Screw Small Towns!!!

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    Aug 17, 2011 4:36 PM GMT
    ok, I'm about to vent, but bare with me:
    I live in an area that isn't rural itself but is completely surrounded by NOTHING. literally takes at least an hour to an hour and a half to get to the next large town. it seems to me that a lot of the people here are small-town minded and bigoted, and that the only gay population in this town are younger guys who are over the top flamboyant or still searching for Christmas presents in the closet.
    the problem i come across is people who cant understand or deal with gay people being around them. i just lost another friend yesterday over a LABEL! i hate that, as if it somehow changes everything about me. i have to move away from here. i know intolerance is everywhere, but i am miserable.

    anyone else have this problem or does anyone know of a good place to move to?
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    Aug 17, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    I've been to Lubbock. The place fucking sucks donkey balls.
    Move to a major metropolis. I like South Florida, but your mileage may vary.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 17, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    Well I see you are from Lubbock, TX. I'm surprised with a city of that size that you don't at least have some reasonably accepting people.

    I'd suggest you start with why you are there? Did you grow up there? What sort of a job do you have and can you transfer easily or are you marketable somewhere else?

    Also know bigotry is everywhere. It depends on what you want in your life and the kind of lifestyle you seek. Start with an assessment of your own
    financial and job situation, then evaluate where you may want to move based on population, job possibilities, activities and climate. Visit some of them if possible.

    And finally, don't just complain (and I'm not saying you are just doing that here).. I mean, if you don't like your situation and want to change it, take steps to be happy.... and change it, but be thorough and clear before you act.
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 17, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    Never been to Lubbock, but thought it was a college town? Those towns are usually a little more liberal.
  • calibro

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    Aug 17, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    as they say, lubbock it or leave it
  • JP85257

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    Aug 17, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    I grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.


    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    Fortunately you have the ability to get out. I came from the same situation.

    You will find ignorance everywhere, but ignorance tends to be the minority in urban areas.
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:08 PM GMT
    pshh, my small town sucks more than your small town..
    i had the crap beat out of me everyday at school just because the kids thought i was gay for drawing pokemon doodles.. i dont act gay at all, and im not out.. ugh..

    you should move near a big city, i dont know of a big city that isnt gay friendly.. except maybe san antonio or some other texan cities..
    Im from san antonio originally. I LOVE it there.. But it still isnt very gay friendly
  • JP85257

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    Aug 17, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.


    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!

    This is true, but Lubbock is just its on special place. It was a dry county until last year.
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.


    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!

    This is true, but Lubbock is just its on special place. It was a dry county until last year.


    Never been, doesnt really seem like the place I want to go...
  • iHavok

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    Aug 17, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    Try Great Falls, Mt population 58k.
    And if you do, don't sit too close to any other guy at a bar, to include the airport bar.
    You will be asked to leave if you are lucky, and Matthew Shepard'd if you aren't.


    Was not a fun section of life.
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:28 PM GMT
    I'm from a small town also. It does suck I am not out, there was only one guy out when I was in high school and another kid threw him through a window one day for hitting on him. They were both suspended. I was made fun of a lot in school because the guys presumed I was gay but never beat up or anything. I think it helps that my dad was the weight lifting and football coach. When I get out of school next year I plan on moving to a big city where I can finally be myself. You should to.
  • JP85257

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    Aug 17, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.


    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!

    This is true, but Lubbock is just its on special place. It was a dry county until last year.


    Never been, doesnt really seem like the place I want to go...

    Youre from SF. They would eat you alive.
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.


    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!

    This is true, but Lubbock is just its on special place. It was a dry county until last year.


    Never been, doesnt really seem like the place I want to go...

    Youre from SF. They would eat you alive.


    Bitch I would have a field day with that podunk town!
  • JP85257

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    Aug 17, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.

    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!

    This is true, but Lubbock is just its on special place. It was a dry county until last year.

    Never been, doesnt really seem like the place I want to go...

    Youre from SF. They would eat you alive.

    Bitch I would have a field day with that podunk town!

    Screw you, Hippie.

    lol
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    Aug 17, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 said
    Chainers said
    JP85257 saidI grew up in Eastern NM about 2 hours away from Lubbock. From where I lived you cold hear the bible thumping of Lubbock.

