What is "Open Relationship (play together only)?"

  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    I've seen several profiles saying "Open Relationship (play together only)." Isn't that a contridiction? I thought an open relationship was when you're allowed to play around with others. So, I guess what I'm asking is, what's the point of an open relationship if you can only play with your partner? Isn't that the same as a monogomous relationship?
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    Yeah, what is that?


    I think it means that they will sleep with you but they BOTH have to sleep with you at the same time. Right?icon_surprised.gif
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi has it - they basically will invite other people to play sexually, but only with them as a couple, not individually. It's one of many possible agreements/arrangements people can have in an open relationship - that word "open" is a very big umbrella term.
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    Now that you mentioned it, that does seem logical. Thanks.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    Yay, thought so.


    So if I got in a relationship and wanted people to play video games then I could technically put "Open relationship (play together only)" if I wanted to play multiplayer with my partner and them.

    Thanks!!
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
    You're there to have sex, not participate in the grocery shopping or that fun weekend at the beach.
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    Soulasphyxi, can I play with you?






    Video games, of course.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:32 AM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidSoulasphyxi, can I play with you?






    Video games, of course.
    I was waiting for you to ask....

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    I've been in that type of relationship. Yeah, it means both guys are involved in any "extra-marital" playtime.
    It's not very fun, though, because most of the time we couldn't agree on a guy.
    He had different taste from me, and vice versa.

    The only good part was that with differing tastes, the only time we matched up was when the guy was totally smoking hot. icon_cool.gif
  • ohioguy12

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    Yea, my next question was gonna be how difficult is it to find a 3rd party? Open relationships aren't my style, but the guys I go for, and the guys who like me are completely different.
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    Aug 24, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    It means they have sex with other people now and then but only when they're together.

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    Aug 24, 2011 3:45 AM GMT
    It means.. 1.. ah, ah.. 2.. ah, ah.. 3! Three way sex!

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    Aug 24, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    xrichx saidIt means.. 1.. ah, ah.. 2.. ah, ah.. 3! Three way sex!

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    it means 3 ways... or spice up my miserable life that my partner is frigid.... or be our toy tonight ;) ... or fuck both of us that two bottom's together have a hard time housekeeping silicon appliances all days...

    funny... where are all the good single men ?


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    Aug 24, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou're there to have sex, not participate in the grocery shopping or that fun weekend at the beach.


    Exactly. You're an invited guest to come play, enjoy...then go.
  • bennyboo

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    Aug 24, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    I would think that this would cause lots of jealousy... cause if bf 1 gives to much attention to the 3rd party it might cause bf 2 to get jealous or vise versa...
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    Aug 24, 2011 8:20 AM GMT
    Open relationship = two guys moved too quickly in their relationship, moved in together, and realized it's too difficult to break up and decide who gets what in the divorce, so they remain together but screw other people and, occassionally, each other. "Play together only" usually means one party is trying to create the illusion of committment for the other party, but is often more than happy to make arrangements to not play together, so long as the first party doesn't know about said arrangement.
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    Aug 24, 2011 8:41 AM GMT
    I'm ashamed this site even has that option

    sometimes ashamed gay couples r "ok' with that
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    Aug 24, 2011 12:46 PM GMT
    Q: What is "Open Relationship (play together only)?"

    A: A couple that should never be unleashed onto unsuspecting single people.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:06 PM GMT
    bennyboo saidI would think that this would cause lots of jealousy... cause if bf 1 gives to much attention to the 3rd party it might cause bf 2 to get jealous or vise versa...


    Its something that I have seen as a 3rd only. Not with my partner.
    I can do either or..
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete saidQ: What is "Open Relationship (play together only)?"

    A: A couple that should never be unleashed onto unsuspecting single people.


    You're right, they're evil vampires with mind control powers trying to suck the life force out of you. icon_rolleyes.gif

    As with anything you don't want to do, it's really easy to say, no thank you.
  • zenmonkie

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    Aug 24, 2011 1:27 PM GMT
    ScottSometimes saidOpen relationship = two guys moved too quickly in their relationship, moved in together, and realized it's too difficult to break up and decide who gets what in the divorce, so they remain together but screw other people and, occassionally, each other. "Play together only" usually means one party is trying to create the illusion of committment for the other party, but is often more than happy to make arrangements to not play together, so long as the first party doesn't know about said arrangement.


    That's an extremely narrow-minded view, one assuming that every such couple has the emotional and sexual maturity of teenagers. Maybe that's how it would be with you if you were in such a relationship, but not everyone. Just because a couple is in an play together open relationship doesn't mean they're both backstabbing whores.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:50 PM GMT
    Single = a guy who is so self centered and emotionally crippled that he is unable to share his life with anyone else, and if someone actually gets close he usually scares them away with his extreme insecurity which he masks with an obnoxious arrogance that manifests itself as excessive judgments of all those around him.
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    Aug 24, 2011 1:55 PM GMT
    theantijock saidWhat is "Open Relationship (play together only)?

    It means that not all commitments require the indulgence of jealousy.


    QFT.

    I am saddened yet again by how quickly members of an oppressed and judged group turn their own judgement on others for, of all things, their bedroom practices. icon_sad.gif

    I used to be fairly judgmental of open relationships until I got the opportunity to get involved in one as the "on the side" guy. I learned a LOT about how they actually work, and I'm pretty sure that these two people had much better communication skills and clearer boundaries and agreements with each other than most "monogamous" couples (of any sex) do.
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    Aug 24, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
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    TroyAthlete saidQ: What is "Open Relationship (play together only)?"

    A: A couple that should never be unleashed onto unsuspecting single people.


    You're right, they're evil vampires with mind control powers trying to suck the life force out of you. icon_rolleyes.gif

    As with anything you don't want to do, it's really easy to say, no thank you.


    Like 'no thank you ever' stopped these open relationship vampire-predators.

    Everybody knows you need holy water, a stake through the heart, an all-consuming fire, or to find and decapitate the head vampire (George Michael?). icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 24, 2011 7:42 PM GMT
    aeois saidSingle = a guy who is so self centered and emotionally crippled that he is unable to share his life with anyone else, and if someone actually gets close he usually scares them away with his extreme insecurity which he masks with an obnoxious arrogance that manifests itself as excessive judgments of all those around him.


    I love how in this post you are extremely judgmental of single people, yet you accuse them of being judgmental as a negative.

    Hypocrite much?