yankinbc saidJust wondering if other guys have this problem: When I meet a guy on-line and we click, then invariably get around to seeing when we can meet, find some guys (like minutes ago here in Vancouver, BC area) want to meet only on their schedule. Rather than find a time that mutually fits both his and my schedule. Am I being too sensitive?
Nope. It's called reciprocity.
I was recently hit on by a guy. Goodlooking, same age, went to the same college. Asked me out. Good start. Exchange numbers.
I call to setup the date. He had to travel home in a three days and would be busy right up until his flight, said he'd call when he got back in town because he really wanted to hang out. I thought 'sure whatever.' But he did call me the Sunday when he got back (not a flake? surprising.). Small talk. I ask him to happy hour. He has two birthday parties and work events all week blah blah blah. I interrupt him "You know what, dude? Call me when you're free, I'll clear my schedule for you, alright?" And then I end the conversation.
Yes, they may be legitimately busy. So am I. But to me, a good dude is worth a little schedule shuffling.
Someone who isn't willing to take an hour or two out of their oh so busy week to get to know you is not worth the attention (and does not bode well as potential relationship material either). If they want it, they'll find the time.