how can you tell if a "str8 acting" guy (jock type) is gay??

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    Aug 19, 2011 12:57 PM GMT
    There are so many good looking guys on this website, but how can we ever find them in the "real world" besides finding them online?

    How can you guys tell?

    If you do see an awesome looking guy do you just hold your breath, go talk to him and hope to God he's gay??
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    Aug 19, 2011 1:15 PM GMT
    You can't tell...unless they hit on you, or you hit on them...and they don't punch you in the face. But talking and having a normal conversation with them allows you to observe without the creeper status. Of course, that's just my opinion on the matter.
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    Aug 19, 2011 1:19 PM GMT
    wpbnole saidYou can't tell...unless they hit on you, or you hit on them...and they don't punch you in the face. But talking and having a normal conversation with them allows you to observe without the creeper status. Of course, that's just my opinion on the matter.


    +1... however .. here acting like a gay can be just a joke .. so u can be 100% sure that the guy is gay cuz he said something ... and then u find out he is joking -,-
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    Aug 19, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    1. Get a membership at a gym known to have a higher than average percentage of gay men in your area.

    2. Then make with the non-intimidating/non-creepy conversation skills.

    Or just skip to step 2. Give a few days and wait to see if he drop a few feathers (hints or cues that positively engage your gaydar).

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    Aug 19, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    The title of your post and your actual statement or not even related to each other.
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    Aug 19, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    wpbnole saidYou can't tell...unless they hit on you, or you hit on them...and they don't punch you in the face. But talking and having a normal conversation with them allows you to observe without the creeper status. Of course, that's just my opinion on the matter.

    Agree, and even normal conversations will often not shed much light on this. It can take getting to know someone based on other interests before the topic is addressed.
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    Aug 19, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    tuck your junk in the locker room and face your butt towards them. If they look... gay icon_rolleyes.gif
  • easterndude69

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    Aug 19, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    Its not easy. Someone can show hints to being gay when they're just joking around. I guess if you see a cute guy you should talk to him. You can flirt with him too at your own risk, but it will most likely make you come off as a creeper.
    You have to really get to know someone to know if they're gay or not.
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    Aug 19, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    The dick in the mouth/ass. Thats usually a dead giveaway.
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    Aug 19, 2011 4:57 PM GMT
    JP85257 saidThe dick in the mouth/ass. Thats usually a dead giveaway.


    This
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    Aug 19, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    If he's "straight-acting", you're probably watching him make out or have sex with a woman. That's a good indication he's not gay.
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    Aug 19, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    miamimasseur saidIf he's "straight-acting", you're probably watching him make out or have sex with a woman. That's a good indication he's not gay.


    haha, well said!
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    Aug 19, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    I have the exact same problem. I have no freakin gaydar. So when I ever I see a cute guy I just keep walking. I don't want to hit on some straight guy and get my face punched. It sucks but that's the reality. And even if you talk to them, most people don't want to disclose their sexuality unless your a "very" close friend to them. So you can never tell if someone is gay.

    The best way is to do what alphatigger said. So to a place where is predominately gay men and try to meet guys there.
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    Aug 19, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    JP85257 saidThe dick in the mouth/ass. Thats usually a dead giveaway.


    ^THIS^
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    Aug 19, 2011 5:51 PM GMT
    Touch his croch and see if he screams. If not, then he's probably gay or bi.
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    Aug 19, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    Follow their eyes. Guys interested at guys or a particular type of guy at the gym will be checking at them repeatedly more so than at the women.
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    Aug 19, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    Just go talk to him man. Don't say anything creepy or something that can be misconstrued as being gay. See if he mentions his girlfriend. Notice if he makes a lot of eye contact or scans your body. You'll never know if you don't go and talk to them.
  • easterndude69

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    Aug 19, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    Pinch his butt. If he likes it there's a possibility start a normal convo with him first before doing that otherwise he'll think you're a creeper. I would just jokingly flirt with cute guys but don't give away that you're looking for a gay relationship.

    If they talk about girls or you see them in the hallway talking with girls in a flirty kind of way or kissing girls, they're most likely not gay. If you see a boy kiss another, it's worth checking them out to see if they're gay.
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    Aug 19, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidFollow their eyes. Guys interested at guys or a particular type of guy at the gym will be checking at them repeatedly more so than at the women.


    A few straight guys have done this to me as a joke. They stare at me a long time but they were just messing with me.
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    Aug 19, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
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    coolarmydude saidFollow their eyes. Guys interested at guys or a particular type of guy at the gym will be checking at them repeatedly more so than at the women.


    A few straight guys have done this to me as a joke. They stare at me a long time but they were just messing with me.




    or were they?



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    Aug 19, 2011 7:08 PM GMT
    rnch said
    hornydude01 said
    coolarmydude saidFollow their eyes. Guys interested at guys or a particular type of guy at the gym will be checking at them repeatedly more so than at the women.


    A few straight guys have done this to me as a joke. They stare at me a long time but they were just messing with me.




    or were they?



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    Aug 19, 2011 7:14 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    rnch said
    hornydude01 said
    coolarmydude saidFollow their eyes. Guys interested at guys or a particular type of guy at the gym will be checking at them repeatedly more so than at the women.


    A few straight guys have done this to me as a joke. They stare at me a long time but they were just messing with me.




    or were they?



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    I guess I'll never know...icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 19, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    newkid901 saidThere are so many good looking guys on this website, but how can we ever find them in the "real world" besides finding them online?

    How can you guys tell?

    If you do see an awesome looking guy do you just hold your breath, go talk to him and hope to God he's gay??

    Some of us do have very good gaydar, which I think is instinctive. I've never had a problem identifying the guy, but finding the courage and the opening line to use was often another issue. But that's really true for many men, because even straights can be shy pursuing women, and they have little trouble being certain of who the females are (well, except maybe here in Wilton Manors).

    I think that's one reason gay clubs & bars continue to be popular. You have a high probability that any man there is gonna be gay, and if he's not, he can't very well complain if you thought he was, given where he is. And approaching guys in those settings can be a lot easier and less tense, than say in a gym or a shopping mall.

    Of course the downside is that lots of guys aren't interested in the kinds of gays that frequent those places, and they may just not like the bar scene. Joining gay community groups, sports teams, chorus, church, just dozens of gay activities that you can Google online for your area, is an alternative to the bars. Once again, you can be confident that the guys you meet that way are gay or bi. And if you don't prefer bi they usually tell you their orientation pretty quickly, and at least won't punch you out for being interested in them.
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    Aug 19, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    newkid901 saidhow can you tell if a "str8 acting" guy (jock type) is gay??...If you do see an awesome looking guy do you just hold your breath, go talk to him and hope to God he's gay??

    Well ...I'm not too sure but I think is 100% pure intuation,lol... cuz I just need look at his eyes to know!... he doesn't even need to open his mouth!icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 19, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Some of us do have very good gaydar, which I think is instinctive. I've never had a problem identifying the guy, but finding the courage and the opening line to use was often another issue. But that's really true for many men, because even straights can be shy pursuing women, and they have little trouble being certain of who the females are (well, except maybe here in Wilton Manors).


    See, that's just not fair icon_sad.gif
    I could never in my life figure out who's gay and who's not. I have always been 100% wrong, which is crazy. All my crushes so far have been on straight guys whom I sure were straight. This has been my problem since the 7th grade. I thought it would get better but even now I can't tell who's gay!