relationship without intercourse

  • austinlee

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    Aug 22, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    Do you believe in a relationship/mongamous one that doesn't have to involve anal sex? Mutual j/o, making out, cuddling.. just like normal but no anal sex. Is it very rare to find such kind of guy that would be into the same thing and no intercourse?
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    I think, for where my head is right now, that's the kind I'd be looking for, at least for a good long while, so yes, I think there are people out there who might be up for that. I know of at least one other guy here who would be up for that too.
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    Aug 22, 2011 7:56 AM GMT

    I think it is more than reasonable and likely to find a guy that would be into a relationship like that because I myself would have no problem with it. Now obviously it's much easier said than done to find other guys into this kind of sexual relationship but def not outrageous.
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    Aug 22, 2011 8:14 AM GMT
    My most recent relationship worked that way, and it went very well. I honestly didn't feel like anything was missing in the bedroom.
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    Aug 22, 2011 11:57 AM GMT
    Maybe it's just me, but there are times when I'm into anal sex and usually that's when I'm deeply in love with someone. I just cannot bring myself to bottom to a random guy just for sex, if you know what I mean.

    I think the male anatomy is sophisticated enough to receive various forms of stimulation and it doesn't have to be done anally all the time. I'm certainly up for a relationship with sprinkles of anal sex here and there!
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    Aug 22, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    austinlee saidDo you believe in a relationship/mongamous one that doesn't have to involve anal sex? Mutual j/o, making out, cuddling.. just like normal but no anal sex. Is it very rare to find such kind of guy that would be into the same thing and no intercourse?


    I could definitely be satisfied with something like that if I found the right guy.
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    Aug 22, 2011 12:26 PM GMT
    You can get pleasure from rubbing your crotches together.

    Not sure if that's what you meant by cuddling...I suppose it falls under that category...
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    Aug 22, 2011 12:30 PM GMT
    Butt sex is fun, but it is eh. I could take it or leave it. Truthfully half the time I just want to get off quick with my bf so he can snuggle me all night long ;). That is the best feeling when he is wrapped around me.
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    Aug 22, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidAnal is waaaay overrated. I could cuddle for hours, though.

    I'm with ya on that one!
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    Aug 22, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    I think that a long-term and serious relationship should involve at least regular sex in order to solidify a greater sense of physical intimacy with both partners - of course, this goes without saying that every other mutual act (dining, hanging out, romantic gestures of a non-erotic nature, etc.) would also be more or less significant in defining how a relationship works amongst different couples everywhere.

    Though I myself have yet to be in a serious relationship , I can support my views from friends I know who are in gay and straight relationships as of the moment - some boast about sex nearly every other night, while others prefer to keep it strictly after marriage, yet still others say that they have yet to do the act (despite being together for over two years!) . . .
  • rnch

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    Aug 22, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said^^Cuddle fiend!

    I do like butt sex...no...I love buttsecks but if I had the right connection with a guy it I would give it up. As I'm getting older it is becoming less and less important.
    That being said, I find buttsecks very mediocre and uninteresting, but if I had the right connection with a guy I would take it up... the butt?




    until i met my current bf; i had little interest in "going anal".

    with him, somehow it's desireable and enjoyable.
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    Aug 22, 2011 1:56 PM GMT
    I could easily be in a relationship with no anal last time I topped anyone was in 2008 and don't even miss it
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    Aug 22, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    austinlee saidDo you believe in a relationship/mongamous one that doesn't have to involve anal sex? Mutual j/o, making out, cuddling.. just like normal but no anal sex. Is it very rare to find such kind of guy that would be into the same thing and no intercourse?


    Sure I believe it. I was in a relationship for 2 years once that did not involve anal sex. We just made out, j/o, cuddling, oral, etc.
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    Aug 22, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    Okay, I have only been in one serious relationship with a boy so take what stock in my opinion that you will. I still sometimes think about him, and he filled the void in my life like nothing else could. I have messed around more than I care to think about. I think what made my boyfriend and I's relationship so much more filling was that we never did have sex. We talked, and did stuff, kissed and cuddled, and on a rare night did some jacking off. By far the most rewarding relationship I have had to date, and I think it was because it was not built on sex.
  • whenitrains

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    Aug 22, 2011 2:26 PM GMT
    There is a movement called g0i

    g zero i. there are videos on youtube.

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    Aug 22, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    Kinda mixed on this one.

    There are times when I'll be perfectly happy just cuddling, or just having oral sex, exchanging manual stimulation, or frottage.

    And other times where nothing will do but me slamfucking a hot bottom and seeing my cock and balls smash up against his ass ... hearing him moan as I fill him up, and feeling him clamp down on me as I explode into him...

    ...yeah, I'd need to be able to top to keep my interest up.

  • mizu5

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    Aug 22, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    whenitrains saidThere is a movement called g0i

    g zero i. there are videos on youtube.

    it's little bit more intense than this though. They are adamently against anal sex and find it repulsive and wrong, and from what i've read, use some rpetty nasty terms to refer to it and thsoe who do it.
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:06 PM GMT
    You can go a life time with muscle worship alone! Anal I think its what society tells you must be part of it. But for muscle worship you need muscles might not work well with a scrawny dude.
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    If you will find it fulfilling, and your partner will find it fulfilling, then all will be fine! Just make really and truly sure your partner is on the same wavelength - if not, then problems are likely.
  • ATXnative

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    Aug 22, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    There is a couple who was featured here on RJ a few years ago that I met in person in dallas, we went to a party and they were telling me about their sex lives. They are the youngest, most well connected awesome couple I have ever encountered and they didnt have intercourse for the first couple years, but eventually started trying it for one another.

    I think a long lasting relationship is going to have anal sex.

    And I mean, Its pretty cool, a lot of guys just feel like they wont be a man afterwards. But even as a total top I used to appreciate the manly ability to take a dick.

    Just be yourselves.
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    I feel I'm not doing my job if my bottom Is not getting stuffed. Kinda liberating to hear otherwise. Getting a bj or fucking face works for me too. I don't like getting fucked at all... Never do that.
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    yeha if you want to date a hungry bottom.. Chances are . it wont work.
  • dancedancekj

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    Aug 22, 2011 5:42 PM GMT
    I guess I'm not so romantic. At the moment, I am not going to buy the cow if I'm not getting any milk.

    I would just always feel like something is missing.
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:44 PM GMT
    Ummmm no
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    Aug 22, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Love + Sex = Relationship icon_smile.gif ... one of them is missing means no relationship