a good ways to break people up

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    so my best friend is dating this guy that is very abusive, oday he punched her and treaton to put naked pictures of her on facebook, i would break his neck but she wont let me. do you guys know i could way i could break them up forever.icon_evil.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 8:13 AM GMT
    It is not in you making them break up. She is the one that has to decide to break with that abusive jerk.... some people are just masochistic.

    On the other hand, does Facebook allows naked pictures?icon_confused.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
    Nothing you can do but hope he does not kill her. If you witness the actual physical abuse you should call the authorities and have him arrested.

    That's the law.
  • gallus81

    Posts: 350

    Aug 23, 2011 1:22 PM GMT
    Ducky47 saidNothing you can do but hope he does not kill her. If you witness the actual physical abuse you should call the authorities and have him arrested.

    That's the law.


    if you witnessed the (or any) assault, the onus is just as much on you (IMO) to report it for her sake/safety.

    domestic violence; it's got to stop.

  • Scorpio1113

    Posts: 90

    Aug 23, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    You can't break a couple up, at least not directly. The decision is all up to the individuals who are in the relationship. The best thing you can do is offer your support, opinion, and advice. Even if you witness his abusive behavior and report it to the police, that would not put a stop the relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes people need an earth shattering wake up call before coming to their senses. He may have to seriously hurt her, either physically or emotionally, for her to really leave the situation icon_sad.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    Celcious69 saidIt is not in you making them break up. She is the one that has to decide to break with that abusive jerk.... some people are just masochistic.

    On the other hand, does Facebook allows naked pictures?icon_confused.gif


    it dont matter im still going to do it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 3:29 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    archon saidso my best friend is dating this guy that is very abusive, oday he punched her and treaton to put naked pictures of her on facebook, i would break his neck but she wont let me. do you guys know i could way i could break them up forever.icon_evil.gif

    Well, you could learn the language and become a better communicator, I guess. [scratches head]

    Barring that, I suppose you could nibble on his kneecaps and punch his shins until they splint.





    And dude I'm totally trollin' you 'cos I think you're pretty cute in an angry maladjusted way, lol. And RJ is boring tonight. :-)



    ill do that to you
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 3:32 PM GMT
    Well she is scared of what he may do thats a problem.. You dont have to hurt the man but you can spook him a little maybe.

    Best way to get rid of a bf is to act like you ve gone totally mentally insane and you are not stable.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    Any "man" who would hit a women needs to have his ass beat to a pulp! End of story!

    icon_evil.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    HavenJock80 saidWell she is scared of what he may do thats a problem.. You dont have to hurt the man but you can spook him a little maybe.

    Best way to get rid of a bf is to act like you ve gone totally mentally insane and you are not stable.


    you know that i was thinking of doing that lol
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    The question you should be asking is how can you help your best friend to have better self-esteem so she can not only get out of her current relationship but to also not get back into an abusive relationship in the future.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    There are only two things that you can do- one that's legal and one that's illegal:

    Legal: You're going to have to let the relationship run its course. She has to be the one to end the relationship. My personal theory on that is that they want to be the one to change the asshole, but we all know that every person has only the authority to change themselves, not the person around them. So until she realizes that she can't and has the nerve to leave (in which case, more power to her) then there's nothing you can do. However, if you witness domestic violence, call the cops on his loser ass.

    Illegal: Plot his murder and make it look like suicide. DISCLAIMER: I do not condone this move under any circumstances, but I really couldn't blame you if you do.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    archon said
    HavenJock80 saidWell she is scared of what he may do thats a problem.. You dont have to hurt the man but you can spook him a little maybe.

    Best way to get rid of a bf is to act like you ve gone totally mentally insane and you are not stable.


    you know that i was thinking of doing that lol

    Well, they've got those little purses for Chihuahuas now, so watch out you don't just get muzzled and put in your place.

    If it's serious, have you thought about calling the police? (about the abuse....not about getting shoved in a Chihuahua bag.)


    icon_evil.gif she did, she dont want to press charges. but today im taking her to learn a little Motobu Udundi/tuiti. this martial art is only know to a few people in the world, and its was the art tought to royalty in okinawa
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 6:31 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidThere are only two things that you can do- one that's legal and one that's illegal:

    Legal: You're going to have to let the relationship run its course. She has to be the one to end the relationship. My personal theory on that is that they want to be the one to change the asshole, but we all know that every person has only the authority to change themselves, not the person around them. So until she realizes that she can't and has the nerve to leave (in which case, more power to her) then there's nothing you can do. However, if you witness domestic violence, call the cops on his loser ass.

