once is enough to be gay?

  • questionman

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    Aug 19, 2011 10:28 AM GMT
    I am a straight man and have never been interested in men, i've always had a lot of luck with beautiful women, and the thought of a man never crossed my mind.
    i have a friend, also straight and married, and, with my girlfriend at the time, the 4 of us sometimes would play some erotic games, but NEVER with any interaction between the two men. Clearly this is somebody i was comfortable with given the games with the wife and gf.
    He got divorced, and later i broke up with my gf.
    one night this guy and i were at my house by ourselves, and got really drunk and fucked up, and he suggested we should fool around, which took me completely by surprise, but i was really wasted, and went along with it. we took our clothes off, and next thing i know, i am sucking his cock! and though it wasn't my idea, i must say i didn't dislike it at the time, being drunk played a big part, and i even told him since i was experimenting, that he could come in my mouth, but he did not want to.
    i guess i was excited by the fact that his cock was huge, and i had never held another cock in my hand, let alone my mouth! so i sucked him off for a while, and he loved it, but didn't come in my mouth, he played with my dick, and that was about it.
    when we sobered up we were both so embarassed by what had happened that we told each other we had crossed a line, and we were never able to see each other again because we were i guess both embarassed. i know we shouldn't have, but that's the way it was.
    the following days i felt really ashamed about what had happened, then the thing kinda faded away.
    years after, i have not seen my friend again, and have never been attracted to any other men (infact, i wasn't really attracted to him either, except for his big dick), i would never do this again cause i am not interested, except maybe if it were to happen with him, which it won't. i guess the fact that we are both completely straight is a factor.
    however, when i think about that night now, i find it kind of exciting, and occasionally i watch some gay porn and am reminded.
    i have no interest in men, i don't think that one experience makes gay or bi, but wanted to know your opinion!
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    Aug 19, 2011 10:45 AM GMT
    Wow dude, you really fucked up. Now you'll have to go to church and gargle with holy water or you're going to fucking hell.
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    Aug 19, 2011 10:46 AM GMT
    so you're totally straight but you like big dicks

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    only you can say what you are...based on your own feelings, not the image you have to portray for society
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    Aug 19, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    shades of gray... Pictures, Images and Photos

    Hey questionman, see this pic?
    Consider that one end the this spectrum (let's say black) is gay, the other end is straight (the white end). All those millions of shades in between are the different degrees of Bi. I would say you are very very near the white end; you are a bit BI. You are NOT gay.

    -Doug
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    Aug 19, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    meninlove saidshades of gray... Pictures, Images and Photos

    Hey questionman, see this pic?
    Consider that one end the this spectrum (let's say black) is gay, the other end is straight (the white end). All those millions of shades in between are the different degrees of Bi. I would say you are very very near the white end; you are a bit BI. You are NOT gay.

    -Doug


    Or as Dan Savage would say, you have a touch of the bi but can legitimately round up to straight. Don't stress.
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    Aug 19, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Stan904 saidso you're totally straight but you like big dicks

    funny-pictures-interesting-cat.jpg

    only you can say what you are...based on your own feelings, not the image you have to portray for society


    Such a kute kitteh!!
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    Aug 19, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    lol
    You're not gay after this one incident. Just a really drunk, curious guy, with a horny friend. So don't fret.

    It's too bad you lost a friend over it, but shit happens I guess.
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    Aug 19, 2011 7:12 PM GMT
    I don't think one time makes you gay.

    I do think wanting to genuinely try it again, even if it is with one specific person, makes you curious and thats ok

    Curious ity doesn't stop you from being straight.

    I myself am curious about females. It terrifies me, but I'm becomming more and more open and honest about it.

    Should I ever act on that, I'm almost certain I will still want a relationship with a guy and would call myself gay because no part of me has interest in experiencing a complex romance with a woman.

    I'm almost certain at this point that I will have sex with a woman within the next year. Just to try it. Life is short, I only live once. Why not?

    So life is complicated.
    Be you, do you, and since you're straight, be good at hiding it too lol.

    Gotta be honest and say while drunk i've never even aimed to fool around with another guy and I'm gay, so maybe your friend was just as curious as you are.

    Look him up on facebook or something. Say hi. See how he's doing. He may be wondering how you are doing too.
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    Aug 27, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    He refuses to talk. I think he may be afraid that this would happen again if we saw each other again, or maybe he's just embarassed as he says.
    I'm not interested in other men, but i would have liked to do this once more just with him, who is straight, to complete the experience instead of leaving it unfinished, but that is not gonna happen cause he won't talk to me. His prerogative, and his loss since I would have swallowed all he had for once only.
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    Aug 28, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    Lol..."straight" guys...
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    Aug 28, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    A similar thing happened to me once with my neighbor. Fooled around on night then we were so ashamed and weird out that we quickly drifted apart.

    Oh but I was 12...
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    Aug 28, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    OK, this:

    "I'm not interested in other men, but i would have liked to do this once more just with him, who is straight, to complete the experience instead of leaving it unfinished, but that is not gonna happen cause he won't talk to me. His prerogative, and his loss since I would have swallowed all he had for once only."

    You're not straight, my friend, you are BI, and still fantasizing about this..


  • Aug 28, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    Not gay, but a good start. If you keep working at it then someday you'll get there. I myself fucked several men before I leveled up and became gay.
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    Aug 28, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    This is called "bi-curiosity" you are NOT gay