Calling all bottoms

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    Aug 21, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    Ok, so I have a tiny little 5incher for a wee wee.

    Being as such, I have to bottom. The issue is that I'm having a few problems with bottoming.

    1. Being in the submissive role seems to be lowering my self esteem, making me feel like a lowly sex toy. I want to be agressive, and thats hard in that role. I've heard of power bottoming, but I have no idea how that works.

    2. I feel resentment for being a bottom because I've been forced into it. I want to bottom out of preference, not because I'm too small to top. Being naturally condemned into something doesn't make it appealing to me.

    3. After having dicks and dildos go up there, I can say I honestly dont think Im getting any real pleasure out of it. I can get arounsed by the guy and the situation, but the actual feeling of having something go up my ass doesnt feel good at all. Is that normal?

    For all you devoted bottoms out there, what's your take on this? What can/should I do?
  • Nizzo

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    Aug 21, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    Be a top. You're just going to have to put extra work when you top. And missionary position would work best for your cock size.

    Ps. Some of best fucks in my life have been with guys under six.
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    Aug 21, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Nizzo saidBe a top. You're just going to have to put extra work when you top. And missionary position would work best for your cock size.

    Ps. Some of best fucks in my life have been with guys under six.


    Im sure I'd get laughed at if I ever even proposed to top. Like trying to fill an air terminal with a toothpick.
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    Aug 21, 2011 5:30 PM GMT
    Brettski said
    Nizzo saidBe a top. You're just going to have to put extra work when you top. And missionary position would work best for your cock size.

    Ps. Some of best fucks in my life have been with guys under six.


    Im sure I'd get laughed at if I ever even proposed to top. Like trying to fill an air terminal with a toothpick.


    umm.. who the fuck has the right to determine what is enjoyable for you in sex? No one but YOURSELF.

    So, you want real good advice?

    Be a TOP, tell the other person to suck it up, and if he isn't willing to take your dick, then the door is that way.
    Seriously, you make me sad when you say "I feel like I have to bottom because I have a small dick".

    I fucking get pissed off everytime I hear that. or see it typed for the matter.

    Don't you have balls? Can't you stand up for yourself man?

    you have a dick,. so USE IT.
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    Stop placing stereotypes on who is the bottom and who is the top... fuck.
  • KissTheSky

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    Aug 21, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    Brettski:
    I think your ideas on dick size may be the result of watching porn videos where every dude is huge.
    In reality, 5" is actually within the "average" range (google it if you don't believe me) so you can stop thinking of your dick as tiny -- it's not.
    Plus there's a lot of guys who actually rather NOT be fucked by a monster dick, because it can be uncomfortable and pain is not sexy.
    Being a good top involves many things besides dick size -- many bottoms are turned on by a dominant attitude, which it sounds like you have. Do some reading online and go from there. Plus you're very cute... I'm sure there are a ton of guys out there would love to be your bottom dude.
    Try to relax and do the stuff you want to, and find other guys who want to do that stuff with you. Believe me, they are out there. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 21, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    Dude no! There are plenty of guys, like myself, that actually find the perfect size to be topped by between 5 and 7 inches so don't force yourself to be a bottom because of size queens. Please believe they don't speak for all bottoms icon_rolleyes.gif

    You just have to be confident and then size won't matter.
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    Aug 21, 2011 9:21 PM GMT
    if you don't like being on the bottom all the time than don't be, if someone's telling you you're a bottom and you don't feel like one you need to start thinking for yourself.
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    Aug 21, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    You really do need to cut out this attitude. There is nothing wrong with a 5inch dick. For me, a guy's penis size is way way down on the list of things that are important to me in finding a guy. Let's put it this way, one of the best experiences I have had was with a guy your size (if not smaller).

    What you are going to need to do is learn to be ok with yourself and accept your size. If you are confident, you will see that no one has an issue with your size. And honestly, if a guy ever told me my dick was too small, I would want nothing to do with that size queen anyways. Maybe that is because I am not just looking to hookup though...
  • rnch

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    Aug 22, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    OP: my bf is only slighter bigger than you (if at all, never put a ruler next to it!) and he does just fine with what doner DNA gave him.


