arieschild saidWell it seems to me he means by openly gay someone who is comfortable with his sexuality and is out with everyone but does not appear to be gay unless you ask him. He doesn't shy away from he's sexuality if confronted about it but doesnt where it on he's sleeve and may feel as Michael Jackson says, it its just another part of me.
By outwardly gay I assume he means someone who is obviously gay without even asking. Someone who exhibits so called typical gay behaviour and may actively exhibit such behaviour for all to see. The person may not even be obviously gay but may seem to make their life all about it in day to day interactions with other people whether gay, straight, bi or whatever because he feels this makes up a very big part of who he is and how he defines himself.
This is just how I see it but correct me if I'm wrong.
For the purposes of this thread, I think this is an excellent way to define the difference, although I think several gay men I know might fall somewhere in the middle, the area between those two distinct boxes.
However, using those criteria, what about the last question asked by the OP? Are outwardly gay guys harmful or helpful to the cause? My opinion is that both openly and outwardly gay men are helpful to the cause, if the cause is equal human rights for gays.
Then, what about the bi guys? If you substituted bi for gay in arieschild's definitions what would be the result? I am not sure that is very clear.