newkid901 saidThere are so many good looking guys on this website, but how can we ever find them in the "real world" besides finding them online?
How can you guys tell?
If you do see an awesome looking guy do you just hold your breath, go talk to him and hope to God he's gay??
Some of us do have very good gaydar, which I think is instinctive. I've never had a problem identifying the guy, but finding the courage and the opening line to use was often another issue. But that's really true for many men, because even straights can be shy pursuing women, and they have little trouble being certain of who the females are (well, except maybe here in Wilton Manors).
I think that's one reason gay clubs & bars continue to be popular. You have a high probability that any man there is gonna be gay, and if he's not, he can't very well complain if you thought he was, given where he is. And approaching guys in those settings can be a lot easier and less tense, than say in a gym or a shopping mall.
Of course the downside is that lots of guys aren't interested in the kinds of gays that frequent those places, and they may just not like the bar scene. Joining gay community groups, sports teams, chorus, church, just dozens of gay activities that you can Google online for your area, is an alternative to the bars. Once again, you can be confident that the guys you meet that way are gay or bi. And if you don't prefer bi they usually tell you their orientation pretty quickly, and at least won't punch you out for being interested in them.