When kids bring up same-sex marriage

  • metta

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    Aug 24, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    When kids bring up same-sex marriage

    http://www.cnn.com/2011/LIVING/08/23/kids.explain.samesex.parents/index.html


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    Parenting expert Betsy Brown Braun said, "There is nothing loaded about this for kids ... it is loaded for parents, as it challenges our ability to discuss our own feelings ... we are all victims of the attitudes and worlds in which we were raised."

    Braun says how parents approach the topic of difference and how they communicate that to their children will either teach them to accept difference or not.

    Braun, the author of "You're Not the Boss of Me: Brat-proofing Your Four- to Twelve-Year-Old Child," also stressed that when the subject of same-sex couples arises it need not be a conversation about sexuality or reproduction, but instead about diversity.

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    Noah's dad went on to say, "Adults get nervous about talking about it because they're thinking the kids are talking about sex." (Just as I had that day in the car.) "It's not about sex," he said, "It's about interpersonal relationships."
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    Dr. Gloria Walther, author and director of the Walther Pre-School in Los Angeles, advises that when we speak to our young children, "We use a larger brush stroke to define family. The true thing is a family is made up of adults and children that love and trust. That intimate circle of family is defined by the people in it."
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  • smudgedude

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    Aug 24, 2011 4:09 AM GMT
    i think there's a lot of truth to that.

    also, i guess part of it is that the assumption might be made that if you explain it to your child in a way they can comprehend, it might imply your approval of it. like if you were able to explain it in such a way, it might come off like you're okay with the issue.
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    Aug 24, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    My 11 yo daughter keeps asking me and my boyfriend to PLEASE get married. She's crazy about him. My 15 yo daughter told me to please NOT break up with him ever. Everyone is crazy about him, including me...he's a keeper and its obvious even though we've only dated for 9 weeks so far. We are in love icon_smile.gif So clearly my kids and friends don't have an issue with gay marriage or gay anything. They can see how much we love each other and accept that people are either gay or straight. Pretty simple.
  • JP85257

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    Aug 24, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    So its basically telling parents WHAT to say.

    Thats cool....
  • metta

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    Aug 24, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
    billyboystl saidMy 11 yo daughter keeps asking me and my boyfriend to PLEASE get married. She's crazy about him. My 15 yo daughter told me to please NOT break up with him ever. Everyone is crazy about him, including me...he's a keeper and its obvious even though we've only dated for 9 weeks so far. We are in love icon_smile.gif So clearly my kids and friends don't have an issue with gay marriage or gay anything. They can see how much we love each other and accept that people are either gay or straight. Pretty simple.


    9 weeks...wow...that is moving fast. I don't think that I could fall in love with someone that quickly. It would probably take me at least a couple of years.
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    Aug 25, 2011 4:28 AM GMT

    9 weeks...wow...that is moving fast. I don't think that I could fall in love with someone that quickly. It would probably take me at least a couple of years.[/quote]

    I've been on plenty of dates and by the 3rd hour of the 1st date i was blown away and by the 3rd date i knew he was the one...never happened to me before...we both have never felt this way with anyone else.
  • metta

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    Aug 25, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
    billyboystl said
    9 weeks...wow...that is moving fast. I don't think that I could fall in love with someone that quickly. It would probably take me at least a couple of years.


    I've been on plenty of dates and by the 3rd hour of the 1st date i was blown away and by the 3rd date i knew he was the one...never happened to me before...we both have never felt this way with anyone else.[/quote]

    Congratulations!