    OHH YEHHHHH!!!!


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    Aug 22, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    Brettski said
    Nizzo saidBe a top. You're just going to have to put extra work when you top. And missionary position would work best for your cock size.

    Ps. Some of best fucks in my life have been with guys under six.


    Im sure I'd get laughed at if I ever even proposed to top. Like trying to fill an air terminal with a toothpick.


    umm.. who the fuck has the right to determine what is enjoyable for you in sex? No one but YOURSELF.

    So, you want real good advice?

    Be a TOP, tell the other person to suck it up, and if he isn't willing to take your dick, then the door is that way.
    Seriously, you make me sad when you say "I feel like I have to bottom because I have a small dick".

    I fucking get pissed off everytime I hear that. or see it typed for the matter.

    Don't you have balls? Can't you stand up for yourself man?

    you have a dick,. so USE IT.
    -----

    Stop placing stereotypes on who is the bottom and who is the top... fuck.


    1. Im not dissing bottoms or implying they're small. I'd like bottoming a lot better if I was doing it out of preference. And I respect bottoms adamently, more than tops, since it takes balls to take it.

    "umm.. who the fuck has the right to determine what is enjoyable for you in sex? No one but YOURSELF."

    2. My personal enjoyment is LAST on my list of importance. My partners happiness, satisfaction, and me coming out looking great are far more urgent.

    "Don't you have balls? Can't you stand up for yourself man?"

    3. No one has told me to be a bottom, or complained about my size, but handing out a pathetic performace with a little squirt gun (motion in the ocean is useless when all you got is a little life wraft instead of a cruise liner) is too humiliating for me to even think of trying.

    By the answers Im guessing there's really no way for me to improve my bottoming sex role? Since nothing was offered up on that.
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    Aug 22, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    Brettski said
    1. Im not dissing bottoms or implying they're small. I'd like bottoming a lot better if I was doing it out of preference. And I respect bottoms adamently, more than tops, since it takes balls to take it. I feel lowly becuase I got sent there out of inadaquacy, not preference.

    "umm.. who the fuck has the right to determine what is enjoyable for you in sex? No one but YOURSELF."

    2. My personal enjoyment is LAST on my list of importance. My partners happiness, satisfaction, and me coming out looking great are far more urgent.

    "Don't you have balls? Can't you stand up for yourself man?"

    3. No one has told me to be a bottom, or complained about my size, but handing out a pathetic performace with a little squirt gun (motion in the ocean is useless when all you got is a little life wraft instead of a cruise liner) is too humiliating for me to even think of trying.

    By the answers Im guessing there's really no way for me to improve my bottoming sex role? Since nothing was offered up on that.


    That is why your life sucks and will continue to suck.

    and also, have you taken any human anatomy courses?

    The prostate gland is about 4 to 5 inches away from the entrance to your rectum... which means that a 5 inch dick is perfect to give the bottom the complete pleasure of the prostate getting smashed.

    oh boy, you have a LOT to learn.
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    Aug 22, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    .....there is no reason that you cannot top. People think having an above average dick is awesome and its actually not. A lot of times, it's just confusing. You just need to learn how to use what you have and be proud of it. If you are unsatisfied, you can never satisfy anyone else. The grass is not nearly as green on the other side as people make it out to be. A lot of people pretend the want an 8inch+ but when presented with it will look at you like icon_confused.gif

    lots of guys will be happy to let you top them as long as you own your body dude.
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    Aug 22, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    dekiruman said.....there is no reason that you cannot top. People think having an above average dick is awesome and its actually not. A lot of times, it's just confusing. You just need to learn how to use what you have and be proud of it. If you are unsatisfied, you can never satisfy anyone else. The grass is not nearly as green on the other side as people make it out to be. A lot of people pretend the want an 8inch+ but when presented with it will look at you like icon_confused.gif

    lots of guys will be happy to let you top them as long as you own your body dude.


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    Aug 22, 2011 7:00 AM GMT
    I'll stop lamenting on this forum.

