Good Parenting Or Bad Parenting, What Do You Think???

  • inuman

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    Aug 23, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    http://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/news/mother-forces-thief-son-into-parade-of-shame/story-e6freuy9-1226120016370

    I personally don't know what to say, I think if she had done all she had said then yes some public embarrassment is in order but that's just me. What do you guys think??
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    Aug 23, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    I say good on her, I can't believe some douchebag called Child Safety Services on her, just because she actually did something to discipline her child...
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    Aug 23, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    Good for her. Nice to see a parent take some responsibility instead of blaming everyone except their precious kid.
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    Aug 23, 2011 2:56 PM GMT
    That's a bit over the top. I would ask how many time did she try the things that she said. You do it until it works! The ears come on now. There are more effective ways of parenting. There is one thing that she did not say she tried, gounding or taking away his toys. I could see if she did this in front the store where he shop lifted. That was not the case. CRAZY!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 23, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    I agree the mother's public humiliation of the 10 year old was really a bit over-the-top. However, I do remember back when I was maybe 7 or 8 and I sneaked a piece of bubble gum out of the penny jar at the local drug store and made the mistake of popping it in my mouth as my dad and I were pulling out the parking lot. Suddenly, the car comes to a screeching halt and my dad says "Where did you get that young man?" --- knowing full well I had gotten it in the store and it was not paid for. He marched me right back in that store and made me walk up to the the manager at the cash register and admit what I had done. When we got home I was given a zillion chores to do around the house for the rest of my Saturday afternoon and no TV the whole weekend. Needless to say, I never stole again.
  • commoncoll

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    Aug 23, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    Public humiliation works quite well. The mother had really tried all that and it didn't work. This probably will.

    My mother would have just beaten me black and blue.
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    Aug 23, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    Good for her! I would have had my ass beat if I had done this! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 23, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    Public Humiliation is one thing having a kid sit in the hot sun is another...given that the family was at a water park it during the summer. That's child abuse. What if this kid had suffer a sun stroke or sun burn.
    As result of this kind parenting, you'all would be "up-in-arms"
    If I had witnessed this I would have called CPS as well. I also would have let them know I was doing it!

    That's prolly why the bystander called! I assumed the kid had no lunch or water while his family was yards a grubbing down. Give a FREAKIN BREAK!

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  • JP85257

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    Aug 23, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    http://www.bakersfield.com/news/columnist/henry/x254542051/Shaving-childs-head-isnt-abuse-Seriously

    Just like this chick.

    I bet the little asshole will never steal again just like this little bitch wont be lying again anytime soon.


    OH and other people need to mind their business on how people raise their kids. I say as long as there was not a sever beating then things are fine.
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 23, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    If you have to publically humiliate/shame your child because of their wrong doing,you`ve failed as a parent.
    I`ve seen parents do this and it made no difference.All that happened was the child was even more embittered against the parent!
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    Aug 23, 2011 4:39 PM GMT
    Lincsbear saidIf you have to publically humiliate/shame your child because of their wrong doing,you`ve failed as a parent.
    I`ve seen parents do this and it made no difference.All that happened was the child was even more embittered against the parent!


    Then good for her for at least trying. In 8 years he will be the governments problem and they can try their methods.
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    Aug 23, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Seriously this women is a bad parent but not for what she did. Did anyone read the article?

    She complains about how the son steals all the time, then she lets the son go to the store in order to buy stuff for her by himself, and she is SHOCKED that the son stole something! Jesus christ lady you said it yourself, he has a problem, so you put him in a store by himself for him to steal? My God, talk about moronic!

    Its like this "Sir, this wolf keeps eating my sheeps. So one day, I had to do stuff, so I let the wolf watch over the sheeps for me, and when I came back HE ATE THE FUCKING SHEEP!"

    No shit he ate the sheep, dont put the wolf in a situation where he can eat the sheep if he cant control himself.

    The kid is 10, he doesnt know any better, all he wants is the biggest gain he can get for himself today no matter what the consequences are.
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    Aug 23, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    At Ducky47 ,

    This scene was taking place in Townsville QLD , Australia .
    This is my home-town , and at the present , it is still winter here . Our winters are very similar to the Florida winters , so she wasn't exposing her child to heat exhaustion or sunburn .