    Illegal: Plot his murder and make it look like suicide. DISCLAIMER: I do not condone this move under any circumstances, but I really couldn't blame you if you do.


    i think i like the illegal one better.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    archon said
    yourname2000 said
    archon said
    HavenJock80 saidWell she is scared of what he may do thats a problem.. You dont have to hurt the man but you can spook him a little maybe.

    Best way to get rid of a bf is to act like you ve gone totally mentally insane and you are not stable.


    you know that i was thinking of doing that lol

    Well, they've got those little purses for Chihuahuas now, so watch out you don't just get muzzled and put in your place.

    If it's serious, have you thought about calling the police? (about the abuse....not about getting shoved in a Chihuahua bag.)


    icon_evil.gif she did, she dont want to press charges. but today im taking her to learn a little Motobu Udundi/tuiti. this martial art is only know to a few people in the world, and its was the art tought to royalty in okinawa

    Nice! You should watch Narnia again, too....I think the royalty there had some special moves as well.

    I don't really remember Okinawa....was Daniel Day Lewis in that one? (God that guy's hot.)


    http://donahueacademy.com/Home_Page.html thats the link, not joking.
  • EricLA

    Posts: 3461

    Aug 23, 2011 6:58 PM GMT
    You can't live her life for her. She has to make decisions about this, it's not your place no matter how much you want it to be. You can express to her your concern over his disrespect for her and for her safety. Other than that, you run the risk of your efforts backfiring and damaging your friendship with her.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 23, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    archon said
    yourname2000 said
    archon said
    yourname2000 said
    archon said
    HavenJock80 saidWell she is scared of what he may do thats a problem.. You dont have to hurt the man but you can spook him a little maybe.

    Best way to get rid of a bf is to act like you ve gone totally mentally insane and you are not stable.


    you know that i was thinking of doing that lol

    Well, they've got those little purses for Chihuahuas now, so watch out you don't just get muzzled and put in your place.

    If it's serious, have you thought about calling the police? (about the abuse....not about getting shoved in a Chihuahua bag.)


    icon_evil.gif she did, she dont want to press charges. but today im taking her to learn a little Motobu Udundi/tuiti. this martial art is only know to a few people in the world, and its was the art tought to royalty in okinawa

    Nice! You should watch Narnia again, too....I think the royalty there had some special moves as well.

    I don't really remember Okinawa....was Daniel Day Lewis in that one? (God that guy's hot.)


    http://donahueacademy.com/Home_Page.html thats the link, not joking.

    Cool looking place.

    And maybe if she feels empowered physically, she'll start to feel empowered mentally and situations will never get to this point again.

    She doesn't just need help getting rid of this guy though....she'll just find another asshole. She needs help figuring out what she really wants/needs from a bf and why she keeps perverting that into the guy(s) she's getting (assuming it's a pattern, but if she's bound to this guy and putting up with this shit, then it likely is.)

    Can you help her with that? If not, help her find someone who can or you'll just be fighting her battles again.


    you were right in almost everything you said.icon_biggrin.gif but she still needs to learn how to kick ass
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 24, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    TotalTopJock saidThe question you should be asking is how can you help your best friend to have better self-esteem so she can not only get out of her current relationship but to also not get back into an abusive relationship in the future.


    OP, you didn't reply to TotalTopJock. I agree with others saying that you can't live her life for her. It's true. She's an adult. She has to make her own decisions. As her friend, it's your responsibility to let her know that you are concerned for her. You need to give her that support.

    You said she wouldn't let you break his neck.... I doubt she would let you just go break them up if it were that easy.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 24, 2011 2:16 AM GMT
    archon saidso my best friend is dating this guy that is very abusive, oday he punched her and treaton to put naked pictures of her on facebook, i would break his neck but she wont let me. do you guys know i could way i could break them up forever.icon_evil.gif


    Ugh, this sort of thing gets me really upset. Don't personally hurt him unless it gets out of hand. You can also report him. Just try to talk to her and see what happens. It's her life- all you can do is give her advice.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 24, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
    Nope. Butt out.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Aug 24, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    JackNWNJ saidNope. Butt out.


    nope i will not butt out, her problem is my problem, plus they already broke up ill make sure it stays like that.