First Time BB - HIV Scare

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    Aug 17, 2011 8:31 PM GMT
    Well - I just got my RNA test results and it was negative - but wow was I lucky.

    I have only been having sex with men for a year and have been an avid preacher and practitioner of safe sex.

    Then this winter I met a very nice clean guy. After four months we discussed getting tested, quit having sex with anyone else and starting to bareback. I got tested, knew he had planned on it but never came out and asked. A month later we began to bareback.

    After five months of barebacking (both versatile so it went both directions) he called me to tell me his HIV test came back positive. I got a rapid test and it came back negative. I waited 12 days and took the RNA early detection test and it came back negative. Because the RNA test doesn't test for HIV2 I will have a traditional Western blot in another couple of months just to be sure.

    DON'T ASSUME - go together, get tested, and there will be plenty of time of raw fun after there is committment, trust, and testing.

    I dodged a bullet - I hope have the good sense to never be this foolish again. I hope anyone that reads this will learn from my mistake.

    BTW - I take full responsibility. It was my assumption not his that put me at risk.

    Note: yes I created this profile to post this story. I am too old, too educated, and too embarrassed to use my real profile.
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    Aug 17, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    Well I hope you learned a lesson and I hope some others can learn it through you. The unfortunate lesson is to never just take someone's word when talking about something so serious.
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    Aug 17, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    i don't take anything a fake profile says seriously
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    Aug 17, 2011 10:51 PM GMT
    A very good lesson to learn. I hope everything goes well for you.
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    Aug 17, 2011 10:57 PM GMT
    ...thanks for your honesty and for your sharing...my policy is condoms always - no if and no buts...

    one of the sexiest things for me is after a lot of very hot foreplay, the guy putting a condom on me - knowing of the even more intense pleasure ahead for both of us...

    ....and I always supply the condoms - as an added caution - as I had a guy try to put his condom on me - it didn't feel right so I withdrew immediately and he had cut a slit across the so my cock broke through when I was inside him..

    ...In Australia we have wonderful medical support - and what is called a free 'PEP' support - in cases where you think you may have been exposed to the virus, you go within 72 hours of the suspected exposure onto antiviral drugs for a month..

    there was very little risk on my part and the tests were negative...but the strange feelings the antivirals had made me even more determined only ever to practice safe sex - and condoms always - even in long term relationships
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    Aug 17, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    Well ... happy u r okay ... <3
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    Aug 17, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    calibro saidi don't take anything a fake profile says seriously
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    Aug 17, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    Always good to see these types of reminders, especially for the younger guys.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Aug 18, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    I am thankful for this story.
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    Aug 18, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    ozmuscle2 said...thanks for your honesty and for your sharing...my policy is condoms always - no if and no buts...

    one of the sexiest things for me is after a lot of very hot foreplay, the guy putting a condom on me - knowing of the even more intense pleasure ahead for both of us...

    ....and I always supply the condoms - as an added caution - as I had a guy try to put his condom on me - it didn't feel right so I withdrew immediately and he had cut a slit across the so my cock broke through when I was inside him..

    ...In Australia we have wonderful medical support - and what is called a free 'PEP' support - in cases where you think you may have been exposed to the virus, you go within 72 hours of the suspected exposure onto antiviral drugs for a month..

    there was very little risk on my part and the tests were negative...but the strange feelings the antivirals had made me even more determined only ever to practice safe sex - and condoms always - even in long term relationships



    I agree. always used condoms even though I always top and always will. I was in two 3 year relationships and still always used condoms and always will
  • Latenight30

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    Aug 18, 2011 9:03 PM GMT
    It's out there. People don't know and people don't learn.
    A friend of mine shared he has 67 T cells right now.
    He knew he was + but didn't do anything about it. Now his whole life is on hold til he can get well.
    Stupid!
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    Aug 18, 2011 9:22 PM GMT
    OutoftheShadows said
    I have only been having sex with men for a year and have been an avid preacher and practitioner of safe sex.

    Guess then you aren't what you say you are, are you?
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    Aug 18, 2011 10:09 PM GMT
    Just found out - like 5 minutes ago - that a friend of a friend found out he is positive. Basically he was going around barebacking, because he was convinced he would get HIV anyway.

    Well. He did.

    And its a damn shame. This shit makes me so damn sad and sick to my stomach.... HIV prevention, is in my view, much larger than just ordering people to wear condoms... especially when I hear stories like this.

    We need to figure out why there is such hopelessness and self destructive behavior in our community. Somehow, I am going to help do something about this...
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    Aug 18, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    why are there all these fake picture less profiles on real jock? If you cannot reveal yourself DO NOT JOIN! really simple
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    Aug 19, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    mayBbignow2 said
    collegegraddude saidwhy are there all these fake picture less profiles on real jock? If you cannot reveal yourself DO NOT JOIN! really simple


    You cant tell people what to do hotness



    ZbmwM5 said

    We need to figure out why there is such hopelessness and self destructive behavior in our community. Somehow, I am going to help do something about this...


    Sometimes its just fun. I dont think barebacking is always that deep





    I hear Russian Roulette is fun too. I don't think your brain is that deep.
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    Aug 19, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    yes great lesson to be learned....