    If you think my 5 incher is worth something, good for you. My standards for MYSELF (nobody else included) says its completely unnaceptable. I may fit yours and everyone's standards for adaquacy, but my standards are what count to me, and Im nowhere close to the bar I've set for myself. A bar that I believe isnt unreasonable and I'm ashamed I cannot reach it.
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    Aug 22, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    Brettski saidI'll stop lamenting on this forum.

    If you think my 5 incher is worth something, good for you. My standards for MYSELF (nobody else included) says its completely unnaceptable. I may fit yours and everyone's standards for adaquacy, but my standards are what count to me, and Im nowhere close to the bar I've set for myself. A bar that I believe isnt unreanable and I'm ashamed I cannot reach it.


    Cry me a fucking river then because honey, you can't change the size of your penis.

    So you can be ashamed until the day you die.

    OR...

    you can start doing something you ENJOY DOING such as TOPPING?

    Do you know what topping is?

    Step 1. Insert your penis into your partner's asshole and repeat.

    Done.

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    Aug 22, 2011 7:08 AM GMT
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    this thread is now about failure.

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    Aug 22, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
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    Aug 23, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    Come top me n I'll show you how to b a power bottom! Lol
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    Aug 23, 2011 5:24 PM GMT
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    lol so funny but so appropriate here.
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    Aug 23, 2011 8:18 PM GMT
    This topic makes me wonder if the OP is talking real inches, as measured from base to tip along the top, or Internet inches, where an 8" cock is actually 6" at best. 'Cuz five real inches is plenty enough for topping.
  • dalek19

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    Aug 24, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    just because you bottom doesnt mean you have to be submissive and non aggressive. nothing gets me goin more then an aggressive eager bottom.
    as for your dick size im vers and only like getting fucked by small dicks so dont let it stop ya! just be confident and work what you have well.
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    Aug 24, 2011 4:21 PM GMT
    as far as i know the prostate is about 3" inside the rectum... so, you don't need 9 thick inches to hit it, dood...I get what you mean about worrying about your size...believe me, i TOTALLY get it... i'm a little smaller than you...and I top or bottom...it's all good...be happy it works...and btw...there's a whole load of guys that really get into smaller dicks....And, for guys that usually top and wanna give bottoming a go....we have great "starter sized" weeners... all the fun...none of the pain...

  • BttmStud4Stud

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    Aug 27, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    Ok so as a confirmed and skilled bottom icon_biggrin.gif the best way to enjoy it is to have fun with it. Theres my advice on that.
    Now again as a bottom, the best sex I've had was with partners that had sex with me, its something two people do together not something one person lets another do to him.
    Ok too many pronouns there but you get the idea. I've had really great sex with guys who had 5" cocks and really bad sex with guys with 10" cocks. Its all about skill, sensitivity to your partner and having some damn fun.
    Sex should be jouyous and sweaty and hot.

    If you don't feel comfortable enough with the person you are making love to, to ask for what you want and listen to what he wants and then make eachother happy Son you just shouldn't be having sex with him.
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    Aug 27, 2011 7:55 AM GMT
    BrettskiAfter having dicks and dildos go up there, I can say I honestly dont think Im getting any real pleasure out of it. I can get arounsed by the guy and the situation, but the actual feeling of having something go up my ass doesnt feel good at all. Is that normal?


    If you're not getting any pleasure I'd guess it's due to either not being comfortable taking things up the ass yet due to inexperience, in which case you can practice with maybe buttplugs that are a bit larger that you just leave in for a while. It'd help with just getting accustomed to having your ass opened up for a while. I mean it isn't really a muscle you grow up letting hang loose, so I think you have to get used the sensation of keeping it relaxed.

    Other thing it could be is just that the guy fucking you isn't hitting the right spot, so could always try different positions.
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    Aug 27, 2011 8:01 AM GMT
    As a bottom, I will say: Big penises are beautiful to look at and play with, but logistically they hurt the old poopchute and make the jaw ache.

    5 inches is long enough to fuck, the only thing to concern yourself with is coming all the way out of the hole. All the way out & back in is uncomfortable for the bottom.