate that I was at a bathhouse in Paris once. The guys were quite hot. They were predominantly athletic, tight and trim bodies and were a bit shorter than me. I felt like I was taller than most of the men in that place, but that's okay because shorter athletic men are my type. icon_twisted.gif
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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    Anduru said
    brendanmuscles saidLots pf people seemed to be following me, and many made advancedments on me- but um no. I also observed many people who seemed to be horny for anyone as long as they had a penis- again, they really didn't care how they looked, as long as they had a dick.
    That explains why they were advancing on you.



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  • darius30 Posts: 686
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    I've never been to one. I don't like the idea of not being in control of who's there. You just show up and hope you get lucky with your options.

    My good friend has been to one and likes them a lot. He thinks it's erotic and wants me to pursue it. I said, no thanks, simply because they make me nervous.

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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    Anduru said
    brendanmuscles saidLots pf people seemed to be following me, and many made advancedments on me- but um no. I also observed many people who seemed to be horny for anyone as long as they had a penis- again, they really didn't care how they looked, as long as they had a dick.
    That explains why they were advancing on you.


    Andrew! That was so mean!!!!

    Good job. Well said.
  • rnch Posts: 10905
    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    the prevailing attitude in bath houses seems to be "Quanity before Quality".

    since this attitude is just the opposite of mine; i avoid the baths.


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    QUOTE Aug 16, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    They tend to have their busy days and times which is not always late Fri/Sat nighs.. It could be a Monday morning between 9 and noon for example or weekdays between noon and 1pm. Nooners. . Years ago I worked the odd shifts here and there covering for employees who called in sick etc. My good friends owned a couple of bathhouses. Generally speaking though the vast majority of the customers are old fat men and SOME can be absolutely relentless when trying to force you to have sex with them or let them give you a bj etc. and getting nasty is the only way to get rid of them short of clocking them. Still in all, good times can be had so long as you're careful. And NEVER NEVER NEVER use the hot tubs. A lot of the pig types have sex and don't shower afterwards, they just head straight into the hot tub.. the grossest of all and a cauldron of skin diseases.