Is he seeing someone else on the side (trust issues)?

  • parisdiac

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    Aug 17, 2011 8:17 AM GMT
    Ok so i've met this guy online , whom I've met twice in person (he lives 2 hours away), and we both like each other a lot. We chat for hours on the phone, and then chat online for hours too (on a daily basis). We've made it clear to each other that we had feelings for each other and that we want to take it to the next level (the distance is obviously not helping). This has been going on for several months. There has literally been no day where we have not talked to each other.

    Lately - he's been telling me that he has a friend coming over to his place (!) once a week, and the guy would literally stay at his place for hours (we're talking 5-6 hours at a time). I chose to ignore it, because he kept on telling me that it was 'just' a friend who he liked a lot because that person made him laugh, and he enjoyed hanging out with him etc. However these 5 hour sessions have become longer - like the friend would come over spend the entire afternoon with him, they would go to the cinema in the evening and have dinner.

    Do I have a valid reason to be worried that he might be actually seeing this guy (as in dating)? I find it odd that you have a friend coming over always to your place (unlike the rest of your friends whom you meet elsewhere), and spend such a long time.

    Is he possibly seeing this person on the side - what do you think - and how should I handle the situation - PLEASE HELP!!

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    Aug 17, 2011 8:50 AM GMT
    I would suggest that you move on. I think its obvious that he is starting to develop something with this guy if they have started spending more time together and he also takes him out to the cinema and dinner etc.

    Out of all that time, if that guy was really just a good friend, he would have invited all of you three to go out and have fun, since this friend of his seems like a really nice, friendly and fun guy to be around with. So you need to ask the question, that even though he talks with you everyday, he is still starting to spend more time with him, and they start to go out ore often than usual.

    I think maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings, or maybe he hasn't noticed himself, but there is obviously an attraction going on, whether they are both aware or not.

    Just find somebody closer to the area where you live, with whom you click with and start dating. That's my advice anyway.