    Now , the mother is mad "as a cut snake" because her son is a little thief , but what she did wasn't child abuse , it was strict parenting ....The child wasn't facing any dangers , and she was staying next to him . The problem is that she knew her son's tendancy to steal , she should have been with him in the store , this is a lack of responsability of her part ,
    It is time for parents to take responsabilites for the way their children behave , sorry guys , but in my line work , i witness everyday children behaving badly , and most of their parents ignore their behaviour !!!
  • Lincsbear

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    Aug 23, 2011 4:48 PM GMT
    Too late by then.She`s made a small problem bigger....and passed on the responsibility to the government.
    She sounds either desperate or dumb.
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    Aug 23, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidGood for her. Nice to see a parent take some responsibility instead of blaming everyone except their precious kid.


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    Aug 23, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    AT Neff!

    She was not staying nearby what does that even mean?

    The article clearly states!

    "The boy spent almost an hour on Sunday near a popular waterpark in Townsville while his family ate lunch nearby".

    Are you kidding me with this!

    I stand by my earlier statement! I hope you never have children!


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    Aug 23, 2011 5:09 PM GMT
    neffa saidAt Ducky47 ,

    This scene was taking place in Townsville QLD , Australia .
    This is my home-town , and at the present , it is still winter here . Our winters are very similar to the Florida winters , so she wasn't exposing her child to heat exhaustion or sunburn .

    Now , the mother is mad "as a cut snake" because her son is a little thief , but what she did wasn't child abuse , it was strict parenting ....The child wasn't facing any dangers , and she was staying next to him . The problem is that she knew her son's tendancy to steal , she should have been with him in the store , this is a lack of responsability of her part ,
    It is time for parents to take responsabilites for the way their children behave , sorry guys , but in my line work , i witness everyday children behaving badly , and most of their parents ignore their behaviour !!!


    The mother is stupid as fuck man. Who lets a child who you know has a stealing problem go to the store by himself? He is a fucking child, he doesnt know better! Jesus christ.
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    Aug 23, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    When my brother was caught shoplifting, he got spanked so hard his ass and legs were bleeding.
    THAT is child abuse.
    THIS is not.
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    Aug 23, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidWhen my brother was caught shoplifting, he got spanked so hard his ass and legs were bleeding.
    THAT is child abuse.
    THIS is not.


    I agree. Sounds like the mother came up with a creative way to punish her child.
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    Aug 23, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    This is not child abuse. Humiliation, unlike what the woman Diane Mayer says in the article, is not permanent. Neither is physical abuse, for that matter, but child protective services has real grounds for intervention if you physically harm your child. This humiliation is temporary, and if it means he becomes a productive, thoughtful citizen she has done a great thing.

    For the posters above who say, if she has to resort to this she's already failed as a parent, Jesus Christ, wise the fuck up. Kids don't come with an instruction manual, and if the mother has failed in the past but finds success with this she has NOT failed as a parent. Parents fail when they stop trying to be a good parent.
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    Aug 23, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    I agree with the Mother's actions. This extream problem called for extream action. This kid must learn that what he did is wrong and he must pay for the crime. For all of you out there that think this was to harsh, Whats the kid going to be like in 10 or 15 years? It's high time that parents here in America take responsibility for there kids too.
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    Aug 23, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    There is more than one way to do harm to a child....there is such a thing a "MENTAL CHILD ABUSE"! I help raise 4 of my sisters children while she worked. I never have and never would resort to something as stupid as this!
    I never yelled at them nor did ever spank them, and when the got out of line with me I corrected them once and that was it!

    This article mention nothing about the actions of the father where the heck is he!
  • BeingThePhoen...

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    Aug 23, 2011 8:18 PM GMT
    Back in the day when spankings were acceptable, my sister used to throw hiss fits in the middle of stores and shops EVERY TIME she went in, because she didn't get what she wanted. Mom tried bargaining, begging, pleading and then spanking, but nothing worked. Finally my sister threw a hiss fit in the middle of a crowded grocery store, but this time instead of taking her home for a spanking, she spanked her right in the middle of the store.

    She never did it again.

    I am no fan of corporal punishment for children, but public humiliation certainly is effective.
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    Aug 23, 2011 8:19 PM GMT



    She's a crappy parent, as pointed out earlier. She tossed him directly into temptation.
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    Aug 23, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    meninlove said


    She's a crappy parent, as pointed out earlier. She tossed him directly into temptation.

    You can't be sure he has learned his lesson, unless he is tempted to do it again.