Help in coming out COMPLETELY

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    Aug 17, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    I'm 46 and its time to come out completely. Any guys my age come out at 46? Issues?
    Thoughts? No rude comments please.
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    Aug 17, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    One step at a time. Tell your very best friend...he'll understand more than anyone, and probably already knows. Then slowly work your way around to other friends, and eventually to family.

    But be careful. I have this sneaky feeling (errr, extremely heavy gut feeling) that if the Repubs win in 2012, they'll eventually repeal all the gay rights and make homosexuality illegal again. If anything, I'd suggest coming out as bi. That way you can easily slip back into the closet if need be.
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    Aug 17, 2011 2:39 AM GMT
    I've told one friend or what I thought was a friend. He doesn't talk to me anymore and it hurt. But I'm over it.
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    Aug 17, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    Wow man, that's the first I've ever heard that reaction...it usually goes much better. Hopefully things will look up for you in the future on your journey.

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    Aug 18, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    Thanks guy....he actually called me today, apologized, and wants to have a drink.
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    Aug 18, 2011 11:17 PM GMT
    midwestcommuter saidThanks guy....he actually called me today, apologized, and wants to have a drink.


    That is usually what happens when you get a bad reaction. They just panicked and when they realize it really isn't a big deal, they come back to apologize and start to handle it well.

    Coming out is a scary thing but I can't even describe how much better it is when it is all over and done with.
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    Aug 18, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    midwestcommuter saidThanks guy....he actually called me today, apologized, and wants to have a drink.
    Awesome! Let us know how it goes. Hopefully the friendship is repairable.
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    Aug 18, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    I hope your friendship gets "repaired". Good job on telling him icon_smile.gif Keep us updated please.