    New Mexico is pretty bible thumping too, I mean there are churches like starbucks!

    This is true, but Lubbock is just its on special place. It was a dry county until last year.

    Never been, doesnt really seem like the place I want to go...

    Youre from SF. They would eat you alive.

    Bitch I would have a field day with that podunk town!

    Screw you, Hippie.

    lol


    I wouldnt screw you JP, I have standards!
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    Aug 17, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    tryintofindme saidWhen I get out of school next year I plan on moving to a big city where I can finally be myself. You should to.



    I think that the gay exodus or "gay flight" is a great tragedy.


    It's terrible that people feel unsafe in their own communities. I also feel it is a loss for those communities in human diversity.

    The flip of this is gay homogeneous streets and villages - that's hardly healthy either.
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    Aug 17, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    ok, i didnt grow up here, but i moved here because its a cheap place to live and i have friends that go to texas tech. only 2, but its usually better than a place with no friends. bc of recent situations, i have been completely outed to my entire workplace. not that im not out, but id rather just not talk about it at work unless i really know the people.

  • JP85257

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    Aug 17, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    stone66 saidok, i didnt grow up here, but i moved here because its a cheap place to live and i have friends that go to texas tech. only 2, but its usually better than a place with no friends. bc of recent situations, i have been completely outed to my entire workplace. not that im not out, but id rather just not talk about it at work unless i really know the people.


    Hunny Just stay out of Carlsbad NM. Thats where I grew up. I didnt do the gay flight thing, but I did move somewhere I could find opportunity that didnt involve mining and working at Wal Mart
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    Aug 17, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    JP85257 said
    stone66 saidok, i didnt grow up here, but i moved here because its a cheap place to live and i have friends that go to texas tech. only 2, but its usually better than a place with no friends. bc of recent situations, i have been completely outed to my entire workplace. not that im not out, but id rather just not talk about it at work unless i really know the people.


    Hunny Just stay out of Carlsbad NM. Thats where I grew up. I didnt do the gay flight thing, but I did move somewhere I could find opportunity that didnt involve mining and working at Wal Mart


    haha, or working for homo depot as i am now. yeah, gotta get out of here.
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    Aug 17, 2011 8:12 PM GMT
    lol you should all buy guns and terrorize your school or local public shopping area and commit mass homicide+suicide
    that's the american way!
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    Aug 17, 2011 8:36 PM GMT
    Guys- he's also from Frisco. AKA big box exurban Dallas. Either or I wouldn't step foot in (Frisco maybe, but not Lubbock) myself. There are ways to go about this. Kansan is right- if you can, work your way up to find a career and a job that will make you happy and marketable anywhere, because sadly, nothing really is going to change out there. If traveling somewhere new is of interest to you, then perfect. Save up, pack your bags and find somewhere new. However, until then (if there is a then) you may have to just make the most out of your resources. I understand that it kinda sucks. I was dissatisfied in suburban Minneapolis growing up, being that it was kind of a "small" town and had a small town feel, but find some people somehow who share your interests. Hell- I think that's why we're all here on Realjock- because we all like sports. What type and how much is up to the individual, but hey- you probably won't be there for long, and that's perfectly fine. I'm currently a student in Southern Minnesota and even though I'm staying for now, I know and plan on not being there forever.

    That's my two cents. Hopefully my advice helped. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 17, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    Goto Belly's on a Friday night - you'll feel better about the gays in LBK icon_smile.gif

    Don't get me wrong, there's a reason I left, but at least it's a chill place to go in such a small town area.
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    Aug 17, 2011 9:36 PM GMT
    I lived in Lubbock for six years and absolutely loved it at the time. It was perfect for me and where I was in that part of my life. However, I wouldn't live there now for all the money in the world. What city is 1 1/2 hours away? If I remember correctly, the two nearest cities were Amarillo and Midland/Odessa and those were both exactly 2 hours away(and almost no difference from Lubbock). Even though I wasn't out at the time I lived there, I know how intolerant it can be. That's why, now being out, I couldn't go back. It's a great place to live if you're in the closet.