Porn is not monolithic.
The hotlist on here (guys who one might want to enjoy hot times with but probably won't) is arguably soft-core porn.
People (mostly women) say that porn is about objectification but I rather think it is about projection. For example, I don't look at a picture of an incredibly hot guy and then picture him having sex with my saggy ole man-boobed body. In that little film I am just as sexy as "he - the meta he" is.
Therefore, the fantasy is as much a narcissistic projection (and maybe narcissism is too strong a word - perhaps self-directed is better) of who I would like to be (but am clearly not) and what being that might get me (but probably won't).
This activity can sit on a continuum from escapism to inspiration to out and out addiction. Furthermore, it can dovetail into very complicated subconscious issues with therapeutic effect - or deleterious effect (as in addiction).
I am sure this metaphor is towards correct if only because it fits the circumstances of other kinds of porn. (there is a lot of porn out there that is not sexual - at least not overtly so).
For example, I have a strong strong suspicion that much of the so-called "real-estate bubble" has been driven by the ready availability of so much real estate porn.
It is a curiosity to me that markets where real-estate prices remain strong have such a well developed real-estate porn industry. For example, floor-plan porn in Manhattan is so readily available, with prices changeable into different currencies, and other nice porn tools that is seems obvious that the audience for this material is global.
Yacht porn, jet porn, food porn, wine porn, and so forth.
Most people, even people who could afford to, aren't dumb enough to buy a Lamborghini, but lots of young boys wet themselves picturing themselves driving that car (middle-aged lawyers do this too).
Porn, and consumerism in general, are in my opinion forms of projection and expressions of the desire for self-validation as opposed to objectification.
Are they harmful? I don't think that consumerism per-se is harmful. However, that said it comes in various forms.
I was always pleased with Sex and the City when Carrie Bradshaw made informed choices between shoes and real estate. That strikes me as smart, funny, and realistic. I suppose Imelda Marcos relationship with shoes is less healthy (I think she is still on the Shoe Train down in St. Barts).
Anyway, a little porn, a nice martini, a pair of Blahniks, its all good - until it is a porn-jag, a martini binge, 5000 pair of Blahniks.
What about that creepy guy who bought Remington Razors - "I liked it so much I bought the company" - what is that guy watching on the Internet????
boiwunderkind9999 saidI was suddenly curious and bored at 4:30 am wondering how is it that some guys either don't if a guy their with has or watches pornography from time to time; or are really into it themselves; while there are a couple guys I know whom have disgust toward porno...
[File this under thread made under boredom, but still kind of